Do people waiting for perfect mates think they are already a perfect mate?

[zeroturbulence]

Here are some questions that I'm afraid to ask but will ask anyway...


If you are waiting for the "perfect mate" to come along:

1) Why do u think God should send you a perfect mate?

2) Do u think that you will automatically be that person's perfect mate?

3) If people have freewill, how does God "shape" people into perfect mates for someone else?

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Hi Zero

These are really good questions.


1) Im not waiting for ''Perfect'' I dont want perfect. I cant stand perfect. ''Perfect'' is judgemental, its boring, its critical, and its always looking for perfection.
Im praying God doesnt send me any of the above, because i wouldnt stand a chance.


2) I dont think i will be anyones perfect anything.



3) I dont think God shapes people into perfect mates for others, if he did that what would we need him for.We would have everything in this ''perfect'' mate of ours, personally I want God to shape someone to my imperfections, and i want to be shaped to theirs. I need to be human with someone.

I cringe when people talk about this perfect mate there praying for, It's not at all realistic. It will only lead to dissapointment in marriage and dating when they find out their spouse isnt perhaps perfect for them in every way.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I'm right with you on those, Nod.

 

[Jullianna]

If you are waiting for the "perfect mate" to come along:

1) Why do u think God should send you a perfect mate? If/when God sends me a mate, he won't BE perfect because God knows that I am not (no one is and it's unrealistic to expect that). He WILL be the one that God thought to be perfect for me though, as sometimes what we REALLY need and what we THINK we need are two very different things. We should be open to possibilities we haven't previously considered at times. It's hard for someone to enter our lives when the doors are not only closed, they are locked.

2) Do u think that you will automatically be that person's perfect mate? Absolutely not. Hopefully, he will know that as well and be willing to change and grow WITH me. It's a life-long process. Jesus meets us where we are. People who truly love us are willing to do the same.

3) If people have freewill, how does God "shape" people into perfect mates for someone else? By showing them thoughts, preconceived notions, behaviors and perhaps even prejudices that aren't good for us/are unrealistic that need to be surrendered to the Lord, and healing past hurts and situations that would be harmful if carried into a new relationship.

 

[NukePooch]

To not respond at all to the original question, but rather just make an observation...

1. Reading the title of the thread, I KNEW that NodMyHeadLikeYeahMagnusEricsson (apparently she's now Icelandic) would be the first to reply.

2. She was.

3. She surprised me, as usual, by not simply replying 'YES!!!'.

4. Mind=blown. That is all.


Zero? Curious...Why were you 'afraid to ask'?

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Dear Nuke,



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[zeroturbulence]

3) If people have freewill, how does God "shape" people into perfect mates for someone else? By showing them thoughts, preconceived notions, behaviors and perhaps even prejudices that aren't good for us/are unrealistic that need to be surrendered to the Lord, and healing past hurts and situations that would be harmful if carried into a new relationship.

Interesting answer.

Zero? Curious...Why were you 'afraid to ask'?

Because some of my other polls seemed to offend some people, causing my approval rating to sink like Obama's.


Nod, I love your new avatar!

 

[NukePooch]

Because some of my other polls seemed to offend some people, causing my approval rating to sink like Obama's.


Nod, I love your new avatar!

...and when has that stopped you before, Zero? (Note: Don't stop due to what people might think...some of us look forward to a breath of fresh California air...)

Nod? I like the avatar as well. Matches your national flag. This week.

 

[GreenNnice]

I think a good, Q, zere, er, questions, or, I mean, what I really mean is a question followed by a question and a question and a question is a good thread with many answers made by you here others, Including nods and julieannie and the humor too, dryly wrought by nuked

Well, what I'm perfectly trying to say here, trying, is to say that we humans make mistakes all the times, we don't have a chance of EVER being perfect (which is meaning sinning no more) because Jesus was the only person ever who was sinless, without sin, he, as a human on planet Earth, was perfect.

Someone who is game can find scripture in the bible stating this fact too and I paraphrase what Jesús said after others brought Him to Mary Magdalene, who was a prostitute: He who is without sin among you, you large crowd of gatherers , and ye who be perfect , you then get to go up in her face now and scream, SINNER!

Needless to say, no one said anything.

All the sudden the crowd's perfect thinking was made out for what each one of them be: wretched.

