I can't wait...is there true love?

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Chopsui101

Chopsui101

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So I have decided that there is no such thing as true love. As psychology taught us that relationships are built on several things, proximity, interests, and one other that I forgot. But honestly, do people think that there is just one person out there?

I think that honestly, I have had 2 girlfriends out of the bunch that I have genuinely cared for, I was willing to get married, however the timing wasn't right since both times we were still in school. I have plans that I want to finish before I get married and they had plans to finish school as well.

One of my friends is moving out of the country to marry his girlfriend and talks about how much he loves her and what not, but I can't forget the times he said the same thing to the last girl. But this time he is getting married...

It has always been my idea that as long as she treats me right and is willing to work with me and me back to her. We can live a happy and content life. As people we have needs, as long as the person fulfills those needs then you can be happy. Especially since happiness is a state of mind.

I know that out of the gf's that I have had, I would marry in a heart beat 2 of them. Not because I think that they are perfect, but because I know that they have seen/been with me when I was flying high and when I was down and out and they still liked me. I know that I liked them even though they aren't perfect. When I hear happy couples talking and saying "he/she is perfect" I want to be like, well sonny your in for a rude awakening when you roll over one day and realize that they aren't.
 
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SamIam

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Happy couples make me ill... they really do.. especially the newly married ones or the ones that have just started dating.. your right its the whole oooh this person is so perfect i just love him or her so much..... yeah wait another year when the reality of your situation has set in and see how perfect he or she is! Most people mistake infatuation for love. Ive said it a hundred times... Love is not some ''feeling'' you get when you see the other person.. its not how those sappy love songs make it out to be.. love is hard.. its work... its sticking with that person even when you find them completely unloveable and un tolerable. I believe you should marry someone only if you think you cannot live without that person. Chuck swindoll i believe said that.. dont marry the person you can live with marry the person you cant live without.. I think there is someone for everyone.. someone that you are most compatable with over anyone.. i want to believe that god has someone picked out for everyone. Weather or not thats true.... i havent a clue. but to quote the wedding singer.......... LOVE STINKS
 
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Traveler

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I won't go into length on this subject, but rather directly answer the question.
Yes, these is true love. Most people, however, refuse to find it or give up before they do. If / When you experience it, you'll know it. Till then it won't make much sense and may even be questionable. More than likely, as a head up, if you find yourself asking "is this true love", then its not. True love is like being hit by a bullet train. Theres no questioning what just happened. lol
 
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Goofy777

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Yes, there is true love.

I agree, i think if you find some1 that you cannot live without, thats true love... If you really love some1 and you reach the age of 80... that person will still give you butterflies when he/she looks at you or when you see him/her! I have been with my gf for more than three years and i still get butterflies when i see her... yeah sure maybe not everytime i see her but it happens ALOT!

I also think that when you are willing to work hard at a relationship with some1, you must truely love that person... To be honest, if i didnt love some1, why would i bother to work on our relationship...

Well thats my perspective...

So... LOVE LOVE LOVE

You know i DO love you Sam?
 
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SamIam

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love schmov
 
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sweet_eyes

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Goofy777 said:
Yes, there is true love.

I agree, i think if you find some1 that you cannot live without, thats true love... If you really love some1 and you reach the age of 80... that person will still give you butterflies when he/she looks at you or when you see him/her! I have been with my gf for more than three years and i still get butterflies when i see her... yeah sure maybe not everytime i see her but it happens ALOT!

I also think that when you are willing to work hard at a relationship with some1, you must truely love that person... To be honest, if i didnt love some1, why would i bother to work on our relationship...

Well thats my perspective...

So... LOVE LOVE LOVE

You know i DO love you Sam?
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aww Sam how sweet!
 
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Baruch

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True love was probably set up as an ideal romantic notion that God would provide your helpmeet as He did for Isaac for provideing Rebecca. If I recall correctly with His help, Isaac saw her across the field after a servant of Abraham had asked the Lord for help in finding the right wife for Isaac. From what I have read, I was left with the impression of what we have seen romanticised in Hollywood to a small degree and that is of the scenery of a man and a woman reunning across the field to embrace one another as if finding each other at last.

And yet no one can deny that Rebecca was without fault for she was deceptive and dishonest in tricking her husband in blessing her favorite son, Jacob, over Esau.

I was talking to a christian sister many years ago of my wanting to find my Rebecca. She blew up and began devaluing her by naming her faults, but that was not about who Rebecca was, but of God having chosen her to be his wife.

So often times than not, people overlook the words of matrimony and the way divorce is given out so readily, one would think Americans today marry for better, not for worse.. for richer, but not for poorer, in health, but not through sickness till death or divorce or the next best thing that comes along do them part.

So one need not be envious of people swooning in love nor pessimistic that they will never find true love, but one needs to cast all their anxieties on the Lord for He cares for us as the Father He is.

No one is perfect, but one can have perfect love when one is not looking to the ideal of true love, but to God to love one another no matter what as He loves us. And since love does not insist on its own way, nor seek its own, but the good of the other, one should be examining oneself, and not the other. There is no greater love than this, he who lays his life down for his friend.... and we all know and testify that friendship lasts longer than "romantic love".
 
