hmmm dose God still gives wife?

[mctedo]

i think God has stop giving wife, but he wants us to find our wife our self. i also believed there are no such things like a fix destiny.
i have my reasons. and scripture references too, but for now i need your views on the topic. if you have any scripture references as well please provide to help others that will be wondering as well as we are.

[zeroturbulence]

I don't believe in "soul mates" (someone who was BORN to be your spouse) unless you were Adam, but I do believe that if you pray for a wife and let God pick and choose for you and ask for a sign from God to show you who He has chosen, then you will find a good wife.

God bless.

[Crossfire]

Originally Posted by mctedo

i think God has stop giving wife, but he wants us to find our wife our self. i also believed there are no such things like a fix destiny.
i have my reasons. and scripture references too, but for now i need your views on the topic. if you have any scripture references as well please provide to help others that will be wondering as well as we are.

I while I tend to agree with you that there is no one perfect person that God has made especially for you, the last thing any Christian wants to do is to rush into marriage without really knowing the person you are marrying.

In the past, I have dated supposedly Christian girls who seemingly had an entirely different idea as to what it means to be saved than I do. I've also learned that this can happen in your own church or denomination. Before you commit to anyone not only do you need to understand how they believe, but also take the necessary time to make sure that are actually living what they claim to believe. It will save you a lot of heartache and stress down the road.

Over the years, I have made some great friends whom I felt had a great calling on their lives. However, they would never be allowed to fulfill those callings because of they had married wives that were more self centered than Christ centered.

[Ugly]

It goes against logic to think that God is not interested in helping guide people into healthy marriages any longer and that He's now just going to leave us to our own. Why would God suddenly not care? That doesn't sound like the God i worship. God knows we fail when we take Him out of our choices, so what scripture do you have to back that idea up?
I'm going to take a guess and assume its more likely that you're like every other 20-something single on this site and are just upset you're still single and think you'll never be married since you aren't married now.

[mctedo]

thank you all for you wonderful contributions, as i said before that i don't believed in fix destiny is that, the only one God gave a wife is Adam and after God gave Adam a wife, Adam turn and accused God for giving him a wife.
(Gen 3:12 [KJV])
And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest [to be] with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.

and the book of proverb says,
(Prov 18:22 [KJV])
[Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

that means God has stop giving wife, but when you find one, you will obtain favor from him. if the scripture says he who finds a wife finds a good thing then i think he is in charge of finding the wife.

what i mean by i don't believed in fix destiny is that, because God gave man choice.
the destiny GOD DESIGN for Adam and Eve is that they will live for Ever in the Garden of Eden. but they chose their own destiny to die. so this means our destiny is in our hands.

but i understand all of you. when you said if one ask for help from God, he will help him to find a wife. yes that is right. because i have come to understanding that the Destiny God has prepared for us is in his word. so if one live according to the word of God, one will arrive at the destiny God has prepared for him/ her. but if one shift from the word of God that is when one chooses his / her own destiny.

thank you

[Ugly]

Neither one of those scriptures proves anything about God not bringing people a spouse. God takes marriage seriously and to imply that God no longer cares enough to direct us to someone we can remain in marriage with just makes no sense whatsoever.
I do not believe in 'the one' or 'soulmates'. I believe there are many potential spouses out there that we could stay happily married to. But that does not mean that God does not still bring us together.
Also, if you read Gen 3:12 In Context Adam is not accusing God of anything. You have to read verse 11 as well and not isolate scripture in an effort to validate your personal opinions.

11And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? 12And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.



He is not blaming God for his wife, or angry at God, God asked Adam a question, and verse 12 is simply Adams answer to the question. Not a complaint to God. Please keep things in context.

[andrew12]

Does God have just one person picked out for me to marry, or does He have several possibilities for me to choose from?

This question has as many different answers as there are people you ask. Among the answers:

Things will just click.
You can't stand being apart.
You are compatible.
You will feel it deep in your heart.

It doesn't take a genius to decide which type of person you would enjoy spending the rest of your life with so, first, eliminate all noncontenders.

Then ask yourself the question: "Does God want me to marry the right person or a right person?" Some say God wants you to marry "the" right person, meaning He has one, and only one, person picked out for you to marry. Others feel that there are many people out there whom God would consider a suitable mate for you; therefore, God wants you to marry "a" right person.

To avoid the controversy and the confusion, consider this perspective: Of the rest, pick the best. Of all the contenders, pick the best one for you, then you have the best of both options. If God has only one picked out, you can be sure you got him or her. On the other hand, if there are several right ones out there, then you can be sure to get the best one possible (adapted from Love: Making It Last, pp. 123, 126).

by Josh mcdowell

Does God have just one person - or several - picked out for me to marry?-JMM