still single lol have problem with being to afraid wheni start dating

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pretzelwetzel

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I have this issue when i start to date i am fine for a bit then all sudden start to second guess myself then freak out cuz they dont meet what i looking for and i dont know what to do?
 

rachelsedge

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How long do you know these girls before you start dating them? If they keep not meeting what you're looking for, perhaps you should get to know them better before you decide that they're girlfriend-material and jump into a relationship.
 
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Ugly

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Or maybe God's trying to tell you something...
 

Stuey

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If they aren't what you are looking for that's ok - you just need to end it as quickly and painlessly as possible.

I suggest inviting them to a restaurant to which you tell them you will meet them there, then not show up, but every 15 minutes or so after the agreed meeting time sending them a text message saying 'sorry, i'll be there in 15 min'. After about 2 hours of this, send one saying, 'sorry, was hanging out with this really cool single girl I just met! Hope you enjoyed dinner!'

They'll get the message and be so angry with you they won't even start turning all inward and wondering what was wrong with them.
 
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Wood-Note

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If they aren't what you are looking for that's ok - you just need to end it as quickly and painlessly as possible.

I suggest inviting them to a restaurant to which you tell them you will meet them there, then not show up, but every 15 minutes or so after the agreed meeting time sending them a text message saying 'sorry, i'll be there in 15 min'. After about 2 hours of this, send one saying, 'sorry, was hanging out with this really cool single girl I just met! Hope you enjoyed dinner!'

They'll get the message and be so angry with you they won't even start turning all inward and wondering what was wrong with them.
Lol what..

I would suggest getting to know them better before initiating a date. It could be a common ground sort of hangout with a small group of friends or something of the sort. Essentially learning who they are before hand so that it isn't a surprise later. Of course there still may be things that arent clear initially that will surface on a date or later on, but still it would be good to get more info. Also being able to have a clear idea as to what you are looking for (as you seem to) is good, ending the date on a good note, politely is best.