What does that Perfect Someone mean?

[MahogonySnail]

I believe "perfect" in God's view is not the same as ours. It doesn't mean he or she is 6 ft tall and has all their teeth and will never go bald. And have exactly 95% or higher personality match.

Here's another view. Perfect might mean someone who will aggravate you and help you be a better person. Maybe they will have conflicting personality and sometimes annoy you a lot but they are perfect for you because they are helping you grow and mature in patience and faith. Remember when God told Hosea to marry a prostitute, if He said the same to you, how would you react? Maybe that prostitute was the perfect someone for Hosea, or rather, perfect for God's purposes. Ever thought about that?

When I read the old testament, I often get the impression that perhaps our idea of perfect or "the ideal" is not the same as God's.

I believe sometimes God doesn't intend marriage to a perfect someone just so we can have a good time and be completed and raise a nice happy family. Maybe God sometimes likes to prove a point or teach us a lesson via marriage. Do you see God's hand of sovereignty in every situation?

What do you think.

 

[seoulsearch]

I agree with you that God's idea of perfect is definitely not the same as ours. I have a friend who always tells me, about the possibility of a significant other, "God may not send you what you want, but He will send you what you need."

My Mom has a cousin, who, with his wife, lost their 9-year-old daughter to a brain tumor. They went through a very rocky time--passing blame ("Why didn't you notice she was sick, etc.") but they stayed together.

God knows what is going to happen in our future. I think about this sometimes, that maybe what I think I want could not help me through (and maybe I couldn't help him through) what God knows is ahead.

It's so hard to give up what we want or think we need.

But I often ask God to change me to be happy with whatever and whoever He wants me to have. Because a wife is supposed to be a help-mate, I've asked God for someone I can be happy serving for the rest of my life (but who will not abuse or misuse that authority.)

 

[thefightinglamb]

This gets me into a lot of trouble...but this is what I have to believe...We have to be willing to marry joyfully any person of the opposite sex, the LORD willing and wanting us to...because if we don't, we relocate every other person of the opposite sex to a "lesser role" in our lives...and look for that special 'perfect' somone instead of loving God and our neighbor fully...Instead, we keep our hearts to ourselves and begin to love everyone superficially...that's how it was for the longest time with me...always focused on the one that could be my wife, and not caring (aloting the same meaning/love) to other girls in my life...

The perfect somone is a ghostlike figure...they are a person that always causes you to love everyone else more...They teach you how to love and care for people deeply...and DO NOT avert all the attention to themselves...but also feast on God's love for others daily...

But what do I know? Girls fall in love with me...and then hate me usually...because of how I am...I don't know if it's because they want all the 'attention' focused on them or not...

But I also think that 'perfect person' is someone you can be open with and that will forgive you for everything because of their love for you..if that is not there...than both people never fully attain to union...
So the three feautures I outlined here are:
1-Increases and shows you God's love and God's love for others
2-You open your soul to this other
3-Forgiveness and mercy wash each other.

I like this I'll go on

4-Holiness is sought by this other
5-Love of the Lord (This is covered in the first and all of them, but I thought I should state it---as this is truly #1)
6-Anyone the Lord directs you to marry (I said this already as well)

hmmm...I will think of more as this was quite fun...

God bless
tony

 

[chelsers]

I believe "perfect" in God's view is not the same as ours. It doesn't mean he or she is 6 ft tall and has all their teeth and will never go bald. And have exactly 95% or higher personality match.

Here's another view. Perfect might mean someone who will aggravate you and help you be a better person. Maybe they will have conflicting personality and sometimes annoy you a lot but they are perfect for you because they are helping you grow and mature in patience and faith. Remember when God told Hosea to marry a prostitute, if He said the same to you, how would you react? Maybe that prostitute was the perfect someone for Hosea, or rather, perfect for God's purposes. Ever thought about that?

When I read the old testament, I often get the impression that perhaps our idea of perfect or "the ideal" is not the same as God's.

I believe sometimes God doesn't intend marriage to a perfect someone just so we can have a good time and be completed and raise a nice happy family. Maybe God sometimes likes to prove a point or teach us a lesson via marriage. Do you see God's hand of sovereignty in every situation?

What do you think.

Totally agree. Our will and the standards of the world get in the way and pull us away from what God wants for us.

 

[SamIam]

I completely agree, and you know what.. i wouldnt wanna marry someone exactly perfect or perfect for me.... i want someone different from me.. someone that is strong in areas where im not... i think its about perfecting each other for each other if that makes sense

 

[missy2shoes]

Yea.....if I married someone like me......he'd annoy me beyond belief......I need someone to balance my craziness

 

[SamIam]

Exactly, I dont even wanna think about marrying someone like me....... and im sure no one would wanna think about marrying someone like me either!

 

[cheeky]

I totally agree with you mahogonysnail. God only revealed to me recentley that what i want in a husband(a perfect one!lol) is not what he has for me. After losing my husband i thought god will bring me the perfect man and life will be sweet but now i know this wont be the case. I know god has a man for me, that will help me grow in christ love and support me and the kids and have a good heart but he wont be a perfect man but the perfect man for me. If that makes any sense what so ever! lol I have relised all that matters is their heart for god, which is number one, and that their heart in general is good. Anything else can be worked on and overcome.

 

[miteyquinn]

I totally agree with you mahogonysnail!!

My perfect man turned out to not be Mr Perfect in God's eyes. God led me to break up with him. Its hard to get over, but i will lean fully on God and his judgements and plan for my life...and if im lucky he'l send someone whil im in Australia lol!!