Dating all over again

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Power_Praise

Power_Praise

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Hi everyone, so far my visit at Christian Chat has been a very good experience.
There is allot of nice people here and there is always someone here to talk too.

I wanted to share something that I have been struggling with for quite some time.

I'm now 40 and have been a single parent for the last 13 years and literally forgot how to even approach a woman now, I just don't know what to say or even where to meet them.

I have a great church, but they don't seem to have any programs tailored to single adults, so looking there to meet anyone is not working.

I wasn't too interested in meeting anyone for the last 10 years because my children needed me and there was still allot of damage made when my wife left me for another man. He had involved her in drugs and she was to blind and selfish to see what she was doing to the family.

So I'm not blaming myself for her leaving, i just came to accept that I married a gal who doesn't like just one man in her life, I should been more careful choosing my wife.

Well that was 20 years a go when we got married and it lasted 5 years and I have learned allot since.
The next gal I get involved with must be a God fearing woman, no if's, and, or buts about it.

The problem I am having now is, I forgot how to date and have no clue where to look or where to even start. I was told by a couple friends to check some of the online dating websites, so far allot of time and money is used, but no one ever replied to my hello and I am not interested in those other sites anyway, they are very vulgar.

If you found that true love in your life, hold on to him or her, you are extremely fortunate!
It is so difficult to find the right person, especially when you get older.

Ray
Abbotsford BC
Canada
 
Chopsui101

Chopsui101

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be friendly and start talking...and making friends...even people who you wouldn't think you wouldn't hang with. you never know who you can run into at the grocery store. lol
 
Power_Praise

Power_Praise

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Yeah, but that requires meeting people and there isn't to many places here to do that, at least the right crowed.

Just have to wait until God allows me to run into whoever she is.
 
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miteyquinn

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have you tried fusion101 dating site- its free and theres loads of people on it
 
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Geo_Rivero

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Hey Ray, I have a friend who was in a similar situation. They signed up for that eHarmony thing and have had great success. Its not free but I believe it has what they call guided conversations so that you can ask from a set of questions and they will reply from a set of answers which will help with your dilemma of what to say. And the site totally tells you if they think your compatible or not. Good luck:) I wanted to tell you I admire your stregnth in putting your children first the world lacks so many good fathers. Let me know if you choose to persue that site, I would like to know if you meet some one. See ya
 
Power_Praise

Power_Praise

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Yeah we tried E harmony, couldn't get one person to respond to my hello's, so i didn't last long there.
 
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iraasuup

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Hi Ray,

Thanks for sharing your story. I do some admin stuff for this site. I'm not sure if you're aware but Christian Chat has two (sister sites if you will) Christianpenpals.com and Christianpersonals.com.

As opposed to sites like eharmony and the like, these are sites that are Christian based. The pen pals one is basically just for anyone looking to meet new friends and personals is more for (as the name suggests) someone seeking more. I reccomend you go there and check out the sites. Place an ad. All ads are screened before they are posted in order to keep all the riff-raff out.

Maybe that is an option worth considering. Hope it helps.

Katie :)
 
Power_Praise

Power_Praise

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iraasuup said:
Hi Ray,

Thanks for sharing your story. I do some admin stuff for this site. I'm not sure if you're aware but Christian Chat has two (sister sites if you will) Christianpenpals.com and Christianpersonals.com.

As opposed to sites like eharmony and the like, these are sites that are Christian based. The pen pals one is basically just for anyone looking to meet new friends and personals is more for (as the name suggests) someone seeking more. I reccomend you go there and check out the sites. Place an ad. All ads are screened before they are posted in order to keep all the riff-raff out.

Maybe that is an option worth considering. Hope it helps.

Katie :)
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Thanks Katie, I will check it out :)
 
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SamIam

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are you pointing at me??
 
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SamIam

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AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
 
sisterren11492

sisterren11492

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Power_Praise said:
Hi everyone, so far my visit at Christian Chat has been a very good experience.
There is allot of nice people here and there is always someone here to talk too.

I wanted to share something that I have been struggling with for quite some time.

I'm now 40 and have been a single parent for the last 13 years and literally forgot how to even approach a woman now, I just don't know what to say or even where to meet them.

I have a great church, but they don't seem to have any programs tailored to single adults, so looking there to meet anyone is not working.

I wasn't too interested in meeting anyone for the last 10 years because my children needed me and there was still allot of damage made when my wife left me for another man. He had involved her in drugs and she was to blind and selfish to see what she was doing to the family.

So I'm not blaming myself for her leaving, i just came to accept that I married a gal who doesn't like just one man in her life, I should been more careful choosing my wife.

Well that was 20 years a go when we got married and it lasted 5 years and I have learned allot since.
The next gal I get involved with must be a God fearing woman, no if's, and, or buts about it.

The problem I am having now is, I forgot how to date and have no clue where to look or where to even start. I was told by a couple friends to check some of the online dating websites, so far allot of time and money is used, but no one ever replied to my hello and I am not interested in those other sites anyway, they are very vulgar.

If you found that true love in your life, hold on to him or her, you are extremely fortunate!
It is so difficult to find the right person, especially when you get older.

Ray
Abbotsford BC
Canada
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Bro Ray,

In 1997, my ex-husband and I split up and not long after he was seeing an 18 year old girl and it just crushed the children and I. He divorced me and married her. I thought, I would never fall in love again but I did deeper in love with Jesus. After two years studying the Word of God, I tried dating but only found ones who wasn't serious about their relationship with Jesus so I gave up on dating altogether and continue to serve the Lord and went into full-time ministry (1999) while home schooling my children.

While in the process of ministering I met a pastor and his wife online and we became very close friends. They introduced me to stillearning (Mike) and we became very close friends and began to minister together.

We were married in July of 2001 and we are best friends, brother and sister in Christ as well as husband and wife. I think he called me sister still for the first year we were married. lol. He loves the Lord and His Word as much as I do and we have so much in common. We both been through and delivered from abuse, drugs, alcohol, homeless, self harm and alot of hurt and pain.

We fit together like a glove and I am so glad I waited on the Lord and when I wasn't looking God sent Mike into my life.

I encourage you to continue to pour your heart out to God and keep serving him and He will give you the desire of your heart.

God bless,
Sis Ren
 
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Leilaii425

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poetry .... thats the way to a womans heart isnt it... Roses are Red Violets Are Blue
You Kinda Smell Like Poo
 
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OreoSoleil

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Power praise--not one?? Aww-- that's crazy
 
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