Trying to wait

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KaylieJ

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I was just wondering what do guys look for in girls?
I am trying to wait on God but all of my friends have boyfriends and it is really hard to wait. It seems like all of the guys I like are taken. And they dont live near to me.
I have thought maybe it is because I tend to be very shy. That they dont seem interested in me. But I dont know.
 
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Really tall thin girls that look like they just stepped out of a magazine.......... They love women whose vocabulary consists of 2 syllable words, and short whinning sounds ... and a laugh that sounds more like the high pitched scream of a baby.... that any human sound you've heard...Twirling your hair around your finger till the circluation has been completely cut off from your entire arm is another winner.... I think what there looking for the most is a woman with a brain, but not TO much of one...... so reading OR writing are out of the question. Personality is a must to, so talking about shopping and getting your nails done insesintly is a good start.
 
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Men love women that are tan...... So i suggest laying out in the sun for long periods of time with no sunscreen... You should know your complete when your skin feels like it could crack open and bleed when you smile, ..... I believe chewing gum is one of the most important ways of landing a guy...... There is an art to this though..... You should smack loudly and with your mouth as wide open as possible.... You know your doing it right, when your chewing is drowning out whatever it is he's saying... (which more than likely isnt important anyways) Also clothing selection is very important......Really tight clothes are a must.... It doesnt matter if you can or cannot breathe.... remember men are looking for beauty above all, so sometimes sacrifices such as oxygen need to be made.
 
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1still_waters

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I know Jaylynn is kind of joking but there is some very sad truth to what she is saying.

You could probably do all those shallow things and bag a guy pretty easy, but that guy wouldn't be the best for you.

Just be yourself. Don't try to hide your true self behind a mask of shyness or a mask of a fake persona. A guy can't go for you if he can't see the real you.
 
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1still_waters said:
I know Jaylynn is kind of joking but there is some very sad truth to what she is saying.

You could probably do all those shallow things and bag a guy pretty easy, but that guy wouldn't be the best for you.

Just be yourself. Don't try to hide your true self behind a mask of shyness or a mask of a fake persona. A guy can't go for you if he can't see the real you.
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Exactly why i said it..... I believe men get more shallow as the days progress.... (no offense) Its sad that women feel they need to stoop to some of these levels to get a man that wont want you to eat anything but lettuce anyways...
 
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pinkstix56

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why be in a rush to have a boyfriend? is that all that matters these days? can't you wait on the Lord to perfect you? or is having a boyfriend more important than finding out who you are in Christ?
 
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become_the_generation

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dangggg jaylynn makin me feel bad!!! im not liek that!!! lol i would never want a girl that looked like she just stepped out of a magizine!
 
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become_the_generation said:
dangggg jaylynn makin me feel bad!!! im not liek that!!! lol i would never want a girl that looked like she just stepped out of a magizine!
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............ i didnt say that ALL men were like that........... just ones that breathe on a daily basis .....
 
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become_the_generation

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i know haha but still
 
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ohhhh dont worry i believe you................
 
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jaylynn83 said:
............ i didnt say that ALL men were like that........... just ones that breathe on a daily basis .....
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good thing i only breathe on bi-weekly basis or you r description might fgit me perfectly lol
 
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BrokenAndBeautiful

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The best thing to do is not to rush. Dont let getting a boyfriend be your main focus. hang out w/ ur friends, go 2 church activities, @ try 2 b social. Cuz odds r, the more social u r, the more ppl u will meet. And dont forget 2 pray about it! If its Gods will 4 u 2 meet Mr. Right... u will! He might have other plans 4 ur life right now! So dont feel pressured 2 rush into a relationship thats not what God wants 4 u! And BTW... its been my experience that not all guys r looking 4 the same thing in a girl! Ur gonna come across some shallow jerks, and some really cool, genuine guys! U just have 2 hang in there! :)
 
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KaylieJ

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Thanks everyone. When I said that it is hard to wait, I meant because I look around me and it seems like all of my friends have boyfriends. I am just beginning to feel like what is wrong wtih me why dont I have one. I know Gods timing is perfect. But sometimes it is just very hard to wait.
 
