Why can't I move on? :(

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guilbautedsookie

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I've repented to God my past relationships and it's so sad when the Devil feeds off your weakness. I have surrendered to God these feelings I *still* have for this guy I used to love and oh how the enemy knocked me off my knees many times but I'm thankful I always have God to turn to.

I don't treat him as the sin -- it's what I feel when I see him. I always get this urge to chat him up on Facebook when I see him and I see this as temptation and I go offline or just close the computer altogether. Yes I am still aching that I never got to talk to him or even say hi.

This is a weird case because the other guys I used to love when I see them or talk to them it's like nada, nothing, just casual (of course when I don't feel it will be good I just wave and go). But this particular guy I cry always to God asking why even if I have repented him, I still fall on my knees. And saddest part is I've surrendered him many times and he still keeps haunting me. I still want to have contact with him but I don't want to view him as the sin... only the feelings I get when I talk to him. Sigh. Like on the day we meet, I won't cry or retract but I'll just face him like everyone else.
 
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Kooper

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Give it time. I you think that you are doing something wrong when it comes to this guy, I'd suggest that you avoid this temptation, and do whatever it takes to keep out of God's place: Your heart. Your a new creation now. Not of your old self. When we accept God we're called to suffer. And thus we must bear it. Keep in mind to cling to God more.

I don't know if this will help. Or that you may it into concideration. But there are a lot of things that we need to let go of. God bless you, brother.
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Kooper said:
Give it time. I you think that you are doing something wrong when it comes to this guy, I'd suggest that you avoid this temptation, and do whatever it takes to keep out of God's place: Your heart. Your a new creation now. Not of your old self. When we accept God we're called to suffer. And thus we must bear it. Keep in mind to cling to God more.

I don't know if this will help. Or that you may it into concideration. But there are a lot of things that we need to let go of. God bless you, brother.
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Hi there. When I pray I often tell God that if there is something that is not Him in my heart, I ask that He take it away. Even if it's a needle-pin size spot it makes such a big difference and you can discern that there's something wrong.

Thank you so much. Yes, I decided to just sever the ties altogether. After all, God is the one I love the most and He is the one who can give that love we can never really get completely from others :D
 
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kshine

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the enemy knows ur weaknesses n we r all lead away by r own lust as the bible says I
James 1: 13-14 also that if we resist temptation the devil will flee the moer we resist the easyer it becomes
U did thr right gettin off the computer just keep doin ur best.
Read these Gal 5:1 and colo 1:15-23 also my fav 2 cor 10:5 my the love of God be in are hearts love u brother
Hit me anytime we all need encouragement.
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Hi Kshine... yeah when the temptation was too strong a few hours ago I turned to James... James chapter 1 is always the best word to turn to in times of temptation.

Thank you for the new words... I just pray that this would not be a weakness anymore. Maybe just a temptation :D
 
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Mikaeli

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Just let the love of God was over you, iinstead of you trying to do anything, let Him do everything. It's not required of you to solve it by your self, God loves you no matter what choises you make, He may not agree with all of your actions but He agrees with His own word.
 
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Hi, Guilbautedsookie! You may be right about the feelings being temptation, but it could also be a prayer-burden. I once mistook a prayer-burden for a "crush", I'm somewhat embarrassed to say :eek:. After several days of praying AGAINST the feelings (I could NOT get the guy off my mind), I found out that he had experienced a semi-serious brain injury at about the exact time that I started thinking about him (the guy is a christian, but I don't know him personally). Boy, did I feel like an idiot when I heard about the injury! I did some serious praying then, trying to make up for lost time :eek:. So, if you think about this particular ex suddenly and without reason, and you sort of feel a heaviness in your heart for him, then God may be leading you to pray for him. Anyway, it couldn't hurt, right? :). All the best to you! -Nicole
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Hi, Guilbautedsookie! You may be right about the feelings being temptation, but it could also be a prayer-burden. I once mistook a prayer-burden for a "crush", I'm somewhat embarrassed to say :eek:. After several days of praying AGAINST the feelings (I could NOT get the guy off my mind), I found out that he had experienced a semi-serious brain injury at about the exact time that I started thinking about him (the guy is a christian, but I don't know him personally). Boy, did I feel like an idiot when I heard about the injury! I did some serious praying then, trying to make up for lost time :eek:. So, if you think about this particular ex suddenly and without reason, and you sort of feel a heaviness in your heart for him, then God may be leading you to pray for him. Anyway, it couldn't hurt, right? :). All the best to you! -Nicole
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Hi Nicole :) It does make sense. I'll ask him next time he's online. But yeah last time I talked to him he was having a hard time getting his graduation credentials. But pray with me that when I chat with him I don't fall into a trap :)
 
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Tobby17

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guilbautedsookie said:
I've repented to God my past relationships and it's so sad when the Devil feeds off your weakness. I have surrendered to God these feelings I *still* have for this guy I used to love and oh how the enemy knocked me off my knees many times but I'm thankful I always have God to turn to.

