Top 5 reasons why initial attraction fails.

[Liamson]

This is not an Objective Biblical standard by which all men should find themselves justified.

This is just me and I've come to the conclusion that I'm crazy and craziness is better shared than kept secret. These are my reasons why I don't want to get to know someone more, at first introduction.

1. She is big enough that I don't think she'll grow out of it.

2. She is short enough that I can't really look in her eyes without feeling awkward.

3. She clearly took too much time in the powder room. Long nails with glitter, sparkling eye shadow, and clearly awkward and painful shoes.

4. She does not seem at peace with herself. This is hard to explain but, along the same lines as Mary vs. Martha some women can't be still and talk.

5. She is one of the Ladies Gossip Circle. Being with her means, jockeying with her friends for time and knowing that perhaps I'm just an accessory, like a new pair of shoes. This and #3 seem related.


these are my initial detractions. What are yours?

 

[violakat]

Okay, my two main ones for men
1. Constantly talking about his ex, as if they are still together.
2. Monopolizing the conversation over one subject. (Especially if it's one I'm not all that interested in.)

Although, I think the men might say these would also go for women.

 

[Elizabeth619]

This is an interesting thread I will admit, and I will actually be serious in this one so I am not referred to ask a skank or some other degrading word like a certain CC said about me due to his inability to understand an uncomfortable situation I was in...anyway..

I do not like stupidity. If you cannot intrigue me in conversation then you will get nowhere.

Narcissism is not a good character trait for anyone. I don't care how physically handsome you really are. If you spend more time looking at a mirror than looking at me then that just isn't cool. I am NOT the type of female that judges someone on their outward appearance. Although I do appreciate a clean cut and well groomed guy.

Bad manners....I don't think I should elaborate on that one.

Vulgarity.

I will say that I am tall, and I don't lean towards men that are much shorter than I. I am 5'11, and I already have a slight insecurity about being tall due to the fact many people think I am automatically mean because I am tall. What is that?

 

[kayem77]

My top 5:
-Inability to start an interesting conversation and FOLLOW that same conversation.

- Poor hygiene

-Talking about women like if we were sexual toys or stupid.

- Whining about how the world is unfair and how everybody hurts you. Get over it!

- Excess of vanity and ego. I don't want to hear a man talking about how handsome, or great he is. I have to be prettiest one in the relationship .( I like a man who knows how to take care of himself though, I just don't like excess)

 

[allforfun]

1. I don't like men that monopolize a conversation.
2. I don't like men who can't follow a conversation though.
3. I don't like men that can't talk about things other than NASCAR, football or any other sport.
4. I don't like men think their opinion on every topic is so important it.must.be.heard.now.
5. I am short, I don't like men who point that out constantly.
6. I don't like men who can't make eye contact for at least 1/2 the conversation.
7. I don't like men who don't drive.

 

[zeroturbulence]

This thread is becoming very educational

 

[J0Y]

My top five...
1) Poor hygene
2) Those who acknowledge Jesus with their lips...then walk out the door and deny him by their lifestyle
3) A man who lacks direction/goals/dreams/visions
4) A man who discriminates or judges
5) A man who doesn't/won't lead in a relationship

 

[Jullianna]

I was tempted to copy Joy's list cos it's GREAT

But:
1. I'm gonna be taller than him in heels and he'll probably have a problem with that...
2. Bad manners/disrespect (Did he really just talk to his mom like that?)
3. Why can't we just have a nice conversation like normal people without you trying to impress me? (INSECURITY meter on tilt)
4. A good guy reaches for your hand, not your rear end
5. My face is up here

 

[J0Y]

Ha,ha,ha! Julliana your list is awesome too! Made me laugh but is so true! ;-)

 

[Elizabeth619]

I was tempted to copy Joy's list cos it's GREAT

But:
1. I'm gonna be taller than him in heels and he'll probably have a problem with that...
2. Bad manners/disrespect (Did he really just talk to his mom like that?)
3. Why can't we just have a nice conversation like normal people without you trying to impress me? (INSECURITY meter on tilt)
4. A good guy reaches for your hand, not your rear end
5. My face is up here

You have no idea how many times I have used this line.... :/

 

[persecuted]

1. Any girl that says she wants to be just like Oprah. I've already heard it a million times.
2. Any girl that says "I'm not the cheerleader (or Barbie) type." She just made me realize she's not so yeah, where is one?
3. Any girl who says "my face is up here!" I'm sorry, I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to them.Could you please butt out? In all seriousness, any girl that isn't completely snotty enjoys the occasional peak down the shirt, so if one gets upset by such she's probably too uppity or old anyhow. (Not that I have ever actually heard any female say that phrase to me. Trying so hard to hear it though.)
4. Any girl who is apparently so dumb she has to keep telling me how smart she is. Or is so ugly she needs to tell me how beautiful she is. I think both come out very readily and don't need to be said.
5. Any of the first meeting marriage heat seekers... the ones that ask about jobs/career/money/parents/siblings/cars in rapid succession. I think the answer to all of those questions was "hold on baby, what did you say your bra size was?"

