The Marriage Pact: I'm Single, You're Single, Let's Get Married!!!

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The Marriage Pact.

  • I have made a marraige pact with a friend before (tell us how it turned out.)

    Votes: 4 13.3%

  • I know others who have made marriage pacts (tell us what happened.)

    Votes: 2 6.7%

  • I would make a marriage pact with a friend.

    Votes: 6 20.0%

  • I would never make a marriage pact with a friend!

    Votes: 2 6.7%

  • I think a marriage between best friends who have never dated could work.

    Votes: 8 26.7%

  • I think a marriage pact would be a disaster!

    Votes: 3 10.0%

  • It would be enough in marriage to be friends and not feel romantically inclined towards each other.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I could never be "just friends" with someone in a marriage.

    Votes: 5 16.7%

  • A marriage needs more than friendship, such as (tell us in your post.)

    Votes: 6 20.0%

  • A marriage based on friendship could grow into romantic love after time.

    Votes: 8 26.7%

  • I would rather marry someone who was just a friend than never marry at all.

    Votes: 8 26.7%

  • I would rather never marry than marry just a friend.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • A marriage pact could be part of God's will for someone's life.

    Votes: 9 30.0%

  • Marriage pacts are totally against God's will.

    Votes: 3 10.0%

  • Jimmy Crack Corn--I have something else to share in my post.

    Votes: 7 23.3%
  • Total voters
    30
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TheBoswalox

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Can't say I was in a marriage pact, but I was in a dating pact.

And it backfired.

We were supposed to date if we were both single at the end of November, and we were both really positive towards the start of it - I was mainly waiting for her, as I had liked her for a while however was... unsure of how to proceed - I have the prefix of "Creepy" attached to my name because I'm a bit of an individual person and am not afraid to be myself and tell others what I really think without the "Oh, I'm your friend so let me sugar coat it" nonsense. However, she started to get uncomfortable and I asked her if she wanted to call it off, and she agreed. So, we now try to continue as just friends, despite the fact I still have some feelings for her.

What's worse is when I tell you that it was actually organised by a couple of our friends; I was single and looking and she had got out of a relationship a few months ago and was now prepared to go out with someone.

So, no, it didn't end well, however I don't think she would have even considered me if it hadn't have happened, and things might yet change.
 
Liamson

Liamson

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TheBoswalox said:
Can't say I was in a marriage pact, but I was in a dating pact.

And it backfired.

We were supposed to date if we were both single at the end of November, and we were both really positive towards the start of it - I was mainly waiting for her, as I had liked her for a while however was... unsure of how to proceed - I have the prefix of "Creepy" attached to my name because I'm a bit of an individual person and am not afraid to be myself and tell others what I really think without the "Oh, I'm your friend so let me sugar coat it" nonsense. However, she started to get uncomfortable and I asked her if she wanted to call it off, and she agreed. So, we now try to continue as just friends, despite the fact I still have some feelings for her.

What's worse is when I tell you that it was actually organised by a couple of our friends; I was single and looking and she had got out of a relationship a few months ago and was now prepared to go out with someone.

So, no, it didn't end well, however I don't think she would have even considered me if it hadn't have happened, and things might yet change.
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I hate to say it but this is sort of like, my experience where I live now. Girls will not date a guy for a while and play all kinds of weird games.


"When I turn 30, I'll dump my boyfriend and marry you"

or... "in the future, we should date. I see that as a thing."


I'm like thank you for saying that. Now I know I will never date you.
 
CatHerder

CatHerder

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Came in here after reading the title because I thought Seoul was proposing to me. I'm looking for a picture of her on one knee presenting me with a ring with a big sparkly diamond....

I don't see one, so I am leaving this thread :mad:


...oh so very disappointed! :p
 
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Jullianna

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I feel your pain, Catherder. I showed up to get married in one of Stilly's threads once and no one else ever showed. :rolleyes:

P.S. - The cure is brownies. Trust me on this.
 
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Sarahkateislate

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seoulsearch said:
Hey Everyone,

A recent post reminded me of something that happened in my church as a kid--someone very well-known in the church got married to their opposite gender best friend.

Rumor had it (NO! Say it isn't so!! Rumors in church!) that they two had been best friends for many years and had made an agreement that if neither one was married by age XX, they would marry each other.

Needless to say, the marriage didn't last long... not even a year, I remember correctly.