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carpetmanswife

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..... yeah wait another year when the reality of your situation has set in and see how perfect he or she is! Most people mistake infatuation for love. Ive said it a hundred times... Love is not some ''feeling'' you get when you see the other person.. its not how those sappy love songs make it out to be.. love is hard.. its work... its sticking with that person even when you find them completely unloveable and un tolerable


I agree wholeheartedly
 
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SamIam

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carpetmanswife said:
..... yeah wait another year when the reality of your situation has set in and see how perfect he or she is! Most people mistake infatuation for love. Ive said it a hundred times... Love is not some ''feeling'' you get when you see the other person.. its not how those sappy love songs make it out to be.. love is hard.. its work... its sticking with that person even when you find them completely unloveable and un tolerable


I agree wholeheartedly
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i knew you were a smart woman agreeing with me LOL!!!
 
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SamIam

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hahahahhahaha!!! Dont you worry! your secrets safe with me!! LOL
 
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well I'm having a hard time agreeing with ya Sam....coz coz.....isn't loveeeee meant to be skipping through the tulips, watching the butterflies pass by, whilst holding each other's hands and gazing into each other's eyes....forever and ever and ever and ever and ever???????????????????????
 
Kakashi

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Strangly enough, I find it hard to find a woman because the ones I meet do not love as Jesus did( although we all have problems withthat, the striving is what I'm talking about). True love is a brother laying down his life for a friend, it's Jesus washing the feet of his disciples and loving m neighbor as I love myself. I'll agree that we get so caught up on the Hollywood aspect of "true love" and romance, but those are strong feelings of love that jesus showed that I cannot shake off.( not the hollywood stuff, but the stuff I listed above)

For the sake of the topic at hand though, I belive that true love in a relationship is when both sides of the party (the male and female) are practicing the "principle" of love that Jesus showed, but in the relationship aspect of it all. When that happenes, then both sides are unconditional givers instead of takers. The problem is, people get so infatuated that they don't take a freaking single second to even learn about the complexities of that person. How can you fall in love without "knowing" a person? I dunno, in my head, i just don't think I can do it anymore unless i getto know a person AND their character, which, if it's close to God, will attract me like you wouldn't belive.

People shouldn't "roll over" one day and be like " oh I made a mistake." If you get to know a person's character, the chances of that happening are slim. I've been infatuated with people, but after taking the time to get to know them, I'm like "oops, man glad I didn't go after that. That would have been a HUGE mistake," so I can say that what I'm doing so far is working out lol. Ok, rant end.
 
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chelsers

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Kakashi said:
Strangly enough, I find it hard to find a woman because the ones I meet do not love as Jesus did( although we all have problems withthat, the striving is what I'm talking about). True love is a brother laying down his life for a friend, it's Jesus washing the feet of his disciples and loving m neighbor as I love myself. I'll agree that we get so caught up on the Hollywood aspect of "true love" and romance, but those are strong feelings of love that jesus showed that I cannot shake off.( not the hollywood stuff, but the stuff I listed above)

For the sake of the topic at hand though, I belive that true love in a relationship is when both sides of the party (the male and female) are practicing the "principle" of love that Jesus showed, but in the relationship aspect of it all. When that happenes, then both sides are unconditional givers instead of takers. The problem is, people get so infatuated that they don't take a freaking single second to even learn about the complexities of that person. How can you fall in love without "knowing" a person? I dunno, in my head, i just don't think I can do it anymore unless i getto know a person AND their character, which, if it's close to God, will attract me like you wouldn't belive.

People shouldn't "roll over" one day and be like " oh I made a mistake." If you get to know a person's character, the chances of that happening are slim. I've been infatuated with people, but after taking the time to get to know them, I'm like "oops, man glad I didn't go after that. That would have been a HUGE mistake," so I can say that what I'm doing so far is working out lol. Ok, rant end.
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I completely agree Kakashi. I'd just like to add that I think part of the reason why we as Christians are single later and later in life has a lot to do with our preoccupations with fictional romance which is essentially romance with ourselves. We want someone that's perfect for us, but like you said, what you really should want is someone that's striving every day to be Christlike. That doesn't mean we're perfect, but something I'd really like to find is a man that's trying, that's attractive.
 
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Well, I believe true love definitely does exist! Because, thanx be to God, I have my true love! I know all of his quirks, & he knows all of mine. Ive been with the same man for close to 8 years. Now I'll agree, true love isnt like what u see in the movies or read in books.... it is hard work at times. Its getting upset w/ each other & arguing at times... but always loving each other through it all! I love my boyfriend more now, today than I did the day we got together! And I know that if our circumstances were different, we would be married right now! Unfortunately, Im taking care of family members who need me, & hes taking care of his grandmother... which makes it extremely difficult to start a life together... but, it has also brought us closer together as friends. And I can honestly say hes my BEST friend. We go to church together, we were baptized together. We have grown together in Christ. And, I still do get butterflies when I look at him! I know that we will be married one day, that just depends on Jesus & His timing. We are engaged, its just taking longer for us than it does for most ppl. But anyway, sorry for going on & on about myself. I just believe you have to pray to God that He will put that right person in your life! And you have to be willing to put in the time, (hopfully for you guys, not as much time as Ive had to)! :) But remember, God wants us all to be happy! And true love is a part of that happiness.
 
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Yes there is true love. First with Jesus, of course. Then there is true love, if through attraction you both choose it. I say choose it because true llove is gained through giving love. After 28 years of marraige and many good and bad times. All worth it . I can tell you that it is about the work , the faith , the hope. Resulting in true love . Not a fairy tail but a deep and abiding love. You becoume one because of all of the life you have shared, lived and fought for each other. someone once gave me a great question. How well do you work in lifes everyday things together? By how well you do and how much you want to , is a great way to see how well you will love. God bless, pickles
 
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SamIam

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define ''true'' love??? what does that mean..... is it oppsoed to lying love
 
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