 

[Elizabeth619]

1. Any girl that says she wants to be just like Oprah. I've already heard it a million times.
2. Any girl that says "I'm not the cheerleader (or Barbie) type." She just made me realize she's not so yeah, where is one?
3. Any girl who says "my face is up here!" I'm sorry, I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to them.Could you please butt out? In all seriousness, any girl that isn't completely snotty enjoys the occasional peak down the shirt, so if one gets upset by such she's probably too uppity or old anyhow. (Not that I have ever actually heard any female say that phrase to me. Trying so hard to hear it though.)
4. Any girl who is apparently so dumb she has to keep telling me how smart she is. Or is so ugly she needs to tell me how beautiful she is. I think both come out very readily and don't need to be said.
5. Any of the first meeting marriage heat seekers... the ones that ask about jobs/career/money/parents/siblings/cars in rapid succession. I think the answer to all of those questions was "hold on baby, what did you say your bra size was?"

Have you been smacked by alot of women?

 

[persecuted]

Have you been smacked by alot of women?

Its interesting of you to ask because no one in person ever seems to get mad at anything I say or do... just you internet types. I think its probably because I'm so funny looking everyone just goes with it.

Why, was there one of my points that you think might get women upset?

 

[Elizabeth619]

Its interesting of you to ask because no one in person ever seems to get mad at anything I say or do... just you internet types. I think its probably because I'm so funny looking everyone just goes with it.

Why, was there one of my points that you think might get women upset?

Certainly not. You are the perfect gentleman. Any girl would be lucky to have you.

 

[persecuted]

Certainly not. You are the perfect gentleman. Any girl would be lucky to have you.

Why thank you, that's exactly what I've been thinking lately.... and what mommy tells me.

I have a question for you.... I keep hearing this thing on the internet... and I've also seen these shirts. They say "my eyes are up here." BUT I'm not joking at all when I say I have never had any woman yet actually say that to me. And those t-shirts are almost always worn by extremely nerdy looking 12 year old girls who 1. haven't grown anything yet anyhow and 2. seem to be the type that is about two years behind their age group on being attracted to the opposite sex.

So now the question: have you or any woman out there really truly honestly for real said this to a guy? Because I so have never heard it and think I should have if it really happens. Could you tell me what demographic is most likely to say it so I can try to hear it? Its just such a fascinating concept. I think I'll dedicate the rest of the summer to trying to hear someone say that to me.

 

[GreenNnice]

I can't sleep so read some thread . This one, notice I didn't say 'read some THREADS MY, it's true I am weirder than my usual green-eyed, smiling, nice self at 3:52am, and, guess it's not so late really as early
But, liamsonline, good thread, bro, the ladies have imparted wise words to the men masses. I both like your point#4 about Mary and Martha (clever, but do u know which one pourt expansive perfume on Jesus ) I also incidentally disagree (what's new, eh? )with your interconnectedness of your points. The stirring-restlessness actions of some women relates point #5 with point #4 . But, again, that's me speaking , the editor in me.

Well, odd to see, too, that unless I missed something NO ONE (guy or gal) mentioned the very FIRST thing I find out before preceding any further in the relationship: Do you regularly WATCH late, late night talking-show host, Craig Ferguson ?

OK, kidding, JUST kidding.

My first question: Do you believe in God?

Maybe that's just me, but if that answer is anything but a 'Yes,' then the rest of the potential of a relationship is a FAIL.

OK, so why do, yaWN, perdón me, I'm starting to get sleepy again but , hmm, where was , Oh, Yes, I was givng 5 reasons why initial attraction fails.

1. See above answer

2. I find out she is a lot younger than me, like 20 years, Yes, I found that out after a girl went after me last summer.

3. I find out she is too shy

4. Our humor doesn't click, or, she uses God's name in vain. Either of which is death to our relationship, in most cases. The Lord leads. He can change my mind through Holy Spirit utterances.

5. Her career path is different than mine, she is hmmm, I am sleepy but just thought another good thread relatado to yours, liams.

~~~Greatzzzzz, thread can, like Heaven, in Warren Beatty's 1970s film, can waitzzzzzz

 

[zeroturbulence]

Do you regularly WATCH late, late night talking-show host, Craig Ferguson ?

OK, kidding, JUST kiddingz

Aha! I think I just found a key to understanding you a lot better, Ed! Your posts sound just like the way he talks!

 

[zeroturbulence]

I have a question for you.... I keep hearing this thing on the internet... and I've also seen these shirts. They say "my eyes are up here." BUT I'm not joking at all when I say I have never had any woman yet actually say that to me.

You will never hear a woman say that to you because they are saying it in their heads and they know that saying it out loud would be a bit confrontational and most women don't want to start a confrontation. The most you will ever hear is them clearing their throats to get you to pay attention.

 

[persecuted]

You will never hear a woman say that to you because they are saying it in their heads and they know that saying it out loud would be a bit confrontational and most women don't want to start a confrontation. The most you will ever hear is them clearing their throats to get you to pay attention.

Ahh, so women actually saying this to guys is in fact the urban legend I thought it was and then women llike to get together afterwards and all say to each other that they actually said it to some guy when they didn't. Fascinating. Now I need a woman disguise so I can infiltrate the sisterhood after the fact and hear if I got any such complaints.

 

[Ugly]

I thought about making a joke about the 'i'm up here' comment.. but after seeing Persecuteds comments, i'm glad i didn't make myself look like that.

1 - no smoking or drinking

2 - a lot of makeup/too caught up in trends/being fancy

3 - stupid. i don't consider myself a genius, but women lacking in intelligence annoy me.

4 - cold, closed off. i'm a very expressive person within a relationship. i am very physical and verbal about my feelings.. and enjoy finding other ways to express myself. and i also enjoy being expressed to.

5 - boring. i like someone who's a little challenging. pushes me to grow and change, not by them trying to, but just who they are.