Why isn't God letting me make friends that are girls?

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May 4, 2009
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Seriously, i've been looking for a girlfriend for about 6 years now. I don't really have any friends that are girls, and the ones that I do have I rarely get to see. I've been asking God to help me out with making friends that are girls, but it hasn't been helping any. And I'm lonely because of it. I'm just the the type of guy that likes to be touched by girls(Not talking about inapropiatly, atleast not till I"m married.)
 
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ariannaaa

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BRIAN QUIT IT
WERE BEST FRIENDS
GET OVER IT
:)
 
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Boxme

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A Michigan native like myself! My man!

With that being said, having a girlfriend is not the be all and end all of your social life.

I didn't have a date until I was a senior in HS, and didn't get a gf until my freshman year in college.

She was a nightmare.

Having a gf does not necessarily make your life great. Trust me.
 
Jan 12, 2009
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I would say this...You can't make some one fall in love with you...but you can certainly help your chances. I don't mean chance who you are, but there are things that you can do to make yourself more attractive.
 
Jan 12, 2009
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PS...I will say this...don't look for a gf...you will never find one...just always try to improve yourself...when I am out looking for a gf i never have much look...they usually tend to blind side me....when i'm not ready or not looking
 
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sweet_eyes

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am 23 and never even been on a date, God has his own timing, He will bring the right person along in his perfect time!
 
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chelsers

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Seriously, i've been looking for a girlfriend for about 6 years now. I don't really have any friends that are girls, and the ones that I do have I rarely get to see. I've been asking God to help me out with making friends that are girls, but it hasn't been helping any. And I'm lonely because of it. I'm just the the type of guy that likes to be touched by girls(Not talking about inapropiatly, atleast not till I"m married.)
The first thing I'll say is that it seems like what you really want is a girlfriend and you're hoping that in the interim you'll have friends that are girls. You may even hope that one of these friendships will lead to something more.

The problem is, first, that you're questioning God. You asked "Why isn't God letting me make friends that are girls?" By asking that you essentially said that your will is right and that God should follow suit. You may not even realize you said that.

God's will is perfect, ours gets in the way.

You're letting your want for companionship consume you it seems. It's understandable, we're social creatures, but you need to get your mind off of it. You need to pray, read your Bible, occupy your mind, better yourself, etc.

You mentioned before that you're shy and, from personal experience, you need to stop hiding behind this. I personally am a reserved person (I think shy tends to take on negative connotations) and a sensitive, empathetic person. I like to socialize, but I don't do it as much as someone who's outgoing. I'm okay with this. You need to decide if you will be happy with the way you are or if you want to change it. Either way, being shy won't keep you from having friends if you try unless of course you're an agoraphobic and can't leave the house or have severe panic disorder. In that case, there's help for that.

If it's shyness and you want to make friends/be more social, you need to put yourself out there. You have to approach people or at least be in the vicinity of others to make friendships.

Someone once said, I don't remember where, that in order to make friends you need to be a friend. You need to be selfless. This isn't easy, but you have to try.

You also need to take risks. If you're interested in a girl, ask her out. It seems like you want to make friends hoping that it will develop into something more. Sometimes this happens, most times it doesn't. No one likes rejection, but you have to try.

I wish you could see yourself the way God sees you. (I should probably echo that to myself and everyone.) You are wonderful and people would be blessed to be your friend. Just know that finding friends that are girls will not assuage that longing for a girlfriend, which is really the longing for a wife. That'll come in time, God's time, not human time.

God bless!
 
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watangfarmerjoe

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Seriously, i've been looking for a girlfriend for about 6 years now. I don't really have any friends that are girls, and the ones that I do have I rarely get to see. I've been asking God to help me out with making friends that are girls, but it hasn't been helping any. And I'm lonely because of it. I'm just the the type of guy that likes to be touched by girls(Not talking about inappropriately, at least not till I"m married.)

