I attract the wrong kind of guys. I've dated guys that I'm probably not supposed to, but only because I've never attracted Christian guys,I read a book called Redeeming Love by Frances Rivers where the man was meant to marry a Prostitute.At the end she learned of God's love and too became a Christian. Anyway, I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm not meant to get married. I have a nice personality, but guys just seem to want one thing from me and when I don't give it to them, they stop talking to me. Am I supposed to keep waiting? I want to get married and have kids, but it doesn't look like it's going to happen. I know, I'm young but something in my heart really tells me that I'm meant to be alone forever. I sometimes get depressed seeing all my friends and roommates at school having boyfriends that are Christians and I have no one. They've evenmade jokes about making me a profile on Christianmingle.com. They think it's funny and I laugh on the outside, but on the inside I feel left out, unwanted, unloved and ugly. Idon't want to have to use that resort. Will God send someone for me or should I just give up and adopt kids? I get depressed about this on a regular basis and I'm just tired and ready for answers. I would go to my Pastor, but he would prophesize on me...and I think that I might be right. I would rather be right and not know then to be right and know for sure that I'm right.Please help with any advice you may have.
Does God have a special someone for everyone?
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K
I know that probably a lot of people had told you this but....you are still young. Have faith in God, don't be discouraged because He knows your needs. He does things at his time and when He considers is good for you. Maybe He is waiting for you to focus in Him and then He will provide you with better things, and maybe a husband if He sees you need one
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Be patient and have faith, I know is hard sometimes when everyone in the world seems to have a boyfriend. I felt like you sometimes because all of my friends had a bf and I'm the only one who never had one. But now I realize a boyfriend doesn't complete me, so I'd better be patient.
Cheer upp! =)
.Be patient and have faith, I know is hard sometimes when everyone in the world seems to have a boyfriend. I felt like you sometimes because all of my friends had a bf and I'm the only one who never had one. But now I realize a boyfriend doesn't complete me, so I'd better be patient.
Cheer upp! =)
I
So....Chisa_08, I'm having the same struggles like you right now and we're almost the same age. I thought the same exact thing. But do you realize we're only 20? The problem is that this world is so messed up. Girls start dating at 14, 15 which is waaaaaaay to early. When they're 20, so 5 years later they are so frustrated disappointed, that they give up on God.
I know it's so cliche-ish, but trust God on this. He knows better than you. God takes account of your desires and wishes. He gives you what you need. But right now, you have to focus on God. You have to come to the point, where HE gets all your attention, all your affection, all you can give, so that HE can become the love of your life.
Boys fail you, but God never does. You are created to be a bride, a princess. HE is the noble prince, you've alway dreamed of.
God created us that way. With that desire to be chased, to fall in love with somebody so hard, that we couldn't life without him. To feel loved and appreciated and beautiful and to give and be submitted and devoted to him completely. The sad thing is that this world tells us that we can find something like that in this world, with a human man. But let me tell you this: THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!
The only one, who can fill that hole, is God and only Him.
You feel unloved, unwanted and ugly? Satan is lying to you. He's a liar. Why would you believe a liar. God says: You are wonderfully made, marvellous (see Psalm 139). God is truth. Satan says: You are unwanted, you are unloved, you are ugly. But he is the father of lies. Why would you believe him?
It was like that from the very beginning. God said: Don't eat from that tree unless you wanna die. Satan didn't even had the courage to come before Eve. He used the snake's body to come and tell her: Did God reallly say that. I mean common, God just doesn't want you to knwo the truth and be like him. He didn't go to Adam. He went to Eve. Why? Because we girls are so emotinonal, so impressable, so vulnerable.
Don't listen to the lies.
Listen to what God says about you. He calls you right now. He calls you to a different kind of beauty. Not the beauty that the world says is standard. You are called to be the Temple of His Spirit. To shine His light. To be that princess, that He created you to be.
Just focus on God right now and He will bless you in a way you can't even imagine. You have to focus on becomming His vessel. And you have to prepare for your husband. Don't let your husband wait any longer than neccessary. Pray for him. Pray for God to keep him pure, pray that He will guard his heart for you. Prepare to be the wife your husband needs. Trust God. I know it's hard, when you don't know His plan and don't see, what He's going to do....But again: TRUST GOD!!!!
You are beautiful, wanted and loved.....and God is thinking about you, right now!
BIG LOVE
I know it's so cliche-ish, but trust God on this. He knows better than you. God takes account of your desires and wishes. He gives you what you need. But right now, you have to focus on God. You have to come to the point, where HE gets all your attention, all your affection, all you can give, so that HE can become the love of your life.
Boys fail you, but God never does. You are created to be a bride, a princess. HE is the noble prince, you've alway dreamed of.
God created us that way. With that desire to be chased, to fall in love with somebody so hard, that we couldn't life without him. To feel loved and appreciated and beautiful and to give and be submitted and devoted to him completely. The sad thing is that this world tells us that we can find something like that in this world, with a human man. But let me tell you this: THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!
The only one, who can fill that hole, is God and only Him.
You feel unloved, unwanted and ugly? Satan is lying to you. He's a liar. Why would you believe a liar. God says: You are wonderfully made, marvellous (see Psalm 139). God is truth. Satan says: You are unwanted, you are unloved, you are ugly. But he is the father of lies. Why would you believe him?
It was like that from the very beginning. God said: Don't eat from that tree unless you wanna die. Satan didn't even had the courage to come before Eve. He used the snake's body to come and tell her: Did God reallly say that. I mean common, God just doesn't want you to knwo the truth and be like him. He didn't go to Adam. He went to Eve. Why? Because we girls are so emotinonal, so impressable, so vulnerable.
