Is being single biblical?

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antmimi2

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I bet this one hasn't been discussed much. I am a 37 year old woman who has never been married. That would have never happened back in biblical times.
I hear Paul discuss singleness and wish it for everyone who can live that lifestyle without sin. Yet, I look at our society. We have all these singles who are living that way maybe not of their own desires. And all the living together and the lust of these people who just can't seem to connect.
Do you think that we do it right when we marry for love? I mean look at all the divorce. I wonder if they had something there when parents arranged marriages for their kids.
I don't know.
 
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youngartist

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technically it is biblical if you think about it
the bible says that you shouldn't marry, but if you have desires for that significant other that it would be best to marry other than to have these thoughts...I am not sure where that is found, ive just been dealing with such things lately...dating and such

I'll be honest..Ive never dated anyone and have never been kissed by anyone either...I'm quite proud of keeping myself pure!
 
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antmimi2 said:
I bet this one hasn't been discussed much. I am a 37 year old woman who has never been married. That would have never happened back in biblical times.
I hear Paul discuss singleness and wish it for everyone who can live that lifestyle without sin. Yet, I look at our society. We have all these singles who are living that way maybe not of their own desires. And all the living together and the lust of these people who just can't seem to connect.
Do you think that we do it right when we marry for love? I mean look at all the divorce. I wonder if they had something there when parents arranged marriages for their kids.
I don't know.
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1) I'm sure being a single woman happened in biblical times for...whatever reason. Somehow...lepers perhaps.


2) Do we do right when marry for love? Yes. Do we do it right when we marry for lust? No. "love" is the generic term we use, but the Hebrew and the Greeks had 4 words for "love", and lust being one of them. Nowadays if you hear someone say they "love" someone, they usually mean lustfully with a mix of phileo(sp?) "friend" love.

3) The problems with marriage and all the rampant divorce shouldn't discourage those seeking marriage and falling back on ' arranged marriage". That'd be like saying since so much sin has been caused from the internet that we should go back to newspapers only( i know you were joking about the arranged marriages, but still). For every good that the earth can create by people, and evil matching it will usually always be there.

antmimi22 had it right saying in 1st 7:7-9 corinthians or so that paul said it would be nice for everyone to stay as he is ' single" but said if you couldn't comntrol yourself, then you should marry rather than burn) with a passion). That would apply to myself lol
 
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youngartist said:
technically it is biblical if you think about it
the bible says that you shouldn't marry, but if you have desires for that significant other that it would be best to marry other than to have these thoughts...I am not sure where that is found, ive just been dealing with such things lately...dating and such

I'll be honest..Ive never dated anyone and have never been kissed by anyone either...I'm quite proud of keeping myself pure!
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Actually Paul said that it was his own oppion and we should treat as if the holy spirt didn't inspire that part(Atleast I hope it wasn't...).
 
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antmimi2 said:
I bet this one hasn't been discussed much. I am a 37 year old woman who has never been married. That would have never happened back in biblical times.
I hear Paul discuss singleness and wish it for everyone who can live that lifestyle without sin. Yet, I look at our society. We have all these singles who are living that way maybe not of their own desires. And all the living together and the lust of these people who just can't seem to connect.
Do you think that we do it right when we marry for love? I mean look at all the divorce. I wonder if they had something there when parents arranged marriages for their kids.
I don't know.
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I belive that you shouldn't have to judge your standard by the world's standard. You know why you haven't been married yet? It's probably because God is still perfecting you to be the wife you need to be for your husband and vise versa. LADIES and GENTLEMEN don't make a list of what you want your furture husband or wife to look like. Why? Because that is ridiculous..who gives you the right to make a standard for that person? No one. My pastor ( at a young age) decided to make a list about what he wanted his wife to be like..and after he made the list Gd told him to rip it up . And my pastor had to wait seven more years before he could get married. Because God had to make him the husband he needed to be for his wife.

Don't worry about being single whats the rush? I"ve seen many women in our church who have not gotten married and most of them haven't because that was God's plan for them. So what if you're not dating or have someone to marry? Isn't God worth more than a thousand boyfriends?

The reason why Christians are not suppose to date so quickly is because God wants to make sure that the partner you are with, is the one you will marry. And that is so important to Him because He wants you and your partner to work together on expanding the Kingdom of God. Not just to get married and be lovey dovey and grow old together.

But to actually reach out and teach His children. This is what God desires the most- when He is the head and you guys are the pieces to complete the puzzle. So don't stress about it. Take your time. And if you can't wait any longer ask God what it is that you need to improve on...or just be honest and ask Him why you haven't been married yet. And He'll give you an answer back.

But don't pray the same prayer over and over again. Pray differently and especially pray on your knees if you want an answer. And thank Him for the answer He will give you.

I hope all of you take this into consideration. Love you and God bless you all.
 
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sweetnshy

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The thing that gets me about that 1st Corinthians passage is that it makes it sound like if you have the desire for marriage, you can just go out on the street and track someone down and marry them. :p I've been single my whole life and trust me, it hasn't been by choice! Then I read that verse and it's like "Well if you have the desire to marry, then you should marry." If only it were so simple!
 
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sweetnshy said:
"Well if you have the desire to marry, then you should marry." If only it were so simple!
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Is there a verse like that like? That would definatlly help me out with a few fears of mine.
 
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sweetnshy said:
The thing that gets me about that 1st Corinthians passage is that it makes it sound like if you have the desire for marriage, you can just go out on the street and track someone down and marry them. :p I've been single my whole life and trust me, it hasn't been by choice! Then I read that verse and it's like "Well if you have the desire to marry, then you should marry." If only it were so simple!
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i don't recall Paul saying it was easy, he just said you should go for it :p.

Yes dothackzero, it starts at 1st corinthians verse 7 and keep reading.
 
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antmimi2

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I don't have a problem with either singlesness or marriage. I would prefer to be married right now. I don't have that choice. It's kinda funny hearing advice about being single from young ones. Not because they aren't wise or they don't have good advice but because when you get to your late thrities, you've heard all the advice.
Just fall in love with Jesus, honey... Just be in a place where you are happy where you are... Just get to the point where you don't want a husband and there he'll be... Well, guess what? I have been in all three places. I had men who wanted to date me, and I was happy being single, so they didn't ask me out (I would have gone, but probably wouldn't have allowed it to go further than a few dates- I was happy being single and God is my husband).
I guess, now I am at a point where I am realizing that all that advice, although well meaning was not something I should have listened to. I missed out on really wonderful, respectful men because I loved being single.
I think the one thing that worries me now, is just growing old alone.
 
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Ancilla

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Kakashi said:
1) I'm sure being a single woman happened in biblical times for...whatever reason. Somehow...lepers perhaps.
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From what I understand, in the Old Testament it was a Jewish woman's duty to get married and make mroe of God choosen people. I think even in Jewish communities now there's still more pressure to get married than there is for Christians. But I've said it once and I'll say it again. Comparing Old Testament Jews to contemporary Christians is apples to oranges.
 
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sweetnshy

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If I remember correctly from Bible college, women weren't expected to take care of themselves in biblical times. So if a woman wasn't married for some reason, it was up to her father or brothers or brother-in-law to provide for her and take care of her.
 
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