Trust, Communication, Faithfulness. Buzz words of a relationship. But I think....

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GreenNnice

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...honesty trumps all those because IF you are honest with someone then they do not need to trust you. I had 4 good relationships, friendships, with guy friends growing up, didn't spend time with girls much at all, and, we were all TRUSTING of each other.

And, NO, I am not gay. Just not married :D Ever :( :) Happy, sad, just not sure what it makes me, exept I am still (and may always be, the Lord leads) single and with God in control it's :cool:

But, yes, I really think the TRUST word, miladies and notmydudes (oh, OK, you can be my dudes :D ) , that TRUST overrides those other things to go for WANTING first. You have to put things in perspective as, of course, you have to communicate in a relationship, and, be trusting, and, be faithful, but, for me, TRUST is the key.

I do TRUST in God with all my heart, but, IF I am being honest--and, I am, as I always try to be on here--I being honest with God makes my TRUSTING Him a whole lot easier :)

God bless you all, my Christ peeps !!

Maybe someone can find some 'honest' words in the bible, I know 'trust,' is in there, including one of my fave 'The Lord leads' verses, Proverbs 3:5 . :)
 
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YahsPrincess

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and what are your thoughts on breaking someones trust?
 
Ritter

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Trust, Communication, and Faithfulness...sounds like a bank commercial.
 
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crystalshore

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shalom
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GreenNnice

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GreenNnice said:
...honesty trumps all those because IF you are honest with someone then they do not need to trust you. I had 4 good relationships, friendships, with guy friends growing up, didn't spend time with girls much at all, and, we were all TRUSTING of each other.

And, NO, I am not gay. Just not married :D Ever :( :) Happy, sad, just not sure what it makes me, exept I am still (and may always be, the Lord leads) single and with God in control it's :cool:

But, yes, I really think the TRUST word, miladies and notmydudes (oh, OK, you can be my dudes :D ) , that TRUST overrides those other things to go for WANTING first. You have to put things in perspective as, of course, you have to communicate in a relationship, and, be trusting, and, be faithful, but, for me, TRUST is the key.

I do TRUST in God with all my heart, but, IF I am being honest--and, I am, as I always try to be on here--I being honest with God makes my TRUSTING Him a whole lot easier :)

God bless you all, my Christ peeps !!

Maybe someone can find some 'honest' words in the bible, I know 'trust,' is in there, including one of my fave 'The Lord leads' verses, Proverbs 3:5 . :)
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I got mixedsies up, sorry, HONESTY, is my caps word, that mix up of words is the PURE FAULT of my green brains. Honest :D

Honesty trumps all in a relationship, of qualities, I think.

And, yes, of course, God the center of relationship is FIRST, but, just speaking of qualities of a good relationship, trust faithfulness, communication are intrical parts of relationship boyfriend/girlfriend but HONESTY, imo, is the glueing factor for those three R, T, F qualities.

My friends were guys but I don't want to say I didn't have girl friends , I did, as with a 1.5 year younger sister I was definitely around my share of girls. I just wasn't a dater of them, the Lord leads, He led. But, back, to my main point, and, I had 4 good friends growing up and I just remember being honest with them always. First friend met at age 5 I'm still real good friends with, was best man, and he has wife and two young teenage boys. Other 3 not kept in touch with but did many treehouse, motorcycle riding, sports playing with them growing up. A 5th friend I was strong with was all through college after freshman year and 5 years after that, culminating in my traveling 2500 miles to see him.get married. He and wife in Mali, missionaries with kids but didn't keep in touch after went Africa. Hey, yeah, nice to have, but I'm not perfect, just greenNnice :D The Lord leads, but, yes.....

.....honesty. I can't remember ANY dishonest moments with any of my 5 friends. Trust was never even a figment of my imagination and all my buddies and I talked a lot so communication was not a big deal. And faithfulness was there, too, I was tight with these buddies, age of doing things together:

1st friend met -- age 5 to present
2nd friend met --.age 7 to 23
3rd friend met -- age 9 to 25
4th friend met -- age 14 to 18

5th friend (college roommate 3.5 years) -- 19 to 25


I say this to explain that honesty works.

I didn't think to much about it, but those applying for summer jobs , it is a good idea to mention your relationships with your friends. :)


I know the DYNAMIC of honesty changes with opposite sex relationships, but, still, remember, I've played plenty board games with my sister but we fought but were close too, growing up, not withstanding our parents slow break up that caused problems with us and started when I was 12 and she was 10. .
So, just saying, I know a little about girls and still to this day visit my sister a lot, who has 3 kids and a significant other and is very blessed, lives on lake near ocean. :)

My sister and I were not as honest with each other when parents started to break up.and jealousy and fighting, and, yes, dishonesty crept in to our relationship for several years.
 
