Hey everyone,
Just been doing a lot of soul-searching lately and I'd like to hear people's thoughts on this... I have heard that the rate of divorce for Christian marriages is pretty much the same as it is for the rest of society.
It doesn't take much to believe that. Our family forum here is filled with posts about deeply troubled, hurting, and former marriages.
I myself am divorced as well, so I'm certainly not trying to pick on anyone who is divorced. Most people know my story. We had a lot of problems, yes... I came home one day from work, and half the house was gone. He had moved out without telling me. A few weeks later, I received papers in the mail that said, "You are being sued for divorce." He decided that he wanted to be with his 19-year-old girlfriend instead. (I was 25 at the time.)
Now, I'm sure everyone would tell me it was my own fault because I married a non-Christian--that's another long story for another time. (Popular Christian guys at my high school bragged about going to the strip club every weekend and carried condoms in their wallets... part of why I fell in love with this non-Christian person is because he'd never been to a strip club and was a virgin.)
I grew up in the church, and have always been around Christians... and I've seen just as many Christian-with-a-Christian marriages fail. One of the most interesting was a former teacher of mine, who married a college friend (opposite gender.) They openly admitted that they didn't share a romantic love, but felt they could build a marriage based on the fact that they were both strong Christians and had been best friends for years. They had God, and that was going to the foundation of their marriage. This is what we all strive for as Christians, right?
The marriage lasted less than a year, if I remember correctly (I was in grade school at the time.)
And some of the strongest marriages I know are of people who married a non-Christian who later became a Christian (it wasn't all roses and sunshine either, but I can think of two couples I know who are now leaders in their churches, together.)
I know we're all human, we all sin, and we all have flaws. But... just wanted to know what you all have seen, observed, and believe... If we are Christians, if we have Jesus, and are to be the light of the world... Why are Christian marriages failing at the same rate as those who don't have God?
Just been doing a lot of soul-searching lately and I'd like to hear people's thoughts on this... I have heard that the rate of divorce for Christian marriages is pretty much the same as it is for the rest of society.
It doesn't take much to believe that. Our family forum here is filled with posts about deeply troubled, hurting, and former marriages.
I myself am divorced as well, so I'm certainly not trying to pick on anyone who is divorced. Most people know my story. We had a lot of problems, yes... I came home one day from work, and half the house was gone. He had moved out without telling me. A few weeks later, I received papers in the mail that said, "You are being sued for divorce." He decided that he wanted to be with his 19-year-old girlfriend instead. (I was 25 at the time.)
Now, I'm sure everyone would tell me it was my own fault because I married a non-Christian--that's another long story for another time. (Popular Christian guys at my high school bragged about going to the strip club every weekend and carried condoms in their wallets... part of why I fell in love with this non-Christian person is because he'd never been to a strip club and was a virgin.)
I grew up in the church, and have always been around Christians... and I've seen just as many Christian-with-a-Christian marriages fail. One of the most interesting was a former teacher of mine, who married a college friend (opposite gender.) They openly admitted that they didn't share a romantic love, but felt they could build a marriage based on the fact that they were both strong Christians and had been best friends for years. They had God, and that was going to the foundation of their marriage. This is what we all strive for as Christians, right?
The marriage lasted less than a year, if I remember correctly (I was in grade school at the time.)
And some of the strongest marriages I know are of people who married a non-Christian who later became a Christian (it wasn't all roses and sunshine either, but I can think of two couples I know who are now leaders in their churches, together.)
I know we're all human, we all sin, and we all have flaws. But... just wanted to know what you all have seen, observed, and believe... If we are Christians, if we have Jesus, and are to be the light of the world... Why are Christian marriages failing at the same rate as those who don't have God?