How the hec does one pick up the pieces

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MrThankful

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Please could some one tell me how to overcome this brokeness. My girlfriend an I had premarital sex. We were young stupid and didn't know what we were doing. I have been hating myself Ever since (6years ago) particularly because she told me at the time she was a virgin. We have gotten engaged and the last few months taking her purity away from her and the fact that we will not being able to consumate our marriage has really affected me to the extent I think I could be depressed because of this regret. Yesterday I finally broke down and told her bout my depression- she told me that she wasn't a virgin when we met. She has lied all these years and now I have the thoughts of how she probably bless on her first time but won't on our wedding. I have prayed and continually asked forgiveness bur after hearing what she said I feel like dying. I can't handle this otional torment could someone please give me some advice perhaps give me a scripture
 
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Laiahna

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I do remember that one of the 12 profits in the old testiment had a wife that kept cheating on him. Yet, God kept telling him to keep and love her. You should pray and ask God for guidance.
 
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JennyB

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Hi Honey. Im sorry for all you are going through I know how hard forgiveness may be. You should know that its not only her you haven't forgiven but yourself as well. forgive and you will find peace, talk to God again and confess all this transgression and what is hurting you,
(Romans 10:10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.)
Remember that evil exists too and sometimes this bad thoughts of unforgiveness towards you dont let you live in peace or keep going on through the right path of our Lord it is not God putting this thoughts into you, so put all your thoughts in the hands of God at all time, everytime you think like this and remember God Forgave all your sins in the cross he Died for you therefor you live by grace now, by his love (Romans 6:14 For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.)
So honey, go on with your life in peace and dont fall into temptation anymore, dont fail to God nor to yourself and you will find blessing comes after obedience. Hope this helps you and let me know if it does. Our Lord may bless you and your family, hugs.
 
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brainfreeze0

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Corinthians 13 my friend. God loved us so much He forgave us all in our unrighteousness. God did not give you a spirit of depression or guilt to hold that burden on yourself. He gave you a Spirit of freedom and righteousness through Jesus. You asked Him forgiveness He forgave you. If your mad at her I think thats a little unfair.
 

seoulsearch

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MrThankful--do you have a Christian counselor or pastor you can talk to? Maybe an elder or someone you're close to in the church who is older and can give you some insight, encouragement, and pray for you?

There are several dynamics to your situation and that usually means you can't really handle it by yourself... places like this (Christian Chat) are certainly helpful but I would encourage you to please seek personal care at your church as a first step in sorting through the emotions and burdens you're feeling...

I feel at a loss to offer much advice but I do understand what you're feeling. I hope you find someone soon that you can talk to on a regular basis and meet with in person so that they can pray with you.
 
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collective

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it helps if you both are honest to each other, have you tried to appologise to each other for this? Good luck
 
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sarah10101

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all i can say is you genuinely seem sorry.
the fact that you are so broken up about it shows that you truly do have regret and no matter how unforgivable you feel this is, God knows that you are truly sorry. you were forgiven the first time you asked for it.
as for your girlfriend .. you should ask her why she lied. that might explain a couple of things.
also try to find out if she lied about anything else. if you're considering getting married lying will not be an option.
god bless :)