Guys, will U let a girl KNOW U R A Christian in first meeting? I sure hope so. When?

[GreenNnice]

This is a poll for the guys. Sorry, ladies, I have nothing for you But I still love ya, ya know

And, ladies, you can say things too, like if you want a guy to let you know they are a Christian. I am hoping that number is very high, like 100%

So, guys, gentlemen, when you meet a girl for the first time how soon into the meeting do you ask her if she believes in God, is a Christian (maybe not a direct question but mentioning you go to church)

When ?

1 minute in ?

5 minutes?

20 minutes?

You don't mention that you believe in God the first date at all?

[Liamson]

In my world and in what I do, I don't think it would be possible for her not to know that I'm a Christian. I don't really meet a lot of Non-christian women and even if I do, to them there wouldn't be anything about me that they would be capable of valuing.

Also, I'm pretty much the Anti-dating person of the year. I don't usually go out on a date with anyone unless its already understood that we know who each other are pretty well.

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by Liamson

In my world and in what I do, I don't think it would be possible for her not to know that I'm a Christian. I don't really meet a lot of Non-christian women and even if I do, to them there wouldn't be anything about me that they would be capable of valuing.

Also, I'm pretty much the Anti-dating person of the year. I don't usually go out on a date with anyone unless its already understood that we know who each other are pretty well.

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Liam, you speak wise, considerate, good God words on here (christian chat).

Yes, for me, it would be not possible for a girl I meet happenstance in a library or someplace to be leaving thinking I was a non-christian. I would mention it to her one way or another, either a direct 'Do you believe in God' question at some point in the conversation appropriately timed, the Lord leads, or just letting her know I was a Christian some other way.

Best first date after you meet a girl? Take her to a church service and NOT the singles group, just go to church and let her hear your pastor and see your way of believing. That is what I believe anyway

God bless, liam, good to hear your voice, not just cuz my thread, I just not seen you on here last few days and Lord's had me here so.... maybe just my green eyes missing seeing you. That could be, it's not easy bein' green, you know, in soooo many ways

[AAAPlus]

It seems like this assumes I would date a girl who is not a Christian. If a girl does not have a pre-existing strong relationship with God, she is not someone I am interested in on a romantic level. On dates, people are on their best behavior, so to speak. A particularly deceitful girl will try to make you think she is a strong Christian, when really she just pretends so you'll like her.

I'm not into the whole dating thing. It's a terrible way to get to know someone. I only date someone after I've gotten to know them a little bit, and at least have a feel for how far along they are in their walk with God.

[Liamson]

Well, what is a date?

Taking a woman to church is not a date. Taking her to a bible study is not a date either.

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by AAAPlus

It seems like this assumes I would date a girl who is not a Christian. If a girl does not have a pre-existing strong relationship with God, she is not someone I am interested in on a romantic level. On dates, people are on their best behavior, so to speak. A particularly deceitful girl will try to make you think she is a strong Christian, when really she just pretends so you'll like her.

I'm not into the whole dating thing. It's a terrible way to get to know someone. I only date someone after I've gotten to know them a little bit, and at least have a feel for how far along they are in their walk with God.

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When you are talking with a girl, just because you are not on a formal 'date' of going somewhere, you are still at that time (and date) seeing her. That is a date.

I used to think that I needed to go with a girl on an actual date somewhere, I wish I would have just realized that, to a girl, just talking on the phone is like a date, or, just talking in the coffee shop for awhile when neither formally MET per date is what girls consider a date. Right, ladies ?

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No, this does not assume you are dating a girl who is a non-christian, it just throws accountability into the mix nearly immediately and God can work MUCH better in us IF we are immediately realizing OUR being is His

Fear God, do not fear the girl rejecting you, AAAplus. I speak words here I learned too, like the 'dating' reality for girls versus my perceptions of what 'dating' defined is I say above. But, I used to think that I would just chit-chat with a girl and get to know her on the first meeting and not say anything.

In fact, LOL, I would not even care to say anything to her the 2nd date, almost saying I wasn't a christian in my actions.

Why?

I was afraid of her seeing I was a Christian and becoming one just because she LIKED me. Well, OK, great, YOU are in control doing that, but it is God you want to be in control and He to fear, NOT her.

So, funny, I tell you all, guys, to nearly immediately let girl you are talking with KNOW that you are a Christian yet it was not toooo many years ago that I was in the poll category of....... NEVER on the first date, unless she told me she was a christian and then I would be open.

Hmmm, I think I needed another poll choice now

[alienx7587]

I don't purposely 'meet' women who are not Christians and I would certainly never date a woman who did not have a relationship with Christ. Non-Christian women that I do know don't want anything to do with 'religion'. That's just how people who live worldly lives are, regardless of gender they are usually repulsed by the Truth.

