Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 123
Results 41 to 57 of 57

Christian Singles Forum

Christian and single? Seek (or give) advice and encouragement here.

Thread: So fustrated with being single...

  1. #41
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    August 2nd, 2009
    Age
    48
    Posts
    9,668
    Blog Entries
    18
    Rep Power
    21

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by Vandher View Post
    Man I wish someone would have told me that years ago, I had relationships broken down into a science
    I wish someone had told me it too when I was younger. I only figured it out much later in life. I also over complicated things like a lot of guys do.


  2. #42
    Banned
    Join Date
    May 4th, 2009
    Age
    26
    Posts
    1,534
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by zeroturbulence View Post
    God does not just give you a wife. If you want a wife you have to find yourself one. From all these threads, I see that your problem is that you are just too afraid to try. Stop worrying about being rejected or whether your words will make it or break it with a girl. Just start looking and take the blows as they come. An eagle can't learn how to fly until it has the courage to keep jumping and falling out of the nest until that day when its finally successful.
    Actually, I am trying nowadays.(I can actually talk to girls a little more comfortably.) But I still do the fear of rejection. Basically, I'm progressing, but just not as fast as I want to be(which is why I made this topic.)

  3. #43
    Senior Member Liamson's Avatar
    Join Date
    February 3rd, 2010
    Age
    29
    Posts
    3,001
    Blog Entries
    2
    Rep Power
    11

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    To say that love flows in my veins, unopposed deep, A thousand ways.

  4. #44
    Senior Member GreenNnice's Avatar
    Join Date
    January 21st, 2011
    Age
    46
    Posts
    9,182
    Rep Power
    17

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by dothackzero View Post
    Yeah, it really starting to become that want for a wife is preventing me from finding a wife. Basically, It's becoming obvious that I need to put God first before looking for a wife. Anyway, I'm starting to ask God to help me put him 1st and looking for a wife 2nd and asking him to prepair me to be a good husband.
    ------
    Yes.
    Without God, we have nothing. With Him, we have everything we ever need, and, more.

    Is compassion compassion at all if it's not based on the Truth ?

    The Holy Spirit leads ALL believers lives, wants to. Are you letting Him lead yours ?

    God bless your days !

  5. #45
    Member
    Join Date
    July 27th, 2011
    Age
    32
    Posts
    36
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    have u ever thought how you would encounter your Ms/Mr.Right?

  6. #46
    Senior Member Trax's Avatar
    Join Date
    January 28th, 2012
    Age
    50
    Posts
    963
    Rep Power
    3

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by dothackzero View Post
    Basically, waiting for God to provide me with a girlfriend is getting really hard. I'm trying to do my of part of looking by trusting in Jesus to give me the social skills, boldness, words to say to girls.(No, I'm not blaming this on God). But I'm still not really getting anywhere, It seemed like things where getting better for a little while, but now it just seems that it's going back to normal again. I'm not sure if I'm not getting anywhere by trying to hard, and just not letting Jesus work through me or something, or if I'm not doing enough.
    I used to pray for a wife. I didn't know any better either. I'm much wiser now and glad God
    never answered my prayer. I have listened to many hours of Christian programing on marriage,
    on Christian radio. It depresses me, to hear how much work, a marriage takes. I could never
    have made it. It would drive me insane. A lot of people can handle the work required for
    a successful marriage. I'm not one of them and God kept me single.

  7. #47
    Member
    Join Date
    March 2nd, 2012
    Age
    45
    Posts
    57
    Rep Power
    3

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    The statement "I want to be married by 25" is part of your problem. 1. Let God make the plans for your life rather than trying to plan it yourself.
    2. Desperation is not attactive to women.

  8. #48
    Banned
    Join Date
    May 4th, 2009
    Age
    26
    Posts
    1,534
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by Trax View Post
    I used to pray for a wife. I didn't know any better either. I'm much wiser now and glad God
    never answered my prayer. I have listened to many hours of Christian programing on marriage,
    on Christian radio. It depresses me, to hear how much work, a marriage takes. I could never
    have made it. It would drive me insane. A lot of people can handle the work required for
    a successful marriage. I'm not one of them and God kept me single.
    Yeah, I've been listening about stuff about how to have a good Christian marriage. It actually only made me more excited about it.

  9. #49
    Member
    Join Date
    July 27th, 2011
    Age
    32
    Posts
    36
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    i am a shy girl and feel inferior,I am not feeling well speaking in front of people.I always worry about how people think about me,whether i look riduculous? Praise Lord,God teach me message like" i am beloved child of God,previous pearl in His hand!"i feel much better. However,the inferiority rooted in my heart such a long time that it's not so easy to take off.I want to know how i can do next to be more confident and act more like God's child with joy/assurance.Thank you for your sharing. ;-)

  10. #50
    Banned
    Join Date
    May 4th, 2009
    Age
    26
    Posts
    1,534
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Even though it looks like I am putting God on a higher level than wanting a wife. But it still doesn't make things much easier.

  11. #51
    Senior Member GreenNnice's Avatar
    Join Date
    January 21st, 2011
    Age
    46
    Posts
    9,182
    Rep Power
    17

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by dothackzero View Post
    Even though it looks like I am putting God on a higher level than wanting a wife. But it still doesn't make things much easier.
    ----
    You have to inherently want to please God , dothack0, more (so infinitely much more !) than pleasing your self. And, you're right, it is not easy, it is like a tug of war against the biggest , baddest anime dude you can imagine...And, know this, too, my prinny disgaea friend, with God pulling on your side, it is easy
    to win the war against the brutest of battlers your mind can conjure
    Without God, we have nothing. With Him, we have everything we ever need, and, more.

