How guys rate girls, How girls rate guys
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Discuss. But one special rule: don't talk about yourself. (If you believe you are the exception to this, using you as an example is not a good example, because you don't always see yourself the way that you truly are).
I guess I have nothing to add then, except that I'm confused about how you want people to comment, lol.
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So are you miss Relena!
This chart is so sterile. The beauty of humanity is partly defined by its complexity. Sin dumbs us down, so I guess in a sinful world we start to see people in these ridiculous categories. Its so shallow to determine things like this solely by biology. Perhaps this is the biological make up of a sinful mind, but a person who knows Jesus should be adding to that equation. I have friends who think this way. I have friends who do not. This chart makes it seem like we are simply a collection of subjective traits with value that is determine by those "admiring" us. We are not traits. We are whole complex and beautiful creations of Christ. This chart is so limited and puts not only the created but the creator in a box.
Wht this does remind me of is the type of people you often see on daytime talk shows. I don't argue that these people do not exist, but for Christians to allow this fleshly outlook to determine how a child of God measures up is ridiculous. I am intelligent. I am beautiful. And I'm funny... But guess what: you're a jerk if that's all you care to notice!
This chart is so sterile. The beauty of humanity is partly defined by its complexity. Sin dumbs us down, so I guess in a sinful world we start to see people in these ridiculous categories. Its so shallow to determine things like this solely by biology. Perhaps this is the biological make up of a sinful mind, but a person who knows Jesus should be adding to that equation. I have friends who think this way. I have friends who do not. This chart makes it seem like we are simply a collection of subjective traits with value that is determine by those "admiring" us. We are not traits. We are whole complex and beautiful creations of Christ. This chart is so limited and puts not only the created but the creator in a box.
Wht this does remind me of is the type of people you often see on daytime talk shows. I don't argue that these people do not exist, but for Christians to allow this fleshly outlook to determine how a child of God measures up is ridiculous. I am intelligent. I am beautiful. And I'm funny... But guess what: you're a jerk if that's all you care to notice!
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Very Noble. You however take none of these things into consideration when you met a guy right? You are just going to grab the first ugly dumb guy with no money, and a totally flat humorless personality but a great heart and make him your husband?
Yeah...
As for myself..seems pretty accurate.
Yeah...
As for myself..seems pretty accurate.
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Intelligence, humor, money, looks.
I think the equation for how girls rate guys should be looks + money + (intelligence x humor)
We've all seen girls go crazy over a guy who is drop-dead gorgeous. And when there are old, rich millionaires who are dating young busty women, we all know why. But I don't think there are guys who carry themselves just based on intelligence. Nor do I think some guys carry themselves on just humor either. We don't think of scientists as being the object of women's affections. And a guy who is "funny" but dumb is popular in high school, and maybe in a college frat, but not really after that. But a guy who is charming AND funny? That can definitely be a big plus. But for the most part, yeah, I think it's a combination of all these things and the equation stands true for the most part.
I look around my church and see guys who are reasonably attractive, as well as interesting to talk to, stay single. But then once they graduate and get a big-boy job, bam, snatched up. It's that last factor that put them over the edge. But the ones who are already really good looking and charming don't have to wait. I see it working with the girls too; the hot ones always have a boyfriend. There are also decent-looking ones who are super fun and interesting; they take a little longer, but soon enough they are surrounded by potential suitors. It does sort of break down at some point though...as I do know a couple girls who are just awful looking and are both engaged.
I think the equation for how girls rate guys should be looks + money + (intelligence x humor)
We've all seen girls go crazy over a guy who is drop-dead gorgeous. And when there are old, rich millionaires who are dating young busty women, we all know why. But I don't think there are guys who carry themselves just based on intelