Where to draw the line?

[nukreation]

Growing up with christian parents and a belief in God, I believed in God for salvation but I didn't trust God enough to do things His way. I saw christianity as difficult and figured God would forgive me for my sins so I pretty much lived a life not unlike any of my friends.

As I've got older I've realised that God instructs us because He loves us, and wants the best for us. It took time to recognise that my sins were in fact snares that took time to overcome.

By the grace of God, I now choose to live life obedient to Him. I believe that he empowers us to do so, but the moment we think we can do it in our own strength, we are likely to fall back into sin.

I'm blessed to be at a great church, and my church has alot of people. I've met many girls there, and admittedly I've been attracted to a few of them. As I've gotten to know these girls, I've recognised that either A) they aren't attracted to me or B) our personalities aren't a match for one another.

A couple of weeks ago however, I went away for the weekend with a dozen or so friends from church. One of the girls I'd only met once before and I didn't really know her but we seemed to really hit it off. We've been out for a dinner a few times since and I've grown very fond of her.

Though I've had girlfriends before, I've matured alot since I last had a girlfriend and I want to do things right this time and draw a line well safe of falling into sin.

In theory, I'd decided to draw the line at a kiss. In practice however, kisses somehow seem unfinished and I'm left wondering if we'll go the distance with this as the line, and so I put the question to you:

Where do you draw the line?

 

[Nautilus]

not sure...

 

[lookwhatthelordhasdone]

Well, first of all congrats on meeting a girl you really like! God has blessed you and I'm so happy for you.

I think kissing is okay and that is a great line to draw it at.

When I'm confused as to where my intimacy limit should be when I'm in a relationship, I just think about what I would be comfortable doing with my boyfriend in front of my parents, pastor, or someone else like that.
I would be comfortable giving a peck in front of my mom or holding his hand. Stuff like that.
I would NOT be comfortable having sex in front of my mom or doing anything else relating to that category. Lol. Soo, I know that sounds crazy, but that's what helps me! Sorry if the advice was a little strange. Hope this helps. God Bless!

 

[Aqua_Girl09]

lookwhatthelordhasdone has a point. don't do anything that you wouldn't want to do in front of your pastor. nothing that you wouldn't want everone on a big screen seeing.

now that still a little to vauge for me. I've been back and forth fighting temptation with my current BF and i've gotta say that you shouldn't go past kissing on the cheek until you're engaged. >_< kissing on the mouth makes you comfortable with doing it and easily leads to open mouth kissing.

try not to be alone. if you're in the car then you're driving. don't park and sit and talk for long periods of time. it weakens your defenses. try not to be anywhere where there aren't people. if you end up getting left alone at someones house then go out to the park or something or just say bye for the time being. but don't settle. if she gets upset just be HONEST. tell you that you're worried about being tempted into sin and that you care too much about her and your relationship to mess it up.

the BIGGEST thing is to try to get as many of your own belifes across at the beggining. if hes a God fearing girl that was made for you she'll love you even more for it. but if shes laughing at your attempts to be holy and pushing you for a little more then i think its time to find the next girl.

I know i'm a lot younger then you but i've had a bit if experiance myself and coaching others in trying to keep their relationship pure. its easiest when you don't find out where the line is by crossing it.