I picked 5 minutes after small talk, because that's usually where it's most natural to fit into most conversations.

[kittykat1]

That is what I would d0

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by Liamson

Well, what is a date?

Taking a woman to church is not a date. Taking her to a bible study is not a date either.

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Why not? You are asking a girl to go with you somewhere, liam.

I think girls will tell you that going to church is a date, or, to a bible study.

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AlienX, I am pretty quick too to mention God when I happenstance meet a girl in a store or wherever and am feeling led to talk to her because I am attracted to her. I would go even so far as a minute after talking with her bringing up God, because otherwise I can get lured and I immediately let her know that God is most important in my life, which is the truth.

[zeroturbulence]

I would tell her sometime before second base. Or maybe third? Wait, what's first base again?

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by zeroturbulence

I would tell her sometime before second base. Or maybe third? Wait, what's first base again?

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Would you tell let her know you believed in God, zere ?

If you just happen to see a girl you like at the supermarket or library or work, or, for you, zere, the beach , would you let her know during that first meeting that you were a Christian in some way. Maybe mentioning you go to church somewhere or just saying a 'God' phrase like asking if she believes in God?

And, at what point, approximately, I mean, none of us really are going to be with an agenda for exact timing , I did put for my vote , right after breaking the ice in the first minute, but it could be 5 minutes in too. Or, even longer, if the Lord was leading that to happen. But IF I was truly attracted to this girl I would not let her get away without knowing I believed in God, telling her in some way my faith. Hopefully, that could be a big thing with her because her enthusiasm is not a dealbreaker, but I do want to see some excitement at mention of my Saviour. Does not have to be a lot, just confirmation that she believes.
Everything else can be figured out in the friendship that develops (I didn't use the word 'dating' to please my bro, AAAPlus ) after that.

I think if you're deliberately going out of your way to spend time with a woman alone, regardless of where you are, its a date.

[Ritter]

I hope it would almost go without saying.

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by Ritter

I hope it would almost go without saying.

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Right , Ritt Cruise

[Allin]

Ha haaa, Liamson. Wow, that was funny about the Bible study!

I checked the 'after about 20 minutes' button. Most girls I know aren't Christian. I hate to say it, but I don't do much church (*braces for a hail of Christian stones*) Yeah, I don't go to the regular church meetings right now. It seems they have people so confused in churches... I usually won't tell a girl I'm a Christian until I have to (it's not like I can tell them I go to church since I don't now). Not that I don't want them to know, but I think being Christian is ho hum to so many people today. If they can spot a difference and ask because of that, I feel more comfortable that way. I think being sincerely gracious to everyone (old, young, rich, poor, etc.) and not distinguishing between people due to race, religion, social status, etc. always makes them curious-- some hate it and some like it. (When I worked with mostly Catholic and Christian women, they didn't know what to make of me. They were all married but saw flirting as an intramural sport. They asked me why I didn't flirt. I do flirt! Just not with married women!) I think I find it easier to talk to non-religious girls who aren't confused by religion, stuck between how they should live and how they really are... So, it often takes a while to have to say anything about God because most people don't care about God, and I won't push anything on them; but in time, they'll ask a question that relates to God... then I can answer

[AsifinPassing]

Originally Posted by GreenNnice

This is a poll for the guys. Sorry, ladies, I have nothing for you But I still love ya, ya know

And, ladies, you can say things too, like if you want a guy to let you know they are a Christian. I am hoping that number is very high, like 100%

So, guys, gentlemen, when you meet a girl for the first time how soon into the meeting do you ask her if she believes in God, is a Christian (maybe not a direct question but mentioning you go to church)

When ?

1 minute in ?

5 minutes?

20 minutes?

You don't mention that you believe in God the first date at all?

I didn't answer the poll or written questions, because I don't date people which lack an already established relationship with me, so we would both know each others beliefs before that point.

[violakat]

Originally Posted by GreenNnice

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Why not? You are asking a girl to go with you somewhere, liam.

I think girls will tell you that going to church is a date, or, to a bible study.

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AlienX, I am pretty quick too to mention God when I happenstance meet a girl in a store or wherever and am feeling led to talk to her because I am attracted to her. I would go even so far as a minute after talking with her bringing up God, because otherwise I can get lured and I immediately let her know that God is most important in my life, which is the truth.

I have to agree with Liam about church, Green. If a guy meets up with me at church, and considers it a date, then to me, is he going to church because of God, or is he going to church to meet single women?
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However, a lot of single women are hesitant to sit with someone they have just started seeing, simply because they do not want to be known as a couple, when they are not.

