Calling all Christian virgin funny girls who like Super Mario!

[J-26]

Hey everyone, I'm Joe. I'm looking for my "one", and maybe she's somewhere on CC. I just want to put down what I'm looking for in a woman, and anyone who thinks she matches the description can contact me so we can get to know one another. Here we go (In no particular order):

-Christian
-Virgin (with plans of remaining so until marriage)
-Sweet
-Funny
-Loves video games (especially Mario games)
-Loves bands such as KISS, Aerosmith, Guns 'n' Roses, The Stones...
-Also has a taste for musicals such as The Phantom of the Opera
-Comes from a good family
-Rejects divorce, homosexuality, and abortion PERIOD
-Isn't pushy, controlling, naggy, or Immasculating (perhaps I watch too much TV)
-Would love me for me, NOT what she can turn me into (if you have to change ANYTHING about me in order to find me acceptable, then we're clearly not meant to be together)

Well, there it is. I know it's a lot, but I know what I want and I plan on getting it
I'm looking forward to your responses. God bless

[EBC]

your one is God ... so ,now you mean you are looking for the two ... one only condition is enough ,which is to be a true born again christian lady... then she will also love you because she loves you ... not because you deserve it or not ... may the Lord bless you ! ...

[Catlynn]

Hey Joe,
Welcome to cc. I just wanted to point out that this isn't a dating site for finding "the one." It is, however, a site for encouragement, support, fellowship, bible studies and much more. It's true that some have found such great friends here that they couldn't live without them and ended up getting married but that isn't the purpose of the site.
I hope you find some great friends and a drive to seek Christ and His kingdom far above all else!

Nice. A check list. *thumbs up* Welcome to Cc. I hope you enjoy yourself here. Respect the rules, respect the members, makes some friends, and you'll do fine. God bless you, buddy.

[AAAPlus]

Originally Posted by J-26

Hey everyone, I'm Joe. I'm looking for my "one", and maybe she's somewhere on CC. I just want to put down what I'm looking for in a woman, and anyone who thinks she matches the description can contact me so we can get to know one another. Here we go (In no particular order):

-Christian
-Virgin (with plans of remaining so until marriage)
-Sweet
-Funny
-Loves video games (especially Mario games)
-Loves bands such as KISS, Aerosmith, Guns 'n' Roses, The Stones...
-Also has a taste for musicals such as The Phantom of the Opera
-Comes from a good family
-Rejects divorce, homosexuality, and abortion PERIOD
-Isn't pushy, controlling, naggy, or Immasculating (perhaps I watch too much TV)
-Would love me for me, NOT what she can turn me into (if you have to change ANYTHING about me in order to find me acceptable, then we're clearly not meant to be together)

Well, there it is. I know it's a lot, but I know what I want and I plan on getting it
I'm looking forward to your responses. God bless

Yeah, I get what you're doing here, but this is kind of arrogant and pompous. Some of these things are legit qualities (uh...likes Super Mario? Sure.). But stuff like she has to be a virgin and come from a good family...that's stuff that a girl might not be able to help. Maybe she was raped, or lost it before she became a Christian. If you're still holding it against her despite the fact that she has repented of it, you're judging her in a harsh manner (don't forget, however you judge, you'll be judged by the same standard). And no one can help what family they came from, so that's pretty cold to make that a requirement. And you're giving a double-standard here because you want HER to accept you just as you are, but you're not okay with her the way she is (as in the family she comes from). And the whole "love me for me" thing just sounds like you're trying to be lazy and not grow. A good woman should make you into a better man. If you remained 20-years-mature your whole life you would be doing her a disservice.

It's a tough word to hear, but you had to hear it bro.

Welcome to CC =)

[J-26]

Originally Posted by Kooper

Nice. A check list. *thumbs up* Welcome to Cc. I hope you enjoy yourself here. Respect the rules, respect the members, makes some friends, and you'll do fine. God bless you, buddy.

Thanks, man I hope you're having fun here too

[J-26]

Originally Posted by AAAPlus

Yeah, I get what you're doing here, but this is kind of arrogant and pompous. Some of these things are legit qualities (uh...likes Super Mario? Sure.). But stuff like she has to be a virgin and come from a good family...that's stuff that a girl might not be able to help. Maybe she was raped, or lost it before she became a Christian. If you're still holding it against her despite the fact that she has repented of it, you're judging her in a harsh manner (don't forget, however you judge, you'll be judged by the same standard). And no one can help what family they came from, so that's pretty cold to make that a requirement. And you're giving a double-standard here because you want HER to accept you just as you are, but you're not okay with her the way she is (as in the family she comes from). And the whole "love me for me" thing just sounds like you're trying to be lazy and not grow. A good woman should make you into a better man. If you remained 20-years-mature your whole life you would be doing her a disservice.