    Is compassion compassion at all if it's not based on the Truth ?

    The Holy Spirit leads ALL believers lives, wants to. Are you letting Him lead yours ?

    God bless your days !

  12. #52
    Senior Member PopClick's Avatar
    Join Date
    August 12th, 2011
    Age
    26
    Posts
    3,168
    Blog Entries
    9
    Rep Power
    12

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by dothackzero View Post
    Even though it looks like I am putting God on a higher level than wanting a wife. But it still doesn't make things much easier.
    If it isn't any easier, ask God again to make Himself first in your life. It's going to come up again. Put your priorities in God's hands, ask Him again to put them in the right order. Again and again, until there's peace about the whole situation.
    I protest by your rejoicing which I have in Christ Jesus our Lord, I die daily.

  13. #53
    Banned
    Join Date
    May 4th, 2009
    Age
    26
    Posts
    1,534
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Well, I've gotta say that God has gotten me to point where I want him as as a girlfriend, and probably even a little bit more.

  14. #54
    Senior Member GreenNnice's Avatar
    Join Date
    January 21st, 2011
    Age
    46
    Posts
    9,182
    Rep Power
    17

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by dothackzero View Post
    Well, I've gotta say that God has gotten me to point where I want him as as a girlfriend, and probably even a little bit more.
    ----
    Dothack0, whatever do you mean?

    God is your Saviour, your provider, your friend, who holds the future and He knows your best future. Choose Him and you will have chosen 'it.' (your best future)
    ----
    DotChristbro, I want you to read this book I am about to mention, if you have time between Xenoblade video gaming The book is 'Passion and Purity' by Elizabeth Elliott. Pray about it being a good time to read it , it is well worth reading , I feel , based on your time in life now is why I now recommend it. It is my all-time favorite book, the story is told from a girl's perspective and it is good for guys to see that side, I think.

    I see much maturity in your relationship understanding of God's best for you the last few months , dotbuddy. You are honest with your struggles and that is so big for God being able to bring you great new choices for your life .

    Be patient in Him, read the great words of The Word in this time, and, draw closer to Him in all you do, and, God will show you great, amazing things, in His time, but IF you are ready He will assuredly show you.
    Without God, we have nothing. With Him, we have everything we ever need, and, more.

    Is compassion compassion at all if it's not based on the Truth ?

    The Holy Spirit leads ALL believers lives, wants to. Are you letting Him lead yours ?

    God bless your days !

  15. #55
    Banned
    Join Date
    May 4th, 2009
    Age
    26
    Posts
    1,534
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    blah, I wish God would revel to me more about my future wife. Basically, my friend out that his wife is comming a lot sooner than he think she is. But as for, I have little to know info about wife. I keep asking God about mine, but he's just not talking about it.

  16. #56
    rock_built
    Guest

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    look man I completely get it, I havent had problems getting a girlfriend in the past but a girlfriend isnt what I wanted I wanted a good woman to be my wife. but after countless attempts with less than satisfactory results I completely stopped trying. I think alot of it has to do with the way society is geared today, I wont go to far into this subject for the sake of starting 1000 arguments but read the Bible and see how relationships and families are supposed to be set up and compare that with what we have today...everything is completely backwards from how its supposed to be and it shows in the 50% divorce rate and the people that stay married 9 times out of 10 arent happy.honestly its a blessing to be single in the times we live in. just read what paul has to say about marriage in 1 corinthians chapter 7, it will help you out. this verse kind of sums it up 1 corin 7:38 So a man who marries his fiancee does right, and a man who does not marry does better. heres another one I love from proverbs...pro 25:24 It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.....I wouldnt be to quick to rush into a relationship, your probably already on a much less stressful path if you would just learn to enjoy it

  17. #57
    Sunflower90
    Guest

    Default Re: So fustrated with being single...

    Quote Originally Posted by zeroturbulence View Post
    Dot, you have to stop thinking about how to get a girl. The more you think about how you're supposed to do it, the more complex you will make it in your mind. If you like a girl just be nice to her and if she seems to like your being nice, ask her out. That's all there is to it.

    Preach it bro.

Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 123

Similar Threads

  1. Tell Us An Awesome Single-Parent Story/Thank a Single Parent!
    By seoulsearch in forum Christian Singles Forum
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: December 16th, 2011, 11:57 PM
  2. Single Mothers in 20s Everywhere at My Church
    By SocialArtist in forum Christian Singles Forum
    Replies: 141
    Last Post: December 16th, 2011, 07:10 AM
  3. Is Being Single Tougher For Guys Than For Girls?
    By seoulsearch in forum Christian Singles Forum
    Replies: 58
    Last Post: July 7th, 2011, 09:51 PM
  4. single vs marriage
    By 4given30 in forum Christian Singles Forum
    Replies: 40
    Last Post: May 28th, 2011, 09:25 PM
  5. Surviving Church as a Single
    By MusicalMe in forum Christian Singles Forum
    Replies: 80
    Last Post: October 8th, 2009, 07:24 PM