[Nalu]

If I did date, I would date Christians exclusively.

We would not even be talkin to each other in the first place if we did not meet in Christian circles.

So to answer the question, we would both know we were Christians long before any formal introductions were made.

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by Allin

Ha haaa, Liamson. Wow, that was funny about the Bible study!

I checked the 'after about 20 minutes' button. Most girls I know aren't Christian. I hate to say it, but I don't do much church (*braces for a hail of Christian stones*) Yeah, I don't go to the regular church meetings right now. It seems they have people so confused in churches... I usually won't tell a girl I'm a Christian until I have to (it's not like I can tell them I go to church since I don't now). Not that I don't want them to know, but I think being Christian is ho hum to so many people today. If they can spot a difference and ask because of that, I feel more comfortable that way. I think being sincerely gracious to everyone (old, young, rich, poor, etc.) and not distinguishing between people due to race, religion, social status, etc. always makes them curious-- some hate it and some like it. (When I worked with mostly Catholic and Christian women, they didn't know what to make of me. They were all married but saw flirting as an intramural sport. They asked me why I didn't flirt. I do flirt! Just not with married women!) I think I find it easier to talk to non-religious girls who aren't confused by religion, stuck between how they should live and how they really are... So, it often takes a while to have to say anything about God because most people don't care about God, and I won't push anything on them; but in time, they'll ask a question that relates to God... then I can answer

Great , imallin. I think earlier than after 20 minutes is best because it strikesaccountability immediately into the meeting. And, guys (and gals, miladies ) , this is not assuming you are on a date , it usually is not a date set up already where you meet . Typically, BEFORE an actual date, we , the guy, meet the girl through some coincilidence, see her at grocery line and she's just right by you a couple, three, five minutes, or, maybe you both just sit by each other in a library (and, guys, IF she sits 1,or even 2 chairs from you, it's probably a sign, so don't be clueless ) at college or just the public lib.

Yes, imallin, sometimes church is not the best place for us for a 'season' of our life, the Lord leads, keep your eyes on Him and all will be well

Originally Posted by AsifinPassing

I didn't answer the poll or written questions, because I don't date people which lack an already established relationship with me, so we would both know each others beliefs before that point.

Hey, HI ASIF, I really should have PM'd you to just say 'Hi' last month, my good dog, bro, cuz not seen you on here but my green brains... I ALWAYS blame things on that stringy thing of mine upstairs, so to speak. That's what comes to mind , anyway.

But good to hear from you, AsIf, I do think of you and pray all is well when I do, you are the man with the beagle-smart intelligence of Snoopy , and, THAT, is very, very smart, folks, by the way .

Yeah, I say above that the situation is not usually a appointed 'date' that the guy will mention to the girl he is a Christian, in a subtle , or, indiscreet, way, shape, or, form . But, however the Lord leads, AsIf, that is how you (and me, and, everybody ) should want to do 'it,' with 'it,' being everything in your life, Gbu, Christ bro.

Originally Posted by violakat

I have to agree with Liam about church, Green. If a guy meets up with me at church, and considers it a date, then to me, is he going to church because of God, or is he going to church to meet single women?
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However, a lot of single women are hesitant to sit with someone they have just started seeing, simply because they do not want to be known as a couple, when they are not.

Vkat, if you just meet at church by chance, I think that place is an EXCEPTION to the rule. In that case, it can be assumed you are both seeking Christ .

However, as I said to my good buddy Asif, the Lord leads. I just want to be saying in my posts of this thread that THE GUY needs to be the INITIATOR of the relationship. And, that relationship should quickly become God's . Doing that, means getting God involved in the 'game,' that way you will be much more apt (accountable) to play it right. and YES! meeting a girl and selling yourself is a GAME, not to mention , a business. And, you should model your 'game' guys with the business of God's ways the forefront of your mind. The lady is not to be MADE to take the lead about spiriitual things, YOU are.

[AsifinPassing]

You're Awesome Green...and your nice. GreenNnice? Lol.

Anyway, I posted in a different thread as to the situation. Usually, it's not as hard as people make it sound. When I talk to people, me asking them "Hey, are you a Christian?" ...or them asking me..."Are you Christian?" normally comes up naturally and isn't much to think over.

As explained in the other thread, I normally suspect others, and they suspect me (visa versa, if you will) of being Christian or not. Even though you can't judge a book by its cover necessarily, when Jesus was around, most people didn't have to ask if He was Jesus, they could tell. In the same way, Christ lives in you, so if you have a heart for God and are living with and trying to be like him, people can tell. Just sayin...