Too much years

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Liz01

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In the last year when i go to church i dont feel completely good, all the time the pastors are telling us that they want that the young ppl go to church, they talk about children and ppl of 25 years old, they pray for them, they talk about them, they make plans inside the church with activities for them and i think its ok but they are forgeting the ppl who are older than 35.

And im feeling very rejected, im not 80 years old, im only 37, but i feel as if i have too much years over me and i dont know what to do. Im sure that i should go to church and to be with my brothers and sisters in Christ, im sure that God called me to serve him, im sure Jesus is the only way to God and i dont feel discouraged, but i feel as if pastors dont want that i and all ppl over 35 years old go to church.

So i will appreciate your advices because im not sure what to do. :)
 
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niceguyJ

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Perhaps you should talk to your pastor and let him know how you're feeling.
I'd encourage you to keep doing what you know you are supposed to be doing. It sounds like you have great faith!
The most pure motive to go to a church is for what we can give to the church (which is giving to God right?), not what we can get back out of it. Although, if we are giving we'll definitely get something out of it. :)
I'm not sure if there are other churches you might want to visit, but that's another option. If you feel you are where you are supposed to be then it's just a matter of staying faithful to what God is asking of you.
 
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Why not talk to your pastors about this?
 
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Ugly

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Yeah, the church in general seems to neglect singles 25+. They love children, teens, college, families and even elders. but if you're over 25 and not married and having children you end up in limbo. I've experienced this feeling in a lot of churches. Wish it wasn't this way.
 
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GreenNnice

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Liz01 said:
In the last year when i go to church i dont feel completely good, all the time the pastors are telling us that they want that the young ppl go to church, they talk about children and ppl of 25 years old, they pray for them, they talk about them, they make plans inside the church with activities for them and i think its ok but they are forgeting the ppl who are older than 35.

And im feeling very rejected, im not 80 years old, im only 37, but i feel as if i have too much years over me and i dont know what to do. Im sure that i should go to church and to be with my brothers and sisters in Christ, im sure that God called me to serve him, im sure Jesus is the only way to God and i dont feel discouraged, but i feel as if pastors dont want that i and all ppl over 35 years old go to church.

So i will appreciate your advices because im not sure what to do. :)
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From the sadness in your words, lizzytheone, I feel sad for you, when I have times of sadness, whatever it may be, I really DRAWCLOSE to God, praying to Him to give me direction in my life. Without fail, He directs! :)

God bless you, lizzy, don't be afraid to ask God what is going on. He will tell you in a way that will deepen your relationship to Him. I just know He will .
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GOD_IS_LOVE

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Take it as a compliment: they consider you responsible enough to attend church without being given special attention. ;)
 
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Liz01

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Thanks for your advices NiceguyJ and Tribesman, its kind of scary to talk with the pastor bc i dont know if im the only one or how many women are like me and i dont know how pastor will react but you are right Ugly im feeling im in a kind of a limbo i cant join the teens but i can join the elders so i will think how to tell the pastor this
Thanks for your words Green, i will try to draw closer to God and pray asking whats going on
God is love........lol, you are right :)
 
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GreenNnice

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Liz01 said:
Thanks for your advices NiceguyJ and Tribesman, its kind of scary to talk with the pastor bc i dont know if im the only one or how many women are like me and i dont know how pastor will react but you are right Ugly im feeling im in a kind of a limbo i cant join the teens but i can join the elders so i will think how to tell the pastor this
Thanks for your words Green, i will try to draw closer to God and pray asking whats going on
God is love........lol, you are right :)
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Yes, draw close to God who is love and never a stranger, a tribesman, and when the whole world seems ugly and unfair toward you God will STILL be the One there, sometimes even , the only One. Nice to know isn't it, girl. ALWAYS keep God your Guy and everything else around you will season into place, lizzytheone :)

A lot of excellent words from the others, God brings many people in our lives all the time. THAT is how He works, I agree with GodisLoveliest, YOU, lizzy, are a kindred spirit, a strong gal surely God's and they paying no attention to you in church could mean pastor, others see a wonderful.independence I. you. :)
 
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FireWire

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It was the same more than ten years ago when I was in church. A group was started called unattached(or something similar) where singles would go to couples houses for dinner or lunch. I felt it was just a label being put on people. I never got invited anyway.
 
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chich

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I feel the same way in my church..Liz01. I am 41 and I feel left out too. I don't fit in with the young people, I don't want to hang with the old..., so its like this age range is neglected. Prayers are never sent up for this age group in respect to our happiness in finding a mate (if we are single or divorced), in dealing with the challenges of child rearing (if you are a single parent) and other personal issues we may have.. I see this void as well.
 
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Jullianna

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One way around feeling that we are alone in this is to become involved in our churches and find things we have in common with others there other than singleness and/or age. Music and children's ministries are good because we can be involved in these ministries regardless of age/gender/marital status. When ministering to others becomes our focus, rather than being ministered to, it really helps. :)
 
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Liz01

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FireWire, I sorry that happened in your church, hope now its better for you
chich, thanks for posting bc i feel im not the only one
Jullianna, thanks for your advice :)
 
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