What is sexual attraction?

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Is sexual attraction just lust?

  • Yes

    Votes: 3 27.3%

  • No

    Votes: 8 72.7%
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thefightinglamb

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I ask this because of the awkwardness that results from being in a Bible study/prayer group with someone with whom you are sexual turned on by? Is that feeling just lust?

I met a girl a few years back who demanded that 'sexual attraction' was a necessity of dating/marrying someone...while I think sexual attraction can grow...or perhaps it is just a mischievous devil that likes to mess with minds, hearts, and our purposes in life by throwing it off track...

Is sex just meant for creating babies? Is birth control wrong? I want all these questions to be considered....as I am unsure...
Also, what a married person feels when their spouse is 'sexually attracted' to someone else...

But I am sure that sexual attraction (whatever it is) can hijack your mind/heart in situations and lead you away from worshiping God...

God bless
tony
 
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SamIam

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anything can lead you away from worshiping god
 
Chopsui101

Chopsui101

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Honestly there has to be some attraction. I am sure that attraction physical...can be decreased or increased by what your perceptions of the person is. You might find someone very attractive get to know them and find them not as attractive.

But honestly I think that it is important.

If I don't find her physically appealing...I doubt that I will ever marry a girl I don't find appealing physically
 
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SamIam

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very well said chop! i agree 100 percent
 
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lenora007

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thefightinglamb said:
I ask this because of the awkwardness that results from being in a Bible study/prayer group with someone with whom you are sexual turned on by? Is that feeling just lust?

I met a girl a few years back who demanded that 'sexual attraction' was a necessity of dating/marrying someone...while I think sexual attraction can grow...or perhaps it is just a mischievous devil that likes to mess with minds, hearts, and our purposes in life by throwing it off track...

Is sex just meant for creating babies? Is birth control wrong? I want all these questions to be considered....as I am unsure...
Also, what a married person feels when their spouse is 'sexually attracted' to someone else...

But I am sure that sexual attraction (whatever it is) can hijack your mind/heart in situations and lead you away from worshiping God...

God bless
tony
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Hi Tony,

Any time I hear this topic of conversation come up I have to emphasize that although we are born again we still live in fleshly bodies. Sexual attraction is natural because male and females were designed to procreate and our bodies function as such. Where we can easily get in trouble is when we begin to dwell on thoughts that will give way to lust.

Guys are visually stimulated anyway as where we, females, are more emotionally inclined to be drawn to the opposite sex. That's not to say we don't want to like what we are looking back at! lol. There is definitely more to a relationship then sexual attraction I think because how else do you explain a beautiful girl with an average looking guy or vice versa. Everyone is so individually different but the basic needs of both parties of male and female remain consistent across the board.

No, I don't think sex is just meant for creating babies. That is, its intended purpose but it is also to bring "married" couples closer together because sex is worship! God designed us and He doesn't make any mistakes.

Birth control?! Good question. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I'd rather be on birth control having that option of not bring forth a child prematurely versus having one that I'm not prepared to take care of to the best of my ability. I mean if I'd get pregnant-thank God for such a blessing but you don't throw aside precaution, if you feel that is what's needed, in the name of religion, you know?!

When you are married and attracted sexually to someone else?! That's a touchy area. As I've said though we all have our natural triggers as females and males. Anything above that is not alright and when we realize that there is a problem beyond sexual attraction (that is) turning into lust we can't let this fester b/c you'll act on it and definitely get help in doing so. You've got to dive into the scriptures and allow God to do a work within you because who else knows you better than He anyway?

Ok, just thought you needed some estrogen in this conversation! lol.
 
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NurseJill

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As far as leading you away from worshipping God ... I don't think that sex has to do that. Sexual attraction and the ability to feel sexual pleasure (let alone the ability to procreate) are gifts from God that we need to be thankful for and use for good. When we have a committed relationship and/or a marriage, we can enjoy the company of those who we care for and who care for us to increase our happiness in life. Unfortunately, sexual attraction leads to temptation to do things that may hurt ourselves or others. Sexual attraction is both a gift and a curse for many people! I feel that when I keep God on my mind at all times (not perfect about this, but I try!), that he leads me in the right direction, because he has my happiness and well being in mind. There are some serious struggles that come with this gift/curse, and that to me is the spice of life.
 
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kapowww

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Perhaps Joseph in the bible was sexually attracted to Potiphar's wife. She must've been a pretty hot gold digger to marry a guy like Potiphar and must've been very sexually inviting! But Joseph's love for God and quest for purity sent him running in the other direction... Just don't dwell on it and run away!

As everyone says sexual attraction isn't lust, but there is a fine line and you need to know where to draw that line.
 
MahogonySnail

MahogonySnail

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You draw the line above your belt. Below the belt is lust, above the belt is not.
 
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kapowww

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Girls boobs are above their belts.. in most cases... as long as they're not too old..
 
MahogonySnail

MahogonySnail

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hmm you've just raised a very good technical issue with my theory.
 
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tjogs

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you got the point too kapowww. I think that definition for lust is lil bit more difficult :D Also I think that both sexual attraction and sexual lust are good if used right. Attraction leads to lust and If it touches both of your heart, unites two people and strenghten the bond and trust between them. that's how I see they should be.

But I know, for many men it's very easy to slip from this. attraction can be avaken easilly, and how easy is it to seek just short time pleasure realising too late, if at all, it's not right way to do it.
 
Chopsui101

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kapowww said:
Perhaps Joseph in the bible was sexually attracted to Potiphar's wife. She must've been a pretty hot gold digger to marry a guy like Potiphar and must've been very sexually inviting! But Joseph's love for God and quest for purity sent him running in the other direction... Just don't dwell on it and run away!

As everyone says sexual attraction isn't lust, but there is a fine line and you need to know where to draw that line.
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Maybe she was a ugly old hag...that was using her position of power to get her a hot young stud like Joseph....lol
 
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Avoca1

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Jul 18, 2009
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What if joseph ran away because he was a wussy
 
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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Avoca1 said:
What if joseph ran away because he was a wussy
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Wussy or not--I'd be happy to marry a man like Joseph any day (not because he became ruler of the most powerful nation at the time, but because he had a heart that would not be swayed from his commitment to God, even in the most tempting of situations.) I'd be PROUD to marry a "wuss" like that!
 
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Avoca1

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seoulsearch said:
Wussy or not--I'd be happy to marry a man like Joseph any day (not because he became ruler of the most powerful nation at the time, but because he had a heart that would not be swayed from his commitment to God, even in the most tempting of situations.) I'd be PROUD to marry a "wuss" like that!
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I think your main reason of marrying a guy like Joseph is because the money they have
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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I have never dated a guy for money. In the few relationships I had, I wound up supporting the guy, and in one case, his kids right along with him. I was in a dating service once in which I was set up with a very wealthy guy who was 10 years older--we talked but had nothing in common, and he wasn't a Christian, so I saw no point in seeing him again. I've been working 2 and 3 jobs since I was 13 and babysitting since I was 11. This is the first time in my life I've been able to live independently with just one job, and I'm very thankful for that, though I would work additional jobs again if I had to. I'm very proud of being independent. My problem was, I always chose needy guys who usually took advantage of my situation. The guy I married--he had nothing, but he had a backbone like Joseph in standing up for what he believed was right, and that's part of why I loved him so much. But in the end, he left me for someone else. I don't need someone with money--just someone who is responsible enough to be able to pay his own bills so I don't wind up paying them for him. So no, I'm not out for anyone's money. I'm sorry that you, apparently, have had plenty of experience with those who are.
 
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