re: outgrowing church. This is the way I see it. There's really nothing to outgrow. But people generally mean they don't fit in, they feel hurt, they dont have opportunity to use their gifts due to controlling and manipulative church leadership. I understand that each church doesnt cater for everyones needs or suit everyone. eg if you a 60 year old man and the church is full of under 30 yo women. Or you are a single guy in a church full of married couples. Yeah, you may not outgrow, or you may just not fit in and be better fellowshipping with a different group of believers both for their and your mutual gain. Or you might encounter things in the church which means you simply cannot fellowship there anymore. If there is no fellowship, regardless of whether it is a building with a nice sign on the door.. it isn't "church" in the real sense. You are just a person going to a building for a weekly program. Better off somewhere else unless God wants you to stay there for a reason, and you can put up with it.