I don't treat him as the sin -- it's what I feel when I see him. I always get this urge to chat him up on Facebook when I see him and I see this as temptation and I go offline or just close the computer altogether. Yes I am still aching that I never got to talk to him or even say hi.

This is a weird case because the other guys I used to love when I see them or talk to them it's like nada, nothing, just casual (of course when I don't feel it will be good I just wave and go). But this particular guy I cry always to God asking why even if I have repented him, I still fall on my knees. And saddest part is I've surrendered him many times and he still keeps haunting me. I still want to have contact with him but I don't want to view him as the sin... only the feelings I get when I talk to him. Sigh. Like on the day we meet, I won't cry or retract but I'll just face him like everyone else.
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guilbautedsookie, It's NOT difficult.. Should i tell you what i did in my own case?.. I DELETED ALL OF THEM..LOL..

There you go, it's very easy :D
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Tobby17 said:
guilbautedsookie, It's NOT difficult.. Should i tell you what i did in my own case?.. I DELETED ALL OF THEM..LOL..

There you go, it's very easy :D
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LOL :D I actually used to keep a photo of Him and even slept with it. I tore it up while repenting. And I sent the other photos of those guys to the pastors for shredding :)
 
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guilbautedsookie said:
Hi Nicole :) It does make sense. I'll ask him next time he's online. But yeah last time I talked to him he was having a hard time getting his graduation credentials. But pray with me that when I chat with him I don't fall into a trap :)
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Sure, I'll pray with you. I don't know if your ex has accepted Jesus or not, but if he hasn't, then God may want you to share Christ with him. Try to view him the way Jesus does, as a beloved lost brother that needs refuge and comfort. Sharing what Jesus has done in your life will probably take away any romantic attraction between you two, but if you feel that God only wants you to pray for him and avoid direct conversation, then that is o.k., too. The important part is to seek God's will and find out what He would have you do, and be obedient to what He says. I'll be praying, brother! :)
 
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JesusIsReal

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Your state clearly shows me that you are Far From Jesus Christ, neither have you Learned to Lean on him nor understand the Power of the Holy Spirit. From the Bottom of my Heart i Pray that in a peacefull state and sound mind you will continue Reading.

Many Scriptures are given to us how to deal with such situations, and many Scriptures are given to us that call us to come closer to Jesus Christ. But to me it seems you have not Considered Truly in your Mind or Soul to take the Path in Heavenly Realm, were the Mercy seat of Jesus Christ awaits you. If you were Close to him, you would of learned so much sookie, Mysteries in the Spirits, Wisdom, Revelations, Dreams and Visions, Power, and maybe you would of seen Jesus Christ himself come down from Heaven in a Dream to great you. You would of learned not to go for any Man that you Desire, your Desires would of been overcome by Power, Wisdom and Understaning, Leaning on Jesus Christ wich would of saved you these troubles for his shoulders are Soothing and strenghtns any man.

If you would of still insisted of being with that man, but repend you would of knows all the actions and directions you would need to go and do to gain that Peace again and be with Jesus Christ, all those troubles would of been bareable.

Peace on to you Sookie, but now i pray that you examine yourself and see for yourself, if you are close to Jesus Christ or far Away. What you have now i had 12 years ago, i searched Death and much Pain and Depressions came over me, it can kill once you found "if it is your case" a Great Love. So i know how painfull it must be for you, and i know that it can cause your own destruction, slowly but surely if Jesus Christ does not intervin.

I will give you Instructions, so you may now step, by step get closer to Jesus Christ, for Teaching, Learning, Leaning and all that is in him.
If you are a very Worldy Christian, meaning that your Life Scheduel is full of "Meet Friends here, Go out There, Look and or Listen to this Movie or Music" ect... this task will be Hard for you, so be patient with yourself and trust me! there are things here that are Incredible.

Daniel Prayed 3 Times a day out of his window although he also had a full schedual working for the king of babylon, i would suggest that you pray that Jesus Christ will support you by all means so you are willing and able to complete these tasks, Patients, Humleness, Reading, Meditating, Writing ect...

