Ok Everyone,
This is a thread inspired by MusicalMe (I hope I don't have to pay any royalties or copyrights
).
Tell us about your worst dating experiences ever!! I'm not meaning to drag anyone down at all--I'm sure at the time it was mortifying but hopefully you've recovered from the trauma and are willing to share your stories here.
Anything you want to share is game--maybe it's a horror story about asking someone out (and they said no or agreed to go out with your best friend--I've had that happen PLENTY of times) or maybe it's a secret crush that never materialized but you'd still like to vent about it. Humorous, horrific, needing encouragement, or serious... go for the gold.
I can't top MusicalMe's post, but here are a few of mine:
1. I was part of a dating service several years ago and had told them THE most important thing I was looking for was a Christian. The first guy they set me up with had been a Marine and when he found out I don't have any roommates, he tried to invite himself over to my house, saying, "I never feel uncomfortable in a woman's bedroom." ACK!!! I suggested meeting for dinner instead... and one of the first things he did when I introduced myself was mumble under his breath that I had the body of a stripper who could make a lot of money... When I raised one eyebrow and said, "What did you say?" he laughed and said, "Oh, we're in a family restaurant, so I don't want you to slap me here." He also went on to tell me about his job as a security guard at the nuclear plant and how he'd found sex toys in some woman's car...
I had all I could do to try to be polite during dinner and then politely as possible, tell him I had absolutely no interest in him whatever. He could be glad I'm a Christian, or I would have told him what I really thought and just let loose! I suppose at least I didn't have to guess what he was thinking about. Anyway...
2. I was dating a guy with two small boys... called him and asked if I could stop over for a while to see him and the kids (they all lived with his mother), and he said sure, come on over. I got there... to find everyone asleep... except that he was passed out, basically in a stone cold drunk coma that I couldn't wake him out of (he drank Bacardi and Schnapps like other people breathe air) and there on his desk was a HUGE pile of porn he had printed out from the internet, ALL featuring Asian women (he was white.) I was like, holy cow, what the heck, does he think I am, some kind of personal racial fetish object/experiment??? It was TERRIBLE. And the worst part is, I was very attached to the kids (as well as them to me because they had lost their mother) and so I stayed in the relationship for a while because of them. Talk about learning from your mistakes!!! And this was someone who claimed to be a strong, believing Christian. I'm not trying to make fun of addictions or personal issues at all because everyone has a struggle in some area, but now I know to always find out first if their definition of Christianity and how to live a Christian life is anything remotely similar to mine.
3. Currently, I keep getting asked out by this 20-year old at work (he asked me again today to go "PAR-TAAAYYY" with him and his friends down at the beach). This is the one who, when he was 18, walked up to me and said, "Well, I like older women. I'm 18, and I'll have you know, that's LEGAL. AND, I'll be 19 next month."
UGH!! I may be "old" (35) and may have been alone for a while and sure, it's kind of flattering, but I'm sorry, I am NOT a pedophile!! I hope I'm not offending anyone else out there but I just think a 15-year old age difference is way too much (for me, at least. I guess it works for other people because my 91-year-old grandfather now has a 65-year old girlfriend.)
I can just see it now, God is going to intentionally send me someone way out of my supposed age range just to test me and I'll just pass him right by!
All right everyone... sorry for hogging up the space... give it a go and share your pain!
This is a thread inspired by MusicalMe (I hope I don't have to pay any royalties or copyrights
). Tell us about your worst dating experiences ever!! I'm not meaning to drag anyone down at all--I'm sure at the time it was mortifying but hopefully you've recovered from the trauma and are willing to share your stories here.
Anything you want to share is game--maybe it's a horror story about asking someone out (and they said no or agreed to go out with your best friend--I've had that happen PLENTY of times) or maybe it's a secret crush that never materialized but you'd still like to vent about it. Humorous, horrific, needing encouragement, or serious... go for the gold.
I can't top MusicalMe's post, but here are a few of mine:
1. I was part of a dating service several years ago and had told them THE most important thing I was looking for was a Christian. The first guy they set me up with had been a Marine and when he found out I don't have any roommates, he tried to invite himself over to my house, saying, "I never feel uncomfortable in a woman's bedroom." ACK!!! I suggested meeting for dinner instead... and one of the first things he did when I introduced myself was mumble under his breath that I had the body of a stripper who could make a lot of money... When I raised one eyebrow and said, "What did you say?" he laughed and said, "Oh, we're in a family restaurant, so I don't want you to slap me here." He also went on to tell me about his job as a security guard at the nuclear plant and how he'd found sex toys in some woman's car...
I had all I could do to try to be polite during dinner and then politely as possible, tell him I had absolutely no interest in him whatever. He could be glad I'm a Christian, or I would have told him what I really thought and just let loose! I suppose at least I didn't have to guess what he was thinking about. Anyway...
2. I was dating a guy with two small boys... called him and asked if I could stop over for a while to see him and the kids (they all lived with his mother), and he said sure, come on over. I got there... to find everyone asleep... except that he was passed out, basically in a stone cold drunk coma that I couldn't wake him out of (he drank Bacardi and Schnapps like other people breathe air) and there on his desk was a HUGE pile of porn he had printed out from the internet, ALL featuring Asian women (he was white.) I was like, holy cow, what the heck, does he think I am, some kind of personal racial fetish object/experiment??? It was TERRIBLE. And the worst part is, I was very attached to the kids (as well as them to me because they had lost their mother) and so I stayed in the relationship for a while because of them. Talk about learning from your mistakes!!! And this was someone who claimed to be a strong, believing Christian. I'm not trying to make fun of addictions or personal issues at all because everyone has a struggle in some area, but now I know to always find out first if their definition of Christianity and how to live a Christian life is anything remotely similar to mine.
3. Currently, I keep getting asked out by this 20-year old at work (he asked me again today to go "PAR-TAAAYYY" with him and his friends down at the beach). This is the one who, when he was 18, walked up to me and said, "Well, I like older women. I'm 18, and I'll have you know, that's LEGAL. AND, I'll be 19 next month."
UGH!! I may be "old" (35) and may have been alone for a while and sure, it's kind of flattering, but I'm sorry, I am NOT a pedophile!! I hope I'm not offending anyone else out there but I just think a 15-year old age difference is way too much (for me, at least. I guess it works for other people because my 91-year-old grandfather now has a 65-year old girlfriend.)
I can just see it now, God is going to intentionally send me someone way out of my supposed age range just to test me and I'll just pass him right by!
All right everyone... sorry for hogging up the space... give it a go and share your pain!
