Good marriage vs. great marriage? Which works for you ? :)

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GreenNnice

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Gotta preference?

Why? Wait? Why? Wait?

Good?
Great?

Why do.you think a good marriage will work?
Why MUST it be great ? Your momma says ;)

Or, hmm, love don't come easy, the song says, many say, what do you say?

What do you think God says? Of course, He has good plans for us , that are great, but, when it comes to marriage, is good enough?
 
joshhuntnm

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i prefer crummy. Just kidding. What kind of question is that?
 
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lost1972

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marriage is a covenant, there will be times you cant stand each other, but you stick through it and do as God says, and it will all work out.
 
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GreenNnice

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lost1972 said:
marriage is a covenant, there will be times you cant stand each other, but you stick through it and do as God says, and it will all work out.
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That's what is true, but will you give a girl a ring that you feel led is not from God perfectly set, she IS a Christian, she likes what you do, she is in love with you, greatly, but, you, hmm, you, are certain the marriage is only going to be 'good.'

But, ladies, too, you going to accept a ring from 'good' guy for you withbgood marriage perceived in future?

What can be anything but 'defeatist,' of that decision, as Barleysinginggirl said?

But you want marriage so badly.

Any Scripture to support your settling for 'good' instead of 'great' OK ?

Can God change your mind from thinking he's not good anymore but, instead, great?

Maybe a married person can come on here and help set in motion some perspective, someonewho settled for who they thought was just going to give them a good marriage and by way of somehow or some one ( One) this guy or gal became great ! :)
 
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lost1972

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GreenNnice said:
That's what is true, but will you give a girl a ring that you feel led is not from God perfectly set, she IS a Christian, she likes what you do, she is in love with you, greatly, but, you, hmm, you, are certain the marriage is only going to be 'good.'

But, ladies, too, you going to accept a ring from 'good' guy for you withbgood marriage perceived in future?

What can be anything but 'defeatist,' of that decision, as Barleysinginggirl said?

But you want marriage so badly.

Any Scripture to support your settling for 'good' instead of 'great' OK ?

Can God change your mind from thinking he's not good anymore but, instead, great?

Maybe a married person can come on here and help set in motion some perspective, someonewho settled for who they thought was just going to give them a good marriage and by way of somehow or some one ( One) this guy or gal became great ! :)
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if you put your marriage in Gods hands, why would you think it wouldnt be great? a great marriage isnt about all the romance junk you see in books, it's about having a best friend that will stand by you through everything, dont try and base one on the false expectations of the world
 
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GreenNnice

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lost1972 said:
if you put your marriage in Gods hands, why would you think it wouldnt be great? a great marriage isnt about all the romance junk you see in books, it's about having a best friend that will stand by you through everything, dont try and base one on the false expectations of the world
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True.

But are you hurrying love if you are not sure you are putting it in God's hands, and, maybe putting it in your hands?
 
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Blooming_Violet

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GreenNnice said:
Gotta preference?

Why? Wait? Why? Wait?

Good?
Great?

Why do.you think a good marriage will work?
Why MUST it be great ? Your momma says ;)

Or, hmm, love don't come easy, the song says, many say, what do you say?

What do you think God says? Of course, He has good plans for us , that are great, but, when it comes to marriage, is good enough?
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Green, obviously we all want the dream. You are referring to settling. Settling never works. There will be disappointment and expectations. Funny, just finished watching Hope Springs. It was really hard to watch. It is so easy to fall into a routine and lose sight or practice of ...


Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her


Ephesians 5:28
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Isn't that the dream?

Heck, honestly right now I might just consider ...

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

However being a wife takes a lot of work.

Isn't this the dream...


Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10*A wife of noble character who can find?
****She is worth far more than rubies.
11*Her husband has full confidence in her
****and lacks nothing of value.
12*She brings him good, not harm,
****all the days of her life.
13*She selects wool and flax
****and works with eager hands.
14*She is like the merchant ships,
****bringing her food from afar.
15*She gets up while it is still night;
****she provides food for her family
****and portions for her female servants.
16*She considers a field and buys it;
****out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17*She sets about her work vigorously;
****her arms are strong for her tasks.
18*She sees that her trading is profitable,
****and her lamp does not go out at night.
19*In her hand she holds the distaff
****and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20*She opens her arms to the poor
****and extends her hands to the needy.
21*When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
****for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22*She makes coverings for her bed;
****she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23*Her husband is respected at the city gate,
****where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24*She makes linen garments and sells them,
****and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25*She is clothed with strength and dignity;
****she can laugh at the days to come.
26*She speaks with wisdom,
****and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27*She watches over the affairs of her household
****and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28*Her children arise and call her blessed;
****her husband also, and he praises her:
29*“Many women do noble things,
****but you surpass them all.”
30*Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
****but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31*Honor her for all that her hands have done,
****and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.


But let's face it, a great marriage takes a lot of work but it cannot work if both do not have a GREAT relationship with the Lord. And BOTH have to do the work. One person cannot carry a relationship no matter how hard they try.


2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Like the song says ;)

"It takes two to make a thing go right. It takes two to make it out of sight."
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lost1972

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GreenNnice said:
True.

But are you hurrying love if you are not sure you are putting it in God's hands, and, maybe putting it in your hands?
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if you are both believers and place it in god's hands, you are not settling, he will change each of you into whats needed to make it great, you cant change yourself, but God can change you as needed
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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you could marry a great guy and end up having just an okay or good marriage.
 
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bestisblessed

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great marriage
 
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Karen2

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Totally Agree! I have been married to my Sweet Husband For 14 years now. There have been ups and downs, but we got through our hills and valleys because we prayed, leaned on each other and worked together. It also helps if your Spouse is your friend. I don't understand this question either! Good or Great? If I'm on Let's Make A Deal I'll go for Great!
 
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SpecialK70

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I had what I thought was a good marriage...but I knew I'd settled before I even walked down the aisle. We did not have Christ with us in our relationship. We attended church, but did not pray together or grew with Him. When life got in the way and our marriage was clearly out of control, I decided to throw a Hail Mary and got involved in a great church. He did not attend with me, but thankfully I grew enough that 5 months later when he walked out that door, I knew I was going to be ok.
 
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