A man said once "Read at least 5-10 Chapters a day in order to get your Spiritual Wheel Going", 1 Corinthians 2:11 For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the man's spirit within him? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. as you can see the Thoughts of God are present in the Holy Spirit, we are the Temple of the Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ gave us a new Spirit, if you start to read 5-10 chapters a day your Spirit will become active then slowly the Holy Spirit will communicate things to your Spirit wich then "translates" it to your understanding for your thoughts. <---this is just what i believe lol

Then search for him, search for Jesus Christ, litterly start with 10 minutes a day and every day add 5 minutes, sit or lay down somewere and start to talk, anything that you see wondering in your thoughts or heart, it can be about your ex, or unbelieve, about sins and repentance or how good a slice of Pizza taste. that way you will learn to examine yourself closely and open yourself up to Jesus Christ, your welcoming him in your Thoughts, Heart and Mind.

Then this is the Hard part, try to raise your Moral standards, there are Laws and Commandments, for example a law against Fornication, these laws are there for your own Good, not for your Salvation. Today pick an attitude or practice that you know is Sin and learn how to Fight it with the Spirit and resist Temptation by the Devil.

These steps i pray follow, starting with the Prayer. Im sure, that if you start to Face and walk towards Jesus Christ now, he will support you, to show you that its a good thing that you are doing.

I want to see you one day in Jesus Christ Sookie lol..go for him.
 
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Hi, Mr. Sookie, me again, I just wanted to add that you should be extremely careful if you think that you are still romantically attracted to your ex. We are called to flee temptation, so if you think that contacting him might lead to something other than you planting a seed for Jesus (or, better yet, leading him to Christ), then it may be best to just keep him in your prayers. Fervently seek God in this, before you do anything. OK, that's all! :)
 
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guilbautedsookie

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Snackersmom said:
Sure, I'll pray with you. I don't know if your ex has accepted Jesus or not, but if he hasn't, then God may want you to share Christ with him. Try to view him the way Jesus does, as a beloved lost brother that needs refuge and comfort. Sharing what Jesus has done in your life will probably take away any romantic attraction between you two, but if you feel that God only wants you to pray for him and avoid direct conversation, then that is o.k., too. The important part is to seek God's will and find out what He would have you do, and be obedient to what He says. I'll be praying, brother! :)
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Thank You Nicole :D Thank you for this post. There are times I do check myself everyday if what I do is always for God, and if it's not, then I won't do it or I would do it if needed, and repent.
 
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guilbautedsookie

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JesusIsReal said:
Your state clearly shows me that you are Far From Jesus Christ, neither have you Learned to Lean on him nor understand the Power of the Holy Spirit. From the Bottom of my Heart i Pray that in a peacefull state and sound mind you will continue Reading.

Many Scriptures are given to us how to deal with such situations, and many Scriptures are given to us that call us to come closer to Jesus Christ. But to me it seems you have not Considered Truly in your Mind or Soul to take the Path in Heavenly Realm, were the Mercy seat of Jesus Christ awaits you. If you were Close to him, you would of learned so much sookie, Mysteries in the Spirits, Wisdom, Revelations, Dreams and Visions, Power, and maybe you would of seen Jesus Christ himself come down from Heaven in a Dream to great you. You would of learned not to go for any Man that you Desire, your Desires would of been overcome by Power, Wisdom and Understaning, Leaning on Jesus Christ wich would of saved you these troubles for his shoulders are Soothing and strenghtns any man.

If you would of still insisted of being with that man, but repend you would of knows all the actions and directions you would need to go and do to gain that Peace again and be with Jesus Christ, all those troubles would of been bareable.

Peace on to you Sookie, but now i pray that you examine yourself and see for yourself, if you are close to Jesus Christ or far Away. What you have now i had 12 years ago, i searched Death and much Pain and Depressions came over me, it can kill once you found "if it is your case" a Great Love. So i know how painfull it must be for you, and i know that it can cause your own destruction, slowly but surely if Jesus Christ does not intervin.

I will give you Instructions, so you may now step, by step get closer to Jesus Christ, for Teaching, Learning, Leaning and all that is in him.
If you are a very Worldy Christian, meaning that your Life Scheduel is full of "Meet Friends here, Go out There, Look and or Listen to this Movie or Music" ect... this task will be Hard for you, so be patient with yourself and trust me! there are things here that are Incredible.