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Kakashi said:
good thing i only breathe on bi-weekly basis or you r description might fgit me perfectly lol
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See i find that most men breathe either on a daily basis or a every OTHER day basis........ you must be the freak out of the two lol
 
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Merryheart said:
So I noticed your 18. When you say your 'trying to wait'? Does this mean you are wanting marriage already? Or just a boyfriend? Because the whole purpose of a boyfriend is marriage right? I want to tell you to enjoy your youth and hang out with your friends (boys and girls in a group setting). There really is no hurry if you can put it in perspective.
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Listen to Merryheart. My mom is really, really happily married. She married at 26. She said that even if she'd married at a year earlier she wouldn't have been ready. I was at one point convinced I would be ready for marriage by the time I was 21. But I'm not so sure I would have been ready even at 26. Anyway, even though she was happily married she loved her years between high school and my dad. She went to university, lived in a dorm, worked as a waitress at a world expo, went to Europe with a friend. She said she wouldn't have traded those years for anything. She said you never get those years back. Like, she wouldn't go back to those years, obviously, but she was glad she had them. I have a guy friend who's a lot older than me. I could never understand why he never married. His older brother married at 18 and they were happy and everything, but my friend said that when he got married he had to work really hard to provide for his wife and (eventually) baby. So what I'm saying is, don't rush, you have the rest of you life (or more likely your husband's life) to be married. I think the worst is when someone marries too young and then they look at how other people had their early 20s to be single have fund and "find themselves" and then they wish they had that and blame their spouse.
 
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Ancilla

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KaylieJ said:
Thanks everyone. When I said that it is hard to wait, I meant because I look around me and it seems like all of my friends have boyfriends. I am just beginning to feel like what is wrong wtih me why dont I have one. I know Gods timing is perfect. But sometimes it is just very hard to wait.
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I remember when I was 16, I didn't have a boyfriend and I looked at my friends from school who were "serial daters" and I felt like I was missing out. Well, then I felt God reminding me that a lot of them are going to get divorced one day and I needed to remember that romance was something that was intended for me as an adult when I marry. See, that's why I wished that I Kissed Dating Goodbye had been around back then.
 
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KaylieJ said:
Thanks everyone. When I said that it is hard to wait, I meant because I look around me and it seems like all of my friends have boyfriends. I am just beginning to feel like what is wrong wtih me why dont I have one. I know Gods timing is perfect. But sometimes it is just very hard to wait.
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Well , as a single 21 year old who has literally always been single, and now his two best friends have girlfriends...I can honestly say it does not bother me. Once you realize that ( for your case) " a woman is not complete when she has a man, but rather is complete when she has come into a full perfect relationship with God". That's what one of my female friends said once.

It's easy to fool yourself into thinking " well, everyone is doing such and such, and I feel awkward since I feel left out. So, maybe I should do the same." Certainly not!! God is all we need, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationshi[. We just have to trust in God that the timing for that relationship comes. Until then. socialize, love, and be loved in Christ and your life will feel just as fulfilling!
 
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missy2shoes

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Well said Chase :)
 
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sweetie36

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I have been told that if you are looking sometimes it doesnt happen,but when you are not looking normaly you meet some one.
I use to do that alot, I wanted a boyfriend but when you dont look it happenes it did to me....
 
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ariannaaa

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well id look at it this way..

look at how many couples didn't date until they were in their 20s or 30s, and then got married. do you ever hear regrets like 'oh i wish i had dated more men' or 'oh it would have been great to come into this marraige with more emotional baggage..' ...of course not!

but how many couples do you hear about who both dated their whole lives and end up saying they wish they hadn't had so many partners or that they now struggle with comparing their spouse to former relationships, or their damaged bc they've been hurt bc of how many relationships they've been in, etc... at least i hear this all the time.

im sure there is NOTHING wrong with you.

i know alot of christian guys who want a shy woman with a gentle spirit :) trust me girl, you're in want! its just the timing that may be a little off ;)
 
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