Don't listen to the lies.
Listen to what God says about you. He calls you right now. He calls you to a different kind of beauty. Not the beauty that the world says is standard. You are called to be the Temple of His Spirit. To shine His light. To be that princess, that He created you to be.
Just focus on God right now and He will bless you in a way you can't even imagine. You have to focus on becomming His vessel. And you have to prepare for your husband. Don't let your husband wait any longer than neccessary. Pray for him. Pray for God to keep him pure, pray that He will guard his heart for you. Prepare to be the wife your husband needs. Trust God. I know it's hard, when you don't know His plan and don't see, what He's going to do....But again: TRUST GOD!!!!
You are beautiful, wanted and loved.....and God is thinking about you, right now!
BIG LOVE
Thanks for this. I really needed to hear this and I feel so much better. I know that i've probably drifted from God and that could be why I've been letting this get to me. I'm just going to wait on whoever he has for me because I do believe that I need to go back to putting all of my attention on Him.
G
Please keep relying on the Lord in all things, I pray your mind is clear and understand that even though we go through hard times, it doesn't mean God isn't working on us, it's then He is working on us even more. I'm 27 and single. I've been through a broken engagement and now ended my previous relationship about 10 months ago because my girlfriend had a calling to be a lawyer. I've never loved any woman as I love her and believe she is the one for me, but am willing to give her up to the Lord. Keep your eyes on God because He may be wanting to work on you before He reveals the right man in your life.
Gary
Saved by His Grace and Love
Gary
Saved by His Grace and Love
I
This is PERFECT! This is an irony for your namee...very well said
Why irony? I'm imperfect....and I also had to tell all that myself, cause I feel the exact same thing like Chisa_08. But Praise God, His grace has saved me
I had a bf til last week. It was a distance relationship. Every night, he used to call me. We would talk, and after a while we would curl up in our beds and fall asleep together. I would wake up and he would still be there with me.
After he broke up....the firtst night was sooo horrible. I had to go to sleep alllll alone....I woke up a several times....crying...feeling so lonely.
I cried so much during the day and I asked God to help me. And I said: From now on, I'm not going to sleep alone anymore. NEVER EVER.
So the next night I curled up in bed with Jesus. He held me during the night. He kissed me to sleep. When I would wake up and thought I was alone....He was there, stroking my hair and putting me to sleep again.
I woke up and He was still there with me. It was sooo much better. So much more satisfying.
I LOVE GOD
K
Why irony? I'm imperfect....and I also had to tell all that myself, cause I feel the exact same thing like Chisa_08. But Praise God, His grace has saved me
I had a bf til last week. It was a distance relationship. Every night, he used to call me. We would talk, and after a while we would curl up in our beds and fall asleep together. I would wake up and he would still be there with me.
After he broke up....the firtst night was sooo horrible. I had to go to sleep alllll alone....I woke up a several times....crying...feeling so lonely.
I cried so much during the day and I asked God to help me. And I said: From now on, I'm not going to sleep alone anymore. NEVER EVER.
So the next night I curled up in bed with Jesus. He held me during the night. He kissed me to sleep. When I would wake up and thought I was alone....He was there, stroking my hair and putting me to sleep again.
I woke up and He was still there with me. It was sooo much better. So much more satisfying.
I LOVE GOD
I had a bf til last week. It was a distance relationship. Every night, he used to call me. We would talk, and after a while we would curl up in our beds and fall asleep together. I would wake up and he would still be there with me.
After he broke up....the firtst night was sooo horrible. I had to go to sleep alllll alone....I woke up a several times....crying...feeling so lonely.
I cried so much during the day and I asked God to help me. And I said: From now on, I'm not going to sleep alone anymore. NEVER EVER.
So the next night I curled up in bed with Jesus. He held me during the night. He kissed me to sleep. When I would wake up and thought I was alone....He was there, stroking my hair and putting me to sleep again.
I woke up and He was still there with me. It was sooo much better. So much more satisfying.
I LOVE GOD
Jesus will never let you down, God bless you imperfection
R
I totally understand what you are going through. I think that churches do not teach Christian men how to approach Christian women, so they
feel more comfortable dating the world, because they know that game. I will be praying for you. I know that God blessed me with a great Christian
man that died 2 years ago. I have entered the dating world again, and found that Christian men are afraid to date Christian women, because they
are afraid of committment and marriage. Unsaved women are just glad for whatever they get in most cases. A great teacher called Tony Evans said
that if God did not want you to have the desire, he would certainly take it away. I grabbed on to that information, and God bought my husband in
the next few months. My friend wanted to visit him in the hospital to pray for him, and I knew instantly that he was the one, and so did he. he is gone now, and I have to trust God again. My prayers are with you. Don't give up. Ask God to prepare you, maybe you are not ready yet in God's eyes.
feel more comfortable dating the world, because they know that game. I will be praying for you. I know that God blessed me with a great Christian
man that died 2 years ago. I have entered the dating world again, and found that Christian men are afraid to date Christian women, because they
are afraid of committment and marriage. Unsaved women are just glad for whatever they get in most cases. A great teacher called Tony Evans said
that if God did not want you to have the desire, he would certainly take it away. I grabbed on to that information, and God bought my husband in
the next few months. My friend wanted to visit him in the hospital to pray for him, and I knew instantly that he was the one, and so did he. he is gone now, and I have to trust God again. My prayers are with you. Don't give up. Ask God to prepare you, maybe you are not ready yet in God's eyes.
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