It's a tough word to hear, but you had to hear it bro.

Welcome to CC =)

Whoa, hold on a second...I'm not arrogant or pompous. I'm not being judgemental towards this hypthetical woman by wanting her to be a certain way, I'm saying that I have certain standards (as does everybody) and I don't want to settle just so I can look like a good humanitarian. I'm not an unforgiving person, I just desire specific qualities in a woman. And the "Love me for me" thing has nothing to do with maturity. Obviously, I will mature as I age, but not on my wife's terms. I'm not saying that I don't want to mature at all. I'm saying that I don't want her to try to turn me into a different person if she isn't happy with my God-given personality. That's not pride, it's just human nature. No one likes to be controlled. And BTW, this is the singles forum, so next time think twice before you turn it into yet another hostile, I'm-right-you're-wrong Bible study. W'e're Christians. We need to be nicer to one another.

[Kris3]

Hey J-26. Welcome to CC and hope you enjoy your time here!
Just so you know I don't believe AAAPlus was outright calling you arrogant or pompous. I think he was saying your post could very well come off that way. Coming from a ladies perspective a check list can be a little intimidating, and some of the qualifications you have for a gal are things that you might think are very important to you, but maybe to AAAPlus are things that people can't help, or are mistakes they made in the past. One thing he brought up was the virginity thing. If you meet a great Christian gal who you have so many things in common with her but after a few weeks (maybe even months) you find out that when she was 18 she mad the terrible mistake of having sex with a guy. God's forgiven her, all is right in her life.... Would you really dump her because of that one thing? Everything else in place except that?
I think he maybe wanted you to see that side. You also are very young still (which is a great thing! you have so many life experiences ahead of you!) and I had the same notions as you, but as you get older and as you have more life experiences, I believe that the things on your check list might not be as important anymore.
I hop you don't take this as people dogging on you or your list. It's good you know what you want. I just really hope you don't stick to your list so much that you miss out on your chance with a great gal. But, if you stay close to God I'm sure you won't have that problem. )
God Bless friend!

-Kris-

[Ugly]

I'd take a woman with a past over a 'virgin from a good family' personally. I"m an imperfect person and i've made my mistakes. I've grown and learned a lot as a result. I'm stronger, wiser. I want a stronger, wiser woman that can relate to me. Most of the type of girls you're looking for, that i've met, are in a Christian bubble, and are quite clueless and often have no understanding of other people who struggle.

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by Ugly

I'd take a woman with a past over a 'virgin from a good family' personally. I"m an imperfect person and i've made my mistakes. I've grown and learned a lot as a result. I'm stronger, wiser. I want a stronger, wiser woman that can relate to me. Most of the type of girls you're looking for, that i've met, are in a Christian bubble, and are quite clueless and often have no understanding of other people who struggle.

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It's impotant, jaydashtwosix, to follow God's 'nique plan for your life. R U ?

IF U R, U will get your desires answered, in His timing, could be today, could be next week, but God knows best and will support you in YOUR plan IF it's BEST for you

Just saying certain words in a list you can offend/hurt a lot of girls, Y U want to do that?

Just go to chatroom and start talking to girls with God leading your talk. All things on your list you can discuss with someone you find interesting. PM them, and, THEN if you want to ask direct things to her do it.

[BlueAngel]

Originally Posted by Ugly

Most of the type of girls you're looking for, that i've met, are in a Christian bubble, and are quite clueless and often have no understanding of other people who struggle.

Unless of course, they've struggled themselves and know how it feels to go through life alone.
I'm a single girl, still a virgin, and pretty much everything he's required on there. He seems like a really sweet guy. It isn't pompous, or arrogant to want a girl with specific qualities, it's actually a really good idea to set standards for who he wants.
I didn't set standards for who I wanted, and what I wanted, and it hurt me to find out that my last boyfriend wasn't all he needed to be, and all I needed him to be.
So you can't judge him.
I have my own standards for a guy now, and if a guy doesn't meet them, he's not right for me.
....
But, you might/ could have said that she should love God more than anything else... if she was that way, she'd be perfect for you... because she would keep herself pure, she wouldn't judge you, and she'd be everything you'd ever hope for.