Daniel Prayed 3 Times a day out of his window although he also had a full schedual working for the king of babylon, i would suggest that you pray that Jesus Christ will support you by all means so you are willing and able to complete these tasks, Patients, Humleness, Reading, Meditating, Writing ect...

A man said once "Read at least 5-10 Chapters a day in order to get your Spiritual Wheel Going", 1 Corinthians 2:11 For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the man's spirit within him? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. as you can see the Thoughts of God are present in the Holy Spirit, we are the Temple of the Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ gave us a new Spirit, if you start to read 5-10 chapters a day your Spirit will become active then slowly the Holy Spirit will communicate things to your Spirit wich then "translates" it to your understanding for your thoughts. <---this is just what i believe lol

Then search for him, search for Jesus Christ, litterly start with 10 minutes a day and every day add 5 minutes, sit or lay down somewere and start to talk, anything that you see wondering in your thoughts or heart, it can be about your ex, or unbelieve, about sins and repentance or how good a slice of Pizza taste. that way you will learn to examine yourself closely and open yourself up to Jesus Christ, your welcoming him in your Thoughts, Heart and Mind.

Then this is the Hard part, try to raise your Moral standards, there are Laws and Commandments, for example a law against Fornication, these laws are there for your own Good, not for your Salvation. Today pick an attitude or practice that you know is Sin and learn how to Fight it with the Spirit and resist Temptation by the Devil.

These steps i pray follow, starting with the Prayer. Im sure, that if you start to Face and walk towards Jesus Christ now, he will support you, to show you that its a good thing that you are doing.

I want to see you one day in Jesus Christ Sookie lol..go for him.
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I read your post and well, I lean on Jesus so much, but there are times I still feel that I need to act on my own. Yes, please pray with me that I lay all my trust to God more, especially now that I'm switching careers.

I fasted for a week and that was the best time I had in God. I looove the last step, the Hard Part. Lately I have been dealing with sexual temptation in the form of lustful eyes and this good-looking coworker and even the ex. Well the ex is a Christian and I do cry whenever I remember him and I repent to God for allowing myself to reminisce. I'm still overcoming attraction with men, and I ask that you pray with me :)

God brings us from glory to glory. Overcome one, and He will guide us to overcome another :)
 
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rainacorn

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guilbautedsookie said:
God brings us from glory to glory. Overcome one, and He will guide us to overcome another :)
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I don't totally understand that. You overcome glory?

Anyway, I'm sad to see that you have so much experience with multiple relationships where deep feelings of LOVE were going on. You're only 21! Love is great, but romantic relationships are serious business and you come off as quite young.

Sorry, but it sounds like you are controlled very much by your flesh. Your flesh wants you to give into every temptation. Your flesh wants you to confuse romantic love with physical lust. Your flesh pushes you to seek out instant gratification.

I think what JesusIsReal was saying is that you are trusting your instincts too much. Your heart is a liar. Your feelings are not from God. You need to get back in touch with the Holy Spirit, not just mentally, but physically and emotionally. Maybe take a break from facebook and the other ways you run into these people who are bad for you so you can spend some time examining yourself without distraction and temptation.

I'll be praying for you. This is a really difficult thing to overcome.
 
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You probably already saw your life with this guy. But you have made a decision. The problem is your feelings havent caught up with your decision yet.. Don't beat yourself up... Give it time. We tend to want it to get there right away, but you just have to go through. In God's time He makes all things beautiful
 
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guilbautedsookie

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I don't totally understand that. You overcome glory?
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LOL what I meant is when we overcome hurdles with God, we will overcome more challenging hurdles with Him by our side, and it keeps us growing more in Him, with Him and through Him :)
 
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guilbautedsookie

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I have lately been battling "the calls of the flesh" or what we call lust. And yes guys please continue to pray with me. The struggles are getting more and more intense but with God I know I'll never act on them like before.
 
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GreenNnice

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guilbautedsookie said:
I have lately been battling "the calls of the flesh" or what we call lust. And yes guys please continue to pray with me. The struggles are getting more and more intense but with God I know I'll never act on them like before.
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Sook, fill your life up with things that will NOT let your flesh crawl evily inside you, pray to.God for His Holy Spirit to wrap.you up. I have been reading the great 'help' posts from others and it is evident that you must have things out there God soo wants yoy to.be doing . But, you can't do.those things until you RElease the bad guilty thoughts inside you. The Lord leads. Let Him help.you, God is always there, ESPECIALLY PRESENT DURING OUR MOST TRYING TIMES, Sook :) .read Psalms 46:1 , my friend,
 
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