What about the dumb ones?????

[LightningClap0002]

Alright, this may be kind of weird question. We've seen many threads focused on "don't just date for looks" and many people have listed "intelligence" as of being particularly high in value when looking for a mate.

But what about the rest of the women/men? Can't a dumb/slow guy or ditzy girl be a christian? Are they just doomed to be single for the rest of their lives?

I'm not convinced that I should consider dating such a person, let alone marry one; it just seems so...hopeless for us, er I mean for them.

 

[LightningClap0002]

Oh, I forgot to say:

I'm focusing on christian couples here. I think the world has no problem with dating/marrying based on physical attraction. But what about the christian beauties?

 

[error]

Anyone can become a christian. It doesn't matter what or who they are.
But now tell me please-why should i marry a dumb guy?
I mean if someone can't think for himself-why should i marry a person like that?

 

[Mrdll]

First of all who am I, or you, or anyone else to call someone dumb? I know doctors who can preform medical feats yet if their car quits running can't figure out how to fix it! Bankers who handle your money who have to pay someone to assemble products they buy because they can't figure out how to do it themselves! Mechanics who can overhaul your engine yet can't balance the checkbook! I could go on and on but I won't because I may find out I'm "Dumb" in a certain area, which I could name a few .

Bottom line is this; God calls us His sheep! Sheep are "Dumb"! So for all you Self proclaimed "Smart" people, be careful when you call someone dumb! Oh and I love this one.

Error asks; " But now tell me please-why should i marry a dumb guy? I mean if someone can't think for himself (and I'll add, Herself)-why should i marry a person like that?"

Maybe it's because you "Need" each other! His weakness's may be your strengths and vise versa.

Look at Forrest Gump! Yes I know it was a movie, but how many Forrest Gumps do you know? On the outward appearance, dumb as one can be, but he built an empire! Yes there are really people like that in the world!

If you think your smart, well just keep on living and you'll someday see just how "Dumb" we all really are! Just sayin

 

[JimJimmers]

Okay, I believe we all have talents and gifts. The only thing I have to add is what I gathered from reading the entire book of Proverbs:

I believe we should not date or marry 'fools'. What is a fool? I believe a fool is a person who will not listen to reason. I implore everyone to run far from them.


As far as a caring and loving (and counsel-accepting) person who is merely so lumbinguinish that they can't tell a real word from a made-up one, I see no problem with that. They have gifts and talents, not all of us are Issac Newton.

 

[rhs32]

Great response MRDLL i couldn't agree more. I was reading and thinking how come no one has said ooh there is a dumb person with the smartest answer lol. In most relationships ones weakness ends up being the others strength if they are truly committed. thanks again great response.

 

[error]

Mrdll, like i said-if someone can't think for himself-or make some important decisions. or-be responsible-thn i rather stay single
for me a dumb person is a person who acts dumb. ppl who make bad decisions (all the time) and never learns from their own mistakes.
if he can't fix a car-it is not a problem (i'm not talking about that kinda thngs)
i hope you understand what i meant.

 

[LightningClap0002]

Anyone can become a christian. It doesn't matter what or who they are.
But now tell me please-why should i marry a dumb guy?
I mean if someone can't think for himself-why should i marry a person like that?

Awww, I'm crushed. Are you sure????

 

[LightningClap0002]

First of all who am I, or you, or anyone else to call someone dumb? I know doctors who can preform medical feats yet if their car quits running can't figure out how to fix it! Bankers who handle your money who have to pay someone to assemble products they buy because they can't figure out how to do it themselves! Mechanics who can overhaul your engine yet can't balance the checkbook! I could go on and on but I won't because I may find out I'm "Dumb" in a certain area, which I could name a few .

Bottom line is this; God calls us His sheep! Sheep are "Dumb"! So for all you Self proclaimed "Smart" people, be careful when you call someone dumb! Oh and I love this one.

Error asks; " But now tell me please-why should i marry a dumb guy? I mean if someone can't think for himself (and I'll add, Herself)-why should i marry a person like that?"

Maybe it's because you "Need" each other! His weakness's may be your strengths and vise versa.

Look at Forrest Gump! Yes I know it was a movie, but how many Forrest Gumps do you know? On the outward appearance, dumb as one can be, but he built an empire! Yes there are really people like that in the world!

If you think your smart, well just keep on living and you'll someday see just how "Dumb" we all really are! Just sayin

I've re-read this several times and I'm still unsure why it was posted here.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Thanks, Lightning! For making a thread about people like me

 

[PopClick]

Zero! Stop saying mean things about my friends!

 

[Jullianna]

While there are people who behave foolishly more than others, I really don't like to say that anyone is dumb...especially when we all do dumb things.

I do think that it is important in a relationship to be able to communicate with someone on the same level. It can be frustrating otherwise. Respect is important and understanding is key to that.

 

[Liamson]

I wouldn't necessarily say people are dumb either. BUT.... there are a lot of people that I don't get. I do think it has a lot to do with communication. People think so many different kinds of ways. Some people take in more information via their senses than they do through abstract thought. They look for the signs and the cues from Body language and don't care about metaphorical representations. <tangent


Sometimes when I see a couple with terrifyingly good communication skills, I think, "What are the rest of us doing and how do I get there from here?"