Ever thought that you don't have girl friends cause you don't know how to act around girls or how to talk to girls?? i dunno mate maybe you have bad breath or something like that

God isn't a magician that with a swish makes our prayer's come true. we need to work life out for ourselves which includes finding a girl/boy friend . Trusting in god is good but siting around on your hands and not living life is stupid
 
Apr 24, 2009
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Seriously, i've been looking for a girlfriend for about 6 years now. I don't really have any friends that are girls, and the ones that I do have I rarely get to see. I've been asking God to help me out with making friends that are girls, but it hasn't been helping any. And I'm lonely because of it. I'm just the the type of guy that likes to be touched by girls(Not talking about inapropiatly, atleast not till I"m married.)
Here we go again!!!

Dude if you don't make a difference yourself, no one's gonna do it for you! No one in this virtual environment is gonna give you THE antidote for girl attraction, nor is God gonna send you a girl on a plate. Be risky, what else can I tell you?
 

faith4life

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Its okay to not have someone. I married my high school sweetheart and we were together for 7 wonderful years. Then my best friend decided to take her away from me. I tried dating again, but it never works out. So i decided that im better off single.
 
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Aya

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do u ever talk about anything a girl would wanna talk about?? for me its kinda easy coz i can talk about sum things guys r in to...just try n' find sumthing that a girl u know is into...sports,movies sumthing like that
sry if this dident help
 

starfield

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Seriously, i've been looking for a girlfriend for about 6 years now. I don't really have any friends that are girls, and the ones that I do have I rarely get to see. I've been asking God to help me out with making friends that are girls, but it hasn't been helping any. And I'm lonely because of it. I'm just the the type of guy that likes to be touched by girls(Not talking about inapropiatly, atleast not till I"m married.)
When you ask God for something, it has to be according to His will. Maybe that's not His will for you right now. Patience is the key.

 
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pinkstix56

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To tell you the truth, I believe that you should stop complaining. It's not getting you anywhere, and apparently you haven't been paying attention to God , because you are so preoccupied by finding a girlfriend. Isn't God worth more than thousands of girlfriends?

So just chill, grow in Christ first and then He will begin to work in you to become the boyfriend/ husband material you need to be for the person God wants you to be with.
 
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Beeb0

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Just give it time, granted you're single, God has plans for you aswell as everyone. Pray for what is needed, not what you want. God knows all of our needs & in his will/time, they will all fall into place.
 
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MusicalMe

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First of all, I know first and foremost how you feel. I like to be friends with guys because they are less prone to drama than girls (sorry, girls) and less likely to focucs the conversation on which boys are hot (sorry again, girls - mind you, I'm referring to girls I know around here, which is probably not any of you here in the CC forums...) When I moved here, I found it really hard to make friends with guys because most of the ones I met were married. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend, but married people tend to make friends with other married people, and married guys tend to not make friends with single girls. It's just a fact of life.

So, yes, I know how you feel.

However - I do have a few thoughts on the subject...

First of all, having more friends or even having a relationship isn't a sure-fire cure for loneliness. I've found that I do best when I find a way to conquer my loneliness first and then try to make more friends. It can be tough, but it actually makes you a better friend in the long run.

Secondly, I don't know what your method of meeting girls is, but I'm going to assume that there's somewhere you go on a regular basis that also includes girls (church, class, etc). Find out a few things about the interests of a girl or two there and start up a conversation about it. If it's nothing you're interested in, don't fake an interest - try to find something that either you're both interested in, or that you know she's interested in and you'd like to learn about.

Hope this helps. I've never really had to meet girls, but since I am one, I feel like I know a thing or two. But I won't be offended if you ignore everything I just said...
 
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missy2shoes

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Its okay to not have someone. I married my high school sweetheart and we were together for 7 wonderful years. Then my best friend decided to take her away from me. I tried dating again, but it never works out. So i decided that im better off single.
whoa how sad is that? :(