I've never been in a Christian relationship..

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Possum

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Hiya,
I'm not sure what I'm looking for by posting this. I don't know if I want advice, or opinions, or even just to type it out!

I only became a Christian 2 years ago. Before that I was varying between paganism and agnostic. I wasn't brought up Christian and none of my family are, so please don't tell me of for my views pre-2009!

Anyway, I've been in a few awful relationships, and 2 really good ones. I was with someone when I became a Christian, and although he wasn't one, he was fully supportive of me and sometimes came to church with me. We got engaged in 2010 but unfortunately it didn't work out.

My friends have all been telling me that next time I am in a relationship, it needs to be with a Christian guy. At first I listened to them, but I didn't really take it on. I didn't think it was important. I was warned off the next person I had a very short relationship with, and surprise surprise, my friends were right. I did get hurt.

After that I didn't pray or feel God at all for a while until I got ill and then all the friends I had pushed away were still there for me. These last 3 weeks I've been reading the Bible more and more, praying more, and generally thinking about my faith more.

I'm an affectionate person, and a 'relationshippy' one. I like having someone to share my life with and my main ambition in my life is to be a wonderful wife and mum. I've been on my own for a while now. Apart from that one little crazy patch - I don't know what it was about!

I'm feeling that I want to meet someone, soonish. I would love to have the intimacy with someone like I see with my friends. Praying together, talking, and of course doing all of the normal things like tv, walks etc.

I have no idea how to meet someone. There isn't anyone at my church really. I'm trying to get involved with the student section of another church I sometimes attend, which will be nice. I'm not joining it specifically to meet people, but a lot of what has been going through my mind recently is where will I meet someone and I know they're a Christian?

Sorry for the long post - I didn't realise I would write quite so much. I'm glad to have written it all down though :)

Rosi
 
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GreenNnice

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I would first pray to God about your faith, is it strong enough to follow Him now with or without what you want in your life now because He knows what's best for your life now? And, yes, God does have perfect YOU plans for your life, Rosi, if you follow Him. (Jeremiah 29:11-13 and Psalms 139) .The Lord leads..... :)

As long as you have accepted Christ as your personal Saviour then it's all a different scenario for you than a non-christian . Because?

Because God will never leave you not forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5) . And, while it is nice to have bad those friends be there for you when you got out of a quick, icky relationship with a guy, they too will not always be there for you. No one will ALWAYS be there for you, not even, GASP!, your husband, if the Lord ever plans marriage into your life. The LORD , my dear young lady friend, Rosi, is the only One who will never ever never let you down. Sure, life will have struggles, but God is ALWAYS there to carry you through the depths of your chosen darkness to stand. :)
 
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Liamson

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Feb 3, 2010
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I would say Volunteer with an organization that has a Christian ethos.
 
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Doug

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Neither do I, I think it will be awesome, we all know it is God's plan.Some times I wonder if it will be boring , how would it work? but once you get to know God in Hi Fullness everything that might come after you knowing Him, it has to be awesome ! and yeah like the bible says, everything has its own time, so I think we shouldn't have to worry when is gonna come or who is gonna be the person, just focus in God and He will bless you .
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Maybe your not supposed to be with any one soon