The two were strong Christians, raised in church, attended Bible colleges, both held positions in the church--they were obviously very Christ-centered--and were best friends... Now I can't say for sure, but I would guess they felt they were on the right path. After all, isn't this the "magical formula" people say will produce the Christian fairytale marriage everyone talks about? So what do you think went wrong?

Have any of you had similar agreements or ideas with a friend? Do you think it would work? Why or why not? Do you know anyone else who's had a "marriage pact", and how did the story turn out?

In high school I had a guy friend who once said that even if he and I never felt romantic love, "We'd be best friends and that's something a lot of people never have." We eventually went separate ways in life and you know how they always say hindsight is 20/20? I don't think we would have succeeded at marriage very well at all. Our friendship was awesome but we were very different people.

HOWEVER, as the years go by... I have a guy friend who knows me better than anyone else in my life and even though there's never had any romanticism involved, I can't say I haven't considered it!!

What makes our hearts so lonely and desperate that we are willing to grasp at what seems like the final straws?

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Of course, the poll is anonymous and multiple choice!
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I once made that pact with a good guy friend... it just made us start to flirt with the idea of being with each other, when in reality- if we wanted to be a relationship, we would have been much earlier, instead of being friends! We ended up getting involved physically without a proper relationship, had to repent to each other and to God, and nearly ruined the friendship :( We are back in the same Bible study now and pretty good friends, but the friendship will never be the same.
 
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KeeganGentle

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It isn't a dating site, apparently they prefer to skip the dating and go right ahead to marriage, I just hope I get an invite to the wedding
 
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Jullianna

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adekruif said:
I thought this wasn't a dating site? :confused: *scratches head*


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KeeganGentle said:
It isn't a dating site, apparently they prefer to skip the dating and go right ahead to marriage, I just hope I get an invite to the wedding
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It was written tongue in cheek :)

The OP said that people always seemed to complain about being single, so maybe they should just marry one another. :)
 
AsifinPassing

AsifinPassing

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Jullianna said:
It was something about marry someone from this forum or hush (I'm paraphrasing :D )
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I was in that thread!! ..and you offered?! *Expletive* Where was I?!?!?! ^_~

...seriously though...you're quite a catch. I just wish I'd have had a female friend to make a marriage pact with...
 
secularhermit

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I voted for this option: "A marriage pact could be part of God's will for someone's life."

I hope that this option votes for me tooooooo. Ha! Ha! Ha! :)
 
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Descyple

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I'm single, your single............... let's keep it that way and stay sane!!!
 
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just_monicat

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marrying somebody that you don't have a legitimate romantic relationship with is like cheating on yourself. talk about starting your marriage in a deficit.

if there is one thing i know well, it is that a bad relationship is far worse than no relationship. it's the only way i know how to be lonely with someone else in the room.

are people so hard up and desperate to get married that they're willing to marry those who've primary criteria is proximity?

all my best friends are all guys. but it would take a real act of God (via a heart change) for me to ever consider marrying one of them. a friendship is too important to me to waste it on such a desperate and poorly thought out notion. it's just another invention of our backwards society.

no thank you.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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just_monicat said:
marrying somebody that you don't have a legitimate romantic relationship with is like cheating on yourself. talk about starting your marriage in a deficit.

if there is one thing i know well, it is that a bad relationship is far worse than no relationship. it's the only way i know how to be lonely with someone else in the room.

are people so hard up and desperate to get married that they're willing to marry those who've primary criteria is proximity?

all my best friends are all guys. but it would take a real act of God (via a heart change) for me to ever consider marrying one of them. a friendship is too important to me to waste it on such a desperate and poorly thought out notion. it's just another invention of our backwards society.

no thank you.
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What did I tell you people about dating?????

NO!

Most of Batman's friends are men too....what's up with that? lolz
 

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Seraphic

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Havnt had one, don't plan on it either. Although I'm creeping up on the age where it probably would come in handy. :p
 
thecreationtutor

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I would do it - like I want to go through all that dating... finding ...

Martin Luther married a woman to "Spite the Devil" - had no attraction to her or interest but married her because he broke her out of a nunery. They built a wonderful Godly Marriage - became friends, became lovers, became one.

I have a friend around my age - she's a solid Christian gal, I'd marry and let God's Sanctification work happen. She's just not interested in pursing more than friendship.

If I know a woman has good theology, a living theology, knows Christ - then have at it - let God sanctify us both to bring Glory to Him. There are a few girls I have met, solid gals etc who knows ?
 
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