[J-26]

Thanks...I think I understand what you're saying. God bless.

[J-26]

I appreciate that. I understand what you're saying. I'll take it under consideration. God bless.

[Ugly]

Originally Posted by BlueAngel

Unless of course, they've struggled themselves and know how it feels to go through life alone.
I'm a single girl, still a virgin, and pretty much everything he's required on there. He seems like a really sweet guy. It isn't pompous, or arrogant to want a girl with specific qualities, it's actually a really good idea to set standards for who he wants.
I didn't set standards for who I wanted, and what I wanted, and it hurt me to find out that my last boyfriend wasn't all he needed to be, and all I needed him to be.
So you can't judge him.
I have my own standards for a guy now, and if a guy doesn't meet them, he's not right for me.
....
But, you might/ could have said that she should love God more than anything else... if she was that way, she'd be perfect for you... because she would keep herself pure, she wouldn't judge you, and she'd be everything you'd ever hope for.

No one is saying having standards is bad, its just a matter of being careful of what standards are truly important. Especially when those standards don't allow for peoples past mistakes. You really risk short-changing yourself.
Also, once you start viewing people with a list of requirements on what the can and cannot be, that does not sit well with most people. People don't want to feel like they have to measure up to some list to be approved of. Especially romantically.

[BlueAngel]

I don't think that's what he intended.
It is NEVER too much to ask that a girl be pure, not judgmental, loving, and accepting.
I don't think he means to be heartless and reject a girl for something she couldn't help... sometimes things happen. (eg. raped or abused).
Didn't someone say that this is supposed to be a place where we should uplift and support each other?
I don't think that judging him is very uifting...

[GreenNnice]

God bless, too, jaydashtwosix

I understand your post, it's good intentions, and, I just want you to see the perspective of ladies on here that will cry a tear or two, thinking they are not good enough.

If it was bad behavior by you, I would have called you out and said you need help. But I know we all make bad judgments, some much more than others, important thing is to try to make things right with those maybe hurt , by saying sorry, asking forgiveness and then next time same situation arises....turn to God in prayer before doing anything.

Again, you meant well as I see it, no inuendo, no putdowns, just your desires for right lady for you.


Great to want that, but don't tell us, tell God (in prayer, bible reading), God will hear you, and, if you ask with right desire, He will make your dreams come true. And, getting a good wife, compatible for us best is EXACTLY what God wants to do because we can best GLORIFY God together that way and love others. :-)

[J-26]

Originally Posted by GreenNnice

God bless, too, jaydashtwosix

I understand your post, it's good intentions, and, I just want you to see the perspective of ladies on here that will cry a tear or two, thinking they are not good enough.

If it was bad behavior by you, I would have called you out and said you need help. But I know we all make bad judgments, some much more than others, important thing is to try to make things right with those maybe hurt , by saying sorry, asking forgiveness and then next time same situation arises....turn to God in prayer before doing anything.

Again, you meant well as I see it, no inuendo, no putdowns, just your desires for right lady for you.


Great to want that, but don't tell us, tell God (in prayer, bible reading), God will hear you, and, if you ask with right desire, He will make your dreams come true. And, getting a good wife, compatible for us best is EXACTLY what God wants to do because we can best GLORIFY God together that way and love others. :-)

Thanks, I know what you mean. I certainly don't want to make anyone cry or feel like they're not good enough. If there are any girls here that read my thread and were made to feel bad because of it, I sincerely apologize and hope you will forgive me. There's nothing wrong with any of you. I've heard this saying before: "No one is perfect, just forgiven".

[Pheonix]

just wait till you get to my age J-26. You'll realize that being a virgin isn't that big a deal. I'm to the point where between mistakes, divorce and death, the likelyhood of a woman being a virgin is getting pretty slim. I'm not saying it isn't possible, I'm just saying worry about the personality rather than how the plumbing looks. Please excuse the analogy ladies.

[Elizabeth619]

Being a virgin is a big deal. If a woman can "wait" it shows she respects her body and doesn't fall to temptation. Very admirable trait to have these days.

Nothing wrong with him wanting a virgin.

[fatbud2]

What's up man....hope you will be a good time on cc. This is more like a fellowship than a dating website, but this a very fun place to interact with other christians. You got a lot of expectations lol, but it's good to know what you want. Do many people still play Mario?