The Life of a single, married women

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kshine

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My husband and I have been married for almost 8yrs we just seperated in June of this yr, I had two kids when I met him I was 22 yes I know they came so fast anyway he never really imbraced them but later I found out he was never really the kid type. We had one of are own and his daughter came to live with us. We had lost of problems in are marriage due to luggage from the past what I know now I should have never been in a relationship in the first place. My son at the time a month old his dad became a paralized while i was pregnet the thing is I didnt find out I was pregnet until we where broken up and I did not want to have an aboration so I kept the child. Then I met my husband so my son and daughter has only known him and there real fathers who are not as active in there lives espeicially my son father becus of his condition. my question is should my husband continue to be active in my son's life even though we are not together are is it just a moral thing. should I feel hurt that he dont because most of it is revenge on me what should I feel.
 
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Jaimiejams

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Hi,

I definetly think your husband should be in your kids lives cuz hes raised them and just cuz your seperated doesnt have anything to do with the children. he shouldnt take it out on the kids if hes upset at you. yo have every right to be up and feel the way you do. hang in there and pray alot, God will get you and your children through this :)
 
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Jullianna

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Kshine, if your son and your husband want to maintain a relationship and you think it's healthy for your son, then continue to allow them to see one another. But if your husband is not interested in being in the child's life or you feel there's anything unhealthy about your son spending time with him, then don't. Most importantly, you wouldn't want to allow your son to be used as a pawn in a grown up relationship.

Praying for you and your family.
 
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kshine

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Thank u so true
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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I say forget about morals and just do whatever is right and protective for your son. If that means keeping him away from his father, then so be it.
 
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yaright

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What you are going through is not all that uncommon. It's a difficult thing to go through no matter what the matrix of the separation looks like. There are active help groups that can extend the range of experiences you and your children can enjoy. I hope you don't feel trapped in your situation. Make yourself open to better things in life than what you have gone through in the past. School has just begun in many regions, and the programs available can be a significant part of their lives if you take the time to participate in these social events. The fact that your talking about it shows that you do want a better life for you and your children.

A BIG thumbs up!
 
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kshine

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I am enrolled in school. Its just that iv been faced with so many diffrent challenges and it get hard but I'm moving foeward. I jsu ask that u pray humility in the heart of my husband.
 
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