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GreenNnice

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Ritter said:
Trust, Communication, and Faithfulness...sounds like a bank commercial.
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Yes, rit, does the dynamic of that bank commercial change IF you add the word 'honesty,' or, better yet, let's make 'honesty' the theme of your commercial . Does it add anything for you ? :)

crystalshore said:
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Peace to you, too, crystalwaters, I will say this 'shalom,' means 'peace,' in Hebrew (Greek?) and peace to all men by you is imperarative to 'see the Lord' after you die this earthly life . Read Hebrews: 12:14 :)

And, so, at all costs, KEEP peace in your relationship. With being honest with your boyfriend/girlfriend, and, yes, wife/husband is included too, if that is your dynamic.' :), then peace will be achieved much easier. I can give other scripture of peace important but not coming to me, I want to say collosians or galatians.

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and what are your thoughts on breaking someones trust?
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It will not happen if your fully in the Lord and being completely honest with them :)

Once trust is broken, it can be mended, and, if offending party seeks forgiveness then we are to forgive, the Lord leads. And, not only can God mend that trust breached He can, THROUGH offending party's COMING CLEAN , that is your coming out and spilling every single last bean to party hurt, BEING HONEST, then....

....that relationship can spRING with new life. :)


In a sense, it's weird by me to say never any dishonesty with my 5 buddies but no, can't think of anything ever more than my fit one time at losing to a friend in soccer game 1 on 1 and threw sand in his face but THAT was by accident, just, in a fitful rage, for a second, just was mad I lost as he was my mentor, a year older than me and played higher up premier soccer . I was 15 and getting closer and closer to beating him at this time and we'd become buddies when I was age 9 .

Anyhoo, I hope that answers question, I will try harder if that don't work , God'sprincess :)
 
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Love > Trust > Fidelity > Honesty > Communication > Forgiveness > Grace > Responsibility > Secretlessness (couldn't think of the word, or even if it exists) > Compassion > Faith > Unity > Understanding > Sacredness > Security > Passion > Hope > Reliability > Beauty > Strength > Health > Maturity > Foresight > Independence > Determination > Friendship > Commitment > Diplomatic Immunity ;)
 
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Livi94

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Hmmm I think Understanding is just as important as Honesty but of course Love is the greatest ^.^ Then there is hope and a long list that can just go on forever cause relationships can be just that complicated/complex :p lol
 
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GreenNnice

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Liamson said:
Love > Trust > Fidelity > Honesty > Communication > Forgiveness > Grace > Responsibility > Secretlessness (couldn't think of the word, or even if it exists) > Compassion > Faith > Unity > Understanding > Sacredness > Security > Passion > Hope > Reliability > Beauty > Strength > Health > Maturity > Foresight > Independence > Determination > Friendship > Commitment > Diplomatic Immunity ;)
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Livi94 said:
Hmmm I think Understanding is just as important as Honesty but of course Love is the greatest ^.^ Then there is hope and a long list that can just go on forever cause relationships can be just that complicated/complex :p lol
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Understanding is good, milady, but , it, too, derives from honesty. Telling The truth from The beginning eliminates lies and , yes, misundetstandings. :)
Hope good too, yes, but yes, all, honesty from being :)
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I think you were looking for Transparency.:)
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Being honest is transparency, or, will minimize its focus, anyway, but, good word, oncefell.

Honest being is meaning to that there will be no secrets.
Honest being is meaning you absolutely have faith in someone.
Being honest means you're free to communicate.
Being honest means fidelity should never be an issue.
Being honest means you already trust them.
Honesty engenders friendship, independence (people will do their own motivations if other person honestly told them their feelings).

Love springs from honesty,
If you are honest with other person then issues become DEAD in their tracks.
Being honest means you treat them sacred.
If someone is honest with me, my determination to work for them hard will be done.


Now, The Lord leads, and, yes, Love of God individually TRUMPS all , we ALL already know that don't we, but after Love I just see HONESTY able to conquer all. :) That may be putting to much weight on all tne ttaits , as, LiamsON niftily listed a nice exhaustive qualities list. Thanks, Christ bro. :)
 
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YahsPrincess

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Ty Green, perfect answer n just wat.i needed 2 hear. :)
 
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