But communication skills are kind of a deal to society. I have a friend, who is going to Law School but he has CP (Cerebral Palsy) and people think he is retarded. But he's really smart and he has had to struggle to find ways of expressing that not only is he smart but he is more than capable. He has never had a relationship or anything but, in his mind (probably true) he is going to need a high level of success to be taken seriously.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Zero! Stop saying mean things about my friends!

What? I didn't say anything mean. You guys don't know me in real life. Almost everyone treats me like I'm dumb. I just don't seem dumb on here because I have a lot of time to think of interesting things to say. I don't make fun of simple minded people either. I've actually wondered myself if I might have some type of mental retardation or autism. All the bullies I faced in school called me dumb, stupid, retarded and one of my close adult friends actually told me once that he thinks I may have a type of mental retardation and he was being serious. I AM NOT KIDDING.

 

[1still_waters]

Airheads need love too. They are our siblings in Jesus.

*Said with a totally joking tone.*

 

[LightningClap0002]

Thanks still. I was more going for the "airheads" than the "dumb" that it seems many others understood. At least I'm not completely speaking martian.

 

[Liz01]

I have two theories :

1) There is a dumbest person as a future partner of a dumb one

2) The perfect partner of a dumb is a well speaking and intelligent person in order to balance the weaknesses/strenghts

 

[Spartacus1122]

Rule of thumb:

People who like to date what they consider "dumb" or stupid people, tend to be either dumber or have an inferiority complex, that can only be suppressed by dating alleged "inferior" others.

 

[GraceReborn]

I am a very transparent person.
If I liked you (woman or man), I would have definitely kept you in my life.
If I didn't like you, sooner or later, you would have known
because I wouldn't have bothered to take part in your life
as I would have made it obvious that I didn't want you in mine.

With all honesty, I've detested the company of "slow" people.
They would just bore the life out of me. I didn't really hate them but I hated being with them.
I hated how I had to try and laugh at their jokes when it was really not funny to me (etc.)
And because I don't want to offend them, I avoided their company.

I thought I got it all figured out. How to live life. People to be with. People to avoid..
The kind of people i would have no use of.. the kind of people who can help me a lot..
My social standards.. My preferences.. My principles.. My defense mechanism..
But when I came to know Jesus, He ruined everything.. and I love it

Now, this thread made me think a lot...

But what about the rest of the women/men? Can't a dumb/slow guy or ditzy girl be a christian?

Worldly standard:
dumb - Not expressed or articulated in sounds or words
- Conspicuously unintelligent; stupid
Ditzy - silly and scatterbrained

God's standard:
Hear this, you foolish and senseless people, who have eyes but do not see, who have ears but do not hear.
Jeremiah 5:21

Yes. I'm friends with many of the former and I used to be one of the latter.

I'm not saying they became geniuses; I just realized I'm not either.
I'm now convinced foolish/dumb/ditzy people aren't here for the purpose
of being foolish, staying foolish and dying foolish.
Following Jesus changes a great deal of things if not everything in my life.
I guess it's from the realization that each of us were made fearfully and wonderfully..
from the understanding that God didn't screw up making me and succeeded
when He made Einstein or Shakespear or Paul or Peter or Elijah..
from the truth that each of us is unique BUT no one is above the other..
only then was acceptance made easier to grasp and LOVING made perfect sense.

Are they just doomed to be single for the rest of their lives?

doomed to being single? :s
(I actually googled the definition of "doomed" )

I'm not sure about this. I'm not even sure about what my status would be for the rest of my life.
What I'm sure of is i DON'T want to be doomed eternally. He has a plan for me and for everyone else in this temporary world that will lead us to be with Him forever. When I ponder on that thought, everything else seems to fall insignificant. If He wills for me to marry a simple man with less intellectual capacity but would bring me closer to God and help me fulfill my purpose.. so be it.
Nothing could be more beautiful than a life according to His will.

So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.
John 13:34

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Alright, this may be kind of weird question. We've seen many threads focused on "don't just date for looks" and many people have listed "intelligence" as of being particularly high in value when looking for a mate.

But what about the rest of the women/men? Can't a dumb/slow guy or ditzy girl be a christian? Are they just doomed to be single for the rest of their lives?

I'm not convinced that I should consider dating such a person, let alone marry one; it just seems so...hopeless for us, er I mean for them.

Speaking from one who would be considered slow or dumb.

Processing information takes me longer than it does others. There really isn't much i can do about that. I've been this way since i was a child.
Just Replying to these kind of threads takes me over an hour, its taken me 30 minutes just to come up with this so far.
Words don't come easily for me, and that is so frustrating. I sit in sunday school class every sunday and the teacher asks us questions about the lesson and i can never say anything, because i dont think of what to say until AFTER sunday school is over and i've had time to think through what he was asking and teaching about. However the other people in the class are coming up with these great answers, and i always think to myself... how do they do that. How do they hear it, process whats being asked, then just come out with some great answer so quickly.
I have never, and will never be able to do that. It seems so unfair at times.

People that have the same problem i do, we struggle with really not liking ourselves over this. It's so frustrating not being able to be like everybody else. Forgetting what someone said, when they just it five minutes ago. Not being able to come up with an answer to a question you've been asked because you haven't been able to work out in your head what's being asked, not being able to understand what should be simple directions or instructions.
I think people forget that we know were slow, we know it every day. We don't need any reminders.

It's very depressing to think because my mind doesn't work as fast as say your's, that someone wouldn't date me over it and that i may be doomed to be single.