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So I'm 20 years old, and I met this girl a little while ago - about 6 weeks ago. And as I have gotten to know her, ive started to really like her, and i've never felt this way about anyone before, and i feel there must be a reason for that. I asked her out for lunch a couple of times, and i, at least, felt we strongly bonded. Lots of talking, laughing, it was really nice.
Well, a month or so later, I told this girl I liked her. And a week or so later she sends me this long email, telling me about everything she's been doing in asia, (she's gone over there with her church to help). but she also said that she's thought long and deeply about it, but that she's not ready for a boyfriend, and that one reason is because she feels that she is not unselfish enough to treat someone in the way that they should be treated in a relationship, and that she feels she'd let all her validation get tied up in that person, and she said that there are other reasons too but they're too long and complicated. and she said that she felt really honored that someone she thinks highly of likes her,
But she's not selfish in any way whatsoever, she's so nice, and i just enjoy so much being around her and talking with her. I'm not going to let this ruin our friendship or anything, but i guess there is a part of me which just wants to try again. I feel that there is a reason that i feel so strongly for her, and to be honest, i felt that she kind of liked me too to start with as well. But maybe i was just very wrong.
Although I know I probably should, I guess I'm asking is it time to give up? I'm asking because I'm wondering maybe if I came on too strong too soon (we had only been out to lunch twice, and I only met her about a month and a half ago), and if I gave it a bit of time I could try again. She's christian (I am too), and one of my friends was going out with a christian girl and he said that whenever he asked her if they could be official, she always said that she just wasn't ready for the relationship, but then 2 months later she finally agreed.
I guess i just have no idea because ive never had these feelings nor been in this situation before. Thanks for the help everybody
Well, a month or so later, I told this girl I liked her. And a week or so later she sends me this long email, telling me about everything she's been doing in asia, (she's gone over there with her church to help). but she also said that she's thought long and deeply about it, but that she's not ready for a boyfriend, and that one reason is because she feels that she is not unselfish enough to treat someone in the way that they should be treated in a relationship, and that she feels she'd let all her validation get tied up in that person, and she said that there are other reasons too but they're too long and complicated. and she said that she felt really honored that someone she thinks highly of likes her,
But she's not selfish in any way whatsoever, she's so nice, and i just enjoy so much being around her and talking with her. I'm not going to let this ruin our friendship or anything, but i guess there is a part of me which just wants to try again. I feel that there is a reason that i feel so strongly for her, and to be honest, i felt that she kind of liked me too to start with as well. But maybe i was just very wrong.
Although I know I probably should, I guess I'm asking is it time to give up? I'm asking because I'm wondering maybe if I came on too strong too soon (we had only been out to lunch twice, and I only met her about a month and a half ago), and if I gave it a bit of time I could try again. She's christian (I am too), and one of my friends was going out with a christian girl and he said that whenever he asked her if they could be official, she always said that she just wasn't ready for the relationship, but then 2 months later she finally agreed.
I guess i just have no idea because ive never had these feelings nor been in this situation before. Thanks for the help everybody