What are you looking for in a boyfriend/girlfriend?

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dothackzero

dothackzero

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For me it's this....

A girl that loves God, though perferably someone that's about as strong of a Christian as I am. So we'll be able to grow together as Christians..
A girl that hasn't done anything beyond making out with a guy, or another girl. Or in other words a virgin. :p
A girl that's waiting till she's married for sex, or anything else that would be fun in a sexual way.
A girl that doesn't smoke, drink or do drugs.
A girl that has a healthy weight.
A girl that doesn't mind a guy that plays video games, watches anime, or listens to metal, even though they aren't really Christian stuff. And probably even a lot of us would concider it evil. :p
A girl that's anywhere from 18-23.

There is more I'm looking for than just this, but I can't really think of the other things. I just tend to notice the other things though obseriving the girl, to figure out what else I like.
 
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missy2shoes

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A guy who is honest, faithful and loyal.........integrity is what I look for most........
 
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ForeverYours

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What I've learned from a friend...someone that loves God 100% and puts Him first in their life. If they have that then they will have everything else you want.
 
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SamIam

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here is my list! (i have a list for everything) and this is in no particular order

-someone who is genuine
- has a sense of humor
-is a christian, not just says it, but walks it.
- Somebody different than me
- Not critical or demanding
-honest and has integrity..
- loyalty... very very important to me.....
 
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davidnc76

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A woman with a a spiritual side, sense of humor, and the ability to forgive-because none of us are perfect.
 
Johnoble

Johnoble

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dothackzero said:
For me it's this....

A girl that loves God, though perferably someone that's about as strong of a Christian as I am. So we'll be able to grow together as Christians..
A girl that hasn't done anything beyond making out with a guy, or another girl. Or in other words a virgin. :p
A girl that's waiting till she's married for sex, or anything else that would be fun in a sexual way.
A girl that doesn't smoke, drink or do drugs.
A girl that has a healthy weight.
A girl that doesn't mind a guy that plays video games, watches anime, or listens to metal, even though they aren't really Christian stuff. And probably even a lot of us would concider it evil. :p
A girl that's anywhere from 18-23.

There is more I'm looking for than just this, but I can't really think of the other things. I just tend to notice the other things though obseriving the girl, to figure out what else I like.
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Seems like you're asking too much... As long as she's a christian, pretty in my view and has a good intellectual/social awareness level, she meets my standards.
 
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ariannaaa

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i dont think he is asking too much.

those who ask the most, usually have the most to offer.
 
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SamIam

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ariannaaa said:
i dont think he is asking too much.

those who ask the most, usually have the most to offer.
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not from what i've seen. It seems the more picky some one is the more they demand perfection from you. The more they ask the more you must perform in a certain manor to be accepted. Normally those that set really high standards are usually very very hard to please. Even when you meet it, theres always gonna be something else. There never satisfied. Dating or marrying someone like that is never fun. Its harder to be just human with those types of people. I have found those that ask the most... are the most diffuclut to keep happy.
 
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missy2shoes

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yup....*nods*
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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SamIam said:
not from what i've seen. It seems the more picky some one is the more they demand perfection from you. The more they ask the more you must perform in a certain manor to be accepted. Normally those that set really high standards are usually very very hard to please. Even when you meet it, theres always gonna be something else. There never satisfied. Dating or marrying someone like that is never fun. Its harder to be just human with those types of people. I have found those that ask the most... are the most diffuclut to keep happy.
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Actually other than those standards, I'm actually pretty easy to please. btw, I do fit the standards I'm looking for in a girl myself. As for what I have to offer to take a look in the 1st post on here.

http://christianchat.com/showthread.php?t=2293
 
Johnoble

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ariannaaa said:
i dont think he is asking too much.

those who ask the most, usually have the most to offer.
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It appears to me that if you wait until you find that someone that fits every check box of your list, you're in for a long wait. What if a girl fits all your preferences except that she doesn't like video games or sports?
Will you discard her as a possible gf? Absolutely not!!!
In my case as I said, she must be christian who loves the lord. Someone that I can consider beautiful (which isn't your usual sensual looking woman) and someone that I can actually sit down with and have a smart conversation about society, music, art, politics, and know that she'll have a opinion. Nothing TOO deep neither.
 
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SamIam

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dothackzero said:
Actually other than those standards, I'm actually pretty easy to please. btw, I do fit the standards I'm looking for in a girl myself. As for what I have to offer to take a look in the 1st post on here.

http://christianchat.com/showthread.php?t=2293
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i wasnt commenting about you being hard to please.. i was commenting on what arrianna said about the more picky someone is the more they have to offer
 
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godisdaman

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yea but someone tell me please that these girls are still out there. :(
 
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SamIam

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What kinda girls you talkin about?????
 
Chopsui101

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what do i look for in a girl...lets see...haha

1. Got to be shorter than me by a bit...but thats not hard i'm 6 foot with no shoes.
2. Preferably Asian
3. Is over 21
4. Enjoys a social drink or two but doesn't drink excessively...because if you do...i know i will...
5. Got to find her attractive in a physical way
6. Got to love me and be loyal
 
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ariannaaa

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just because you have standards doesn't mean there isn't any wriggle room.

and in MY experience, the people who say 'oh yeah just someone whos fun and isn't a ditz' are the guys who really have nothing to offer themselves. but the men who want someone who is mature, ambitious, intelligent, Godly, etc... are the ones who are all of those things themselves, and don't want to waste their time on someone who will not be compatible with themselves- so they know what they're looking for ahead of time.

if you have enough self control to obstain from certain things and to build your self character in certain ways, i dont think its wrong for you to expect the same from the opposite sex.

but hey.. just my experience :)
 
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pinkstix56

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Hmmm... a guy who is funny ,
umm doesn't get easily offended,
loves God with all of his heart,
um respects me and loves me fore who i am,
honest and very caring , but very strong and independent. :]
 
taggerung

taggerung

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godisdaman said:
yea but someone tell me please that these girls are still out there. :(
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i understand how you feel, i see people i know everyday (including me ) get doubtfull that there are girls or guys out there for us that are truly right for us... i keep meeting frogs instead of princes. i just try to focus on god and guard my heart
 
dothackzero

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taggerung said:
i understand how you feel, i see people i know everyday (including me ) get doubtfull that there are girls or guys out there for us that are truly right for us... i keep meeting frogs instead of princes. i just try to focus on god and guard my heart
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Atleast your probably finding frogs that wanna be you friend, I can't even find that right now. ;_;
 
taggerung

taggerung

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most of my froggy friends are too busy chasing other girls thy end up ignoring me lol, im pretty loyal too so i end up putting up with it too, its kinda unhealthy
 
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