"But why can't I find someone who just likes me for who I am?"
Love and Marriage is not a barometer of your self worth. Trying to get people to love and like you, for simply existing and being nice, is like hiring a kindergartner to do your taxes because they want to act like an adult.
The Truth is that YOU are nothing but the Fruit of your action. From such a thing such a thing comes. If you read the whole Bible and had it memorized cover to cover, what separates you from flash drive, is how you apply it. You have a chance to do more than just call yourself a Christian. The World only cares about what it can get from you. What need you can fulfill. And franlkly speaking, so does Christ. Our Lord and Savior did not die on the Cross for your self-esteem. He set the example for us and showed us how we can meet the needs of people. Not just by passing a silly share if it touches you chain Facebook picture. Truthfully, it accomplishes nothing.
John 15:2 "Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit."
Yes, you are not your Job but what you DO is in fact who you are. Who you are inside is who you are but only if you SHOW it. The man who uprooted his family from whatever hole they were living in so that he could scratch out a living in America, did it because of who he was inside. You and He are made of the same stuff. We all have it within us to take out the trash in our lives and make something beneficial to people.
If the person you would love to fall in love with followed you around throughout your day with a hidden camera would they be impressed? Would they think you are adorable, amazing, productive, ambitious, or would they think you are just a nice person. Nice people are really not the salt of the earth, they are just courteous. Its what is expected from all of us. Its the default factory setting on your brain to reduce conflict. Our Mothers taught us to be nice, but if we got stuck on that lesson, we missed the point.
Misery is comfortable, and real happiness takes effort. Its easy to sit and whine about everything that is wrong with the universe because that requires NOTHING from US. Not One Single Thing in your Life has to change so long as you can find fault with everything else. You can be bitter and miserable but, don't expect the same rewards as the people in your life who get the THINGS, LOVE, HAPPINESS, MONEY, RESPECT and LIFE that you want because of their fruit.
Its hard to go from NOT making something for fear of it being judged (by people who don't make things). Because as soon as something is created, there are 10 people ready to tear it down. These people will never make anything, they tell themselves that if they ever did make something it wouldn't be terrible like the Struggling Greek Pita place or the Hair dresser with Turrets or The Ugly house on the corner. But THAT is in fact what they make, Misery, stumbling blocks, and Criticism. When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical. (Matthew 7:15-20)
So rather than saying, "I'm fat, someone should love me for who I am because I hate myself and I'm never going to change because I don't want to be like THOSE JERKS who LOOK GOOD and make me FEEL BAD at the Gym." The only person who is responsible for how you feel is you. And in truth How you feel is irrelevant. Its the fruit of what you do that is important. People who workout, feel terrible but, they get over it because its not about that, its about the fruit of their labor. When you run 3 miles and your body feels like a sucking chest wound, its not about the pain, its about the fact that NO one else is going to do it for you. The same critical voice used to point the finger at others, when pointed it in its rightful direction moves us forward.
I'm not saying that you should lose 15 pounds. I'm not saying that by doing something you are going to get a GF/BF but, what I am saying is that you and I should do something and work at it long enough to be good at it. Do something impressive and don't worry about what other people think. People who do nothing are always going to hate you for doing something. (see youtube video comments) When critical people hate you, it means you stood for something, created something or took a chance. It means there is more courage coursing through your veins than exists in the sum of all internet Trolls combined.
Its what separates Rebecca Black's "FRIDAY" from anything most YouTube watchers have ever done.
Love and Marriage is not a barometer of your self worth. Trying to get people to love and like you, for simply existing and being nice, is like hiring a kindergartner to do your taxes because they want to act like an adult.
The Truth is that YOU are nothing but the Fruit of your action. From such a thing such a thing comes. If you read the whole Bible and had it memorized cover to cover, what separates you from flash drive, is how you apply it. You have a chance to do more than just call yourself a Christian. The World only cares about what it can get from you. What need you can fulfill. And franlkly speaking, so does Christ. Our Lord and Savior did not die on the Cross for your self-esteem. He set the example for us and showed us how we can meet the needs of people. Not just by passing a silly share if it touches you chain Facebook picture. Truthfully, it accomplishes nothing.
John 15:2 "Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit."
Yes, you are not your Job but what you DO is in fact who you are. Who you are inside is who you are but only if you SHOW it. The man who uprooted his family from whatever hole they were living in so that he could scratch out a living in America, did it because of who he was inside. You and He are made of the same stuff. We all have it within us to take out the trash in our lives and make something beneficial to people.
If the person you would love to fall in love with followed you around throughout your day with a hidden camera would they be impressed? Would they think you are adorable, amazing, productive, ambitious, or would they think you are just a nice person. Nice people are really not the salt of the earth, they are just courteous. Its what is expected from all of us. Its the default factory setting on your brain to reduce conflict. Our Mothers taught us to be nice, but if we got stuck on that lesson, we missed the point.
Misery is comfortable, and real happiness takes effort. Its easy to sit and whine about everything that is wrong with the universe because that requires NOTHING from US. Not One Single Thing in your Life has to change so long as you can find fault with everything else. You can be bitter and miserable but, don't expect the same rewards as the people in your life who get the THINGS, LOVE, HAPPINESS, MONEY, RESPECT and LIFE that you want because of their fruit.
Its hard to go from NOT making something for fear of it being judged (by people who don't make things). Because as soon as something is created, there are 10 people ready to tear it down. These people will never make anything, they tell themselves that if they ever did make something it wouldn't be terrible like the Struggling Greek Pita place or the Hair dresser with Turrets or The Ugly house on the corner. But THAT is in fact what they make, Misery, stumbling blocks, and Criticism. When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical. (Matthew 7:15-20)
So rather than saying, "I'm fat, someone should love me for who I am because I hate myself and I'm never going to change because I don't want to be like THOSE JERKS who LOOK GOOD and make me FEEL BAD at the Gym." The only person who is responsible for how you feel is you. And in truth How you feel is irrelevant. Its the fruit of what you do that is important. People who workout, feel terrible but, they get over it because its not about that, its about the fruit of their labor. When you run 3 miles and your body feels like a sucking chest wound, its not about the pain, its about the fact that NO one else is going to do it for you. The same critical voice used to point the finger at others, when pointed it in its rightful direction moves us forward.
I'm not saying that you should lose 15 pounds. I'm not saying that by doing something you are going to get a GF/BF but, what I am saying is that you and I should do something and work at it long enough to be good at it. Do something impressive and don't worry about what other people think. People who do nothing are always going to hate you for doing something. (see youtube video comments) When critical people hate you, it means you stood for something, created something or took a chance. It means there is more courage coursing through your veins than exists in the sum of all internet Trolls combined.
Its what separates Rebecca Black's "FRIDAY" from anything most YouTube watchers have ever done.
