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miteyquinn

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Hey guys- im new to this site so go easy on me lol!!
2.5yrs ago me and my ex split up- we had been goin out for 3.5yrs and we loved each other. We werent in a christian relationship and therefore i lost my virgintiy to this boy at 18- only because i thought i was goin to be with him forever. Stupidly we split up and his family and him have not even looked at me since. This is killing me- I love him so much- still after all this time. but he's now in a relationship and i have to see them together every day.

Iv been hiding all these feelings and its really killing me. In fact its so bad that im going to Australia in sept to get away from here!!

how do i get over this??
 
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ForeverYours

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I have a really similar situation. My girl just broke up with me about a month and a half ago. We were together almost 2 years, like best friends for 10 years. We were deeply in love, talked about marriage, children, but we lost our virginites to each too. She said she wanted to espress her love for me physically. I think sex is probably why we broke up. She was late for about a week, which scared her very much, and then got it. She broke up with me a week later. Now she doesn't want a serious relationship, but to just have fun, pretty start drinking and be like everyone else. I was in such bad shape for about 4 weeks. I kept telling myself that I was gonna get back with her again (cause she said it might happen in the future). This was a terrible idea though. YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE MINDSTATE THAT YOU WILL NOT GET BACK WITH THEM AGAIN! If you don't, you are opening the door for disappointment and let downs. Put them behind you and move on. God will bring someone better into your life one day, trust that. You have to, have to, move on. You won't feel better until you do. And yes, it's still hard for me, but I'm doing much, much better now.
 
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miteyquinn

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Iv been trying to put him behind me!iv prayed for this for the duration we have been split up- it hasnt happened yet!

Wht if he was the one?no one else is coming along- no one else just makes me feel the same way
 
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torotoro

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Australia, eh? Pretty cool, they say kangaroos are very cute, especially the baby ones. I'm sorry if this question "reopens wounds" but, you say you love him, what qualities does he have that you still love him? You dont have to answer that at all if you dont want to.
 
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ForeverYours

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Iv been trying to put him behind me!iv prayed for this for the duration we have been split up- it hasnt happened yet!

Wht if he was the one?no one else is coming along- no one else just makes me feel the same way
I totally get what you're saying. I was 100% confident that my ex was the one. I still think that a little bit, but you cannot think like this. If they are the one, then God broke you 2 up to make you stronger in the future. If he's not, then thank God for breaking you 2 up because the one is going to be coming to you soon. Just stop worrying about it, you're only 21. Forget about your ex, you have to. Move past it or you're always gonna have something weighing you down. Like this preacher I saw said, you need to finish the race, how are you gonna do it when you have something weighing you down. Let go of it, trust in God that it'll be ok without it. God never takes something away from you without giving you something better in return. Just be patient and move on.

(I still struggle with this too, but in order to have the weight lifted off, we both need to move on and realize there just might be someone out there that is going to make us so much happier.)
 
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SamIam

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This is what i did to get over someone......first.... I made myself stop thinking about it. Then i ate so much i felt sick....Theeeennn i called one of my friends we got together watched a move and i ate SOME MORE..... ....... and about six months later........ i felt a little bit better.
 
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You know they say It's better to love and loose then never have had the chance to choose.

You know what I say to that.

BS.

Guard you heart, let no one enter it except Christ. Period.
 
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SamIam

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You know they say It's better to love and loose then never have had the chance to choose.

You know what I say to that.

BS.

Guard you heart, let no one enter it except Christ. Period.
i believe tennyson said that... and i have always said that is the STUPIDEST thing ive ever heard....
 
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i believe tennyson said that... and i have always said that is the STUPIDEST thing ive ever heard....
Yes, I thought it was stupid to, until I got it handed back to me while it was still beating.
 
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miteyquinn

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Aw guys you's are really great!thanks so much for the encouragement to move on- im in a low at the minute and i jus need to trust God more than ever that he has a plan for me!
 
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ariannaaa

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haha whoa seth so harsh...

mitey im sorry for your hurt. i've never really gone through this so i'd feel stupid giving you advice, but ill be praying for you. good luck :)
 
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pinkstix56

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Hey guys- im new to this site so go easy on me lol!!
2.5yrs ago me and my ex split up- we had been goin out for 3.5yrs and we loved each other. We werent in a christian relationship and therefore i lost my virgintiy to this boy at 18- only because i thought i was goin to be with him forever. Stupidly we split up and his family and him have not even looked at me since. This is killing me- I love him so much- still after all this time. but he's now in a relationship and i have to see them together every day.

Iv been hiding all these feelings and its really killing me. In fact its so bad that im going to Australia in sept to get away from here!!

how do i get over this??

Go to God about this. Talk to Him and be honest with Him. This should also be a lesson learned for every girl here...once you give your present away..it's returned in a rugged package.
 
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ForeverYours

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Aw guys you's are really great!thanks so much for the encouragement to move on- im in a low at the minute and i jus need to trust God more than ever that he has a plan for me!
We all hit our lows, but that's when we need to trust in and go to Him the most. Be around others that can positvely influence you. Also, if you are friends with this ex of yours, I would cut off all contact with him until you're over him, cause you're just teasing yourself.
 

J0Y

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Ya know, sometimes we can spend so much time looking back at what was, that we miss what God wants us to do in the now! In order to let go, I highly recommend that you spend some time in Christian counselling so you can be free to move on. There are deep soul ties and not only that, but the level of intimacy you have encountered will hinder you in letting go. My advice? Seek wise counsel so you may be free to be who God created you to be. God bless!