Like stilledwater or oncefell said, don't need to get too personal, and, thanks to julieannie's 'competition,' thread, I think of this, and, Ug's post helped, too, the Lord leads
But, yeah, sigh, what did God teach you about yourself, about Him, from a SPECIFIC friendship or dating experience with best/good friend or boyfriend/girlfriend? Or, I guess, too, painful lesson learned could be like a singles group situation if was embarrassing, or???,
Maybe, it was just a lesson learned too, I guess a 'lesson' doesn't have to be painful, does it
In my church's singles group, back when I was 27, I started to spend time with a girl a lot for about a month. She was a nice girl and this followed a time of age 26 where I reawakened my life to God, thanks to a major car accident that made me wake up. I saw that I was going wrong way, not going with God whom at 14 I promised I would never leave Him out of my life the rest of it. So, anyway..., that's just said for whatever.
This girl and I spent time together and she was a very caring, positive girl, who listened to what I.said and gave good, different perspective on things from me for everyday life things. But I was always, despite really on fire for God since car accident, at 25, was not so a ball of confidence for myself, often when she would say, 'Oh, you can do that,' for whatever 'that' was and I would say something like, 'I don't know. I've never done that before.'
she was so positive and care-free in her thinking of life but, me, no, I was not. And, after a month of my saying things criticizingly of me, unknowingly, keep in mind that I didn't realize I was even doing that berating subtly of me. But, yeah, out of the blue, she said, after I'd one more time shot myself down after something,
'Ed, don't be so hard on yourself.' Fact is, I never'd heard a girl say something like that to me, so, it really hit home, in a VERY positive way, I immediately began to realize that I.was living my life for God and it was horrible to hear this girl say that about me, which let me know that I was showing a wrong attitude of self, almost like galations 5 states is an abomination to God, a lack of self-control.
So.... our relationship ended shortly after that, I was just floored by her saying that and should have became serious in Godly relatuonship with her as we were only good friends that month doing things together. Anyway, that's one GREAT lesson , and, painful, too, that God blessed me with getting to learn which really DID shoot off my confidence, as most people go through checker school for a,job at major grocery store but I got job immediately and was in checkstand the next day after getting job I learned how to do cash register on the job , no previous training. That is not to gloat, just to say that girl helped me get that kind of confidence in me to think I could do.it And, I did, becoming the fastest checker in the store after a short while, that's carried over to different jobs and many ways since that divinely appointed season of my life. Amen to Jesus .
Girls are pretty cool, guys, don't think that they can't help you in life, a lot. And, God will make whatever happen happens, maybe you will give her a ring (not just engagement) , the Lord leads, follow Him. Have faith, summertime, so, pray, and, see IF a girl out there is not on God's mind for you IF you will only go
