Hi
If the girl is very special to me, naturally I would feel a little anxious to ask her out. In reality, it is just our mind, making all the assumptions that we may be received less than favorably. In this case, I will treat her (in my mind) as any other girl in the community.
Perhaps there could be insecurity and inferiority inside us and it prevents us from seeing who we are in Christ. In that case, I would do a search in my life, try to deal with these as much as I can.
What I have written above happened to me when I was young. However, as I grow older and put efforts to grow in the Lord, I become more confident. When I went on my first date with the girl (who is now my wife of 18 years), I actually indirectly proposed to her (subtly). We didn't get married straight away, but two years later. It's not that I was arrogant or something, but I just want her to be my wife.
Hope the above helps. May God bless you!
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Well said, BKing.
Hey, you wouldn't happen to have a sibling named BB (King) perchance
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I am not sure why it is so tough for we guys to ask you girls out. But, it is. It is , it is, it is !
However, I agree with BKing, we grow in God more and loose our selves from insecurities and things dragging we guys down, like financial thinkings of poorness, and like not always doing perfectly Godly things on the internet, like thinking we don't deserve a girl cuz we can't keep.our house in order, yes, when we realize God is helping us along through our inadequate thinkings of self and guiltyness of self and just LATCH onto God , I think then the ASKING OUT OF A GIRL will go much smoother and, here is the important part.... it will go just as God planned.
. Because , for certain, IF, guys, you are a christian and struggling with financial bogged thinking or guilt in some way, THAT will greatly affect your confidence, as it should, because God jerez us SECUre in Him and His ways BEFORE He will bless us with a .....girl, and, in some cases, even getting to go on a date.
Remember, and this verse is scripture: The steps of a righteous man are ordered by God.
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So...get your life in order (and that may include your figurative 'house,' or, literal 'house' , for that matter, and, then get READY for overFLOWING cofidence and security feelings to start asking girls out until you feel les by God to not let one get away (in other words, you marry her)