--God never says anywhere in scripture we are to be perfect , He already knows we can't be. Therefore, we are to strive to be like Jesús I think scripture says. God says in scripture to somewhere my point that we are made to do GOOD and not be PERFECT.

He who began a good work in you will complete it, scripture says and that's a direct quote pretty much.

 

[NukePooch]

I think a good, Q, zere, er, questions, or, I mean, what I really mean is a question followed by a question and a question and a question is a good thread with many answers made by you here others, Including nods and julieannie and the humor too, dryly wrought by nuked

Excuse me? I happen to think my humor is rather moist.

 

[persecuted]

Here are some questions that I'm afraid to ask but will ask anyway...


If you are waiting for the "perfect mate" to come along:

1) Why do u think God should send you a perfect mate?

2) Do u think that you will automatically be that person's perfect mate?

3) If people have freewill, how does God "shape" people into perfect mates for someone else?

Answers:

1. Because I really haven't been such a bad guy.... and I suppose if God wanted me to reach my full potential he would give me this perfect partner that would help me achieve that.

2. I would think if they are God sent they would be crafted like a finely tuned puzzle piece to fit me and no one else. So, yes.

3. I doubt that God has anything to do with who we date or marry.

Now I will lob back question #4 to you....

Isn't there something defeating about these questions? It sounds to me like an argument to settle for the first thing that comes along and make due and to pretend that somehow doing such is what God wants us to do.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

...and when has that stopped you before, Zero? (Note: Don't stop due to what people might think...some of us look forward to a breath of fresh California air...)

Nod? I like the avatar as well. Matches your national flag. This week.

Thank you nuke and thank you Zero!

 

[GreenNnice]

Moist.

Yes, very choice word there. Cut. Indeed, nuked. Nice and fluffy, perfectly spoken , and, even, so to speak, cold and icy

 

[zeroturbulence]

...and when has that stopped you before, Zero? (Note: Don't stop due to what people might think...some of us look forward to a breath of fresh California air...)

Nod? I like the avatar as well. Matches your national flag. This week.

Thanks a lot Aaron, and you are right, but in my case I really don't handle negativity well so I am going to be a wuss for now.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Now I will lob back question #4 to you....

Isn't there something defeating about these questions? It sounds to me like an argument to settle for the first thing that comes along and make due and to pretend that somehow doing such is what God wants us to do.

I think most people would agree that you are overlooking a very wide range of choices between a "perfect mate" and "the first person who comes along".

 

[thimsrebma]

When I think of the phrase "perfect mate" I dont think about someone who is perfect. First of all there is no such thing. And a person who is a perfectionist is usually judgemental of themselves and others.

What I do equate to a "perfect mate" is someone who is just right for me. So while I am waiting for God's perfect mate for me I know I am going to be his perfect mate too. Not that I am perfect for him already but God is working the kinks out so tha we will be "perfect" for each other when we finally do meet or realize we are supposed to be together.

 

[thimsrebma]

And for #4

Yes we have free will but just like for everything else in life, if we want to be in God;s will we put other things aside. We allow God to change us when we want His will and are walking in the Spirit. Many times we are being changed without realizing it. Some of those changes are going to help us with our mates.

 

[persecuted]

I think most people would agree that you are overlooking a very wide range of choices between a "perfect mate" and "the first person who comes along".

Probably, but then this all becomes so hypothetical it loses its real life relevance as I doubt anyone really believes that there is such thing as a perfect mate.

 

[Jullianna]

By showing them thoughts, preconceived notions, behaviors and perhaps even prejudices that aren't good for us/are unrealistic that need to be surrendered to the Lord, and healing past hurts and situations that would be harmful if carried into a new relationship.

Interesting answer.

Sometimes we think we know who we are and what we need, and sometimes we're very wrong. And many times what other people think might be good for us is very wrong as well because they don't really know us.

Sometimes we place restrictions on ourselves in so many ways. For some it's distance. For some it's race. For some it's age. For some it's experience. So many different things. And we may very well miss what's right in front of us.

Sometimes people have failed relationship after failed relationship because they are more interested in being in a relationship..any relationship..than they are in being in the RIGHT relationship with the right person, so they never take a step back and question why, and continue to set themselves up to fail.

And then SOMETIMES ..reality slaps you.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

And then SOMETIMES ..reality slaps you

Amen to that