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The older I get the more I realize how important it is to LISTEN and LEARN from the mistakes of others.
If you are single and think you might be missing out on something by not having sex or if you are married and think you might be missing something by remaining faithful to your spouse, I hope God will answer questions you may have by reading this.
A 23 year old recently divorced woman I know shared this information with several of us today. She was married, but her marriage was “missing something”. She married her high school sweetheart just after graduation and the two of them apparently “drifted apart”. She was a christian. He said he was too, but she later discovered he was not, especially when she came home and caught him with two teenage girls in their own home.
Apparently guys were hitting on her obviously all the time and she knew they were only interested in her for “one thing”, as she is very attractive. Then she met “Mr. Nice Guy”, who was “different from the others”. Mr. Nice Guy was MARRIED btw. He told her that he loved her, that his wife was cheating on him too, blah….blah…blah. And she fell for it. Apparently they had an affair for about a month and he decided that he was going to stay with his wife. (Translation: He got what he wanted and was moving on)
So…she has decided that “Men lie to get what they want, even the “nice” guys” so, from now on, she is going to “use sex to get what SHE wants”…ugh. (Yes, I’m praying for her)
There are SO many lessons here….
- Don’t take a prospective spouse’s word that they are a christian. Take your time and observe their dedication and fruit. Are they as passionate as you are about the Lord?
- There’s no hurry to marry as soon as you are legally able to do so. You are not the same person at 18 that you will be 5 or even 10 years from now.
- When you are intimate with someone who isn’t willing to wait until you are married to them, you are setting yourself up for heartache. Please understand that I’m not blaming/bashing just guys here. Women lie too. Women use men too. We know that.
- If you are married, the grass is not greener on the other side. Your vantage point just makes it appear that way.
Just look at how many people were hurt in this situation alone! No wonder God hates this so much!
I know my threads are normally far more uplifting than the last two, but I've seen SO MANY hurting people lately. If only one person is warned and protected, it will have been worth the time and prayer, right?
If you are single and think you might be missing out on something by not having sex or if you are married and think you might be missing something by remaining faithful to your spouse, I hope God will answer questions you may have by reading this.
A 23 year old recently divorced woman I know shared this information with several of us today. She was married, but her marriage was “missing something”. She married her high school sweetheart just after graduation and the two of them apparently “drifted apart”. She was a christian. He said he was too, but she later discovered he was not, especially when she came home and caught him with two teenage girls in their own home.
Apparently guys were hitting on her obviously all the time and she knew they were only interested in her for “one thing”, as she is very attractive. Then she met “Mr. Nice Guy”, who was “different from the others”. Mr. Nice Guy was MARRIED btw. He told her that he loved her, that his wife was cheating on him too, blah….blah…blah. And she fell for it. Apparently they had an affair for about a month and he decided that he was going to stay with his wife. (Translation: He got what he wanted and was moving on)
So…she has decided that “Men lie to get what they want, even the “nice” guys” so, from now on, she is going to “use sex to get what SHE wants”…ugh. (Yes, I’m praying for her)
There are SO many lessons here….
- Don’t take a prospective spouse’s word that they are a christian. Take your time and observe their dedication and fruit. Are they as passionate as you are about the Lord?
- There’s no hurry to marry as soon as you are legally able to do so. You are not the same person at 18 that you will be 5 or even 10 years from now.
- When you are intimate with someone who isn’t willing to wait until you are married to them, you are setting yourself up for heartache. Please understand that I’m not blaming/bashing just guys here. Women lie too. Women use men too. We know that.
- If you are married, the grass is not greener on the other side. Your vantage point just makes it appear that way.
Just look at how many people were hurt in this situation alone! No wonder God hates this so much!
I know my threads are normally far more uplifting than the last two, but I've seen SO MANY hurting people lately. If only one person is warned and protected, it will have been worth the time and prayer, right?