We all know that the horse comes before the carriage (at least its that way on this particular planet), but from what I've seen in this forum it seems like some people would put "finding the perfect mate" ahead of trying to find love.
What I mean is that it seems like some would feel that love is simply a by-product of finding the perfect mate (a.k.a. "the right one"). In other words, finding a perfect match is more important than finding someone you love (who is less than an ideal mate).
I'd like to know what others think.. whether its more important to find a perfect match or to find love no matter how incompatible the person might seem to be.
Also...
I personally think that expecting God to bring us a perfect mate seems a bit selfish and prideful because I for one would never ever think that I deserve a perfect mate no matter how upright or successful I think I am. Maybe I am missing something here?
Why should we deserve a perfect mate from God? Please tell us.
NOTE: I'm not judging anyone. I'm simply stating how I feel about the concept.
I know I will probably regret posting this because some might be offended by it, but I don't mean to offend anyone. I believe many of us were conditioned to think about falling in love by the "prince charming and cinderella" syndrome (a fairytale perfect match).
AND... let us not forget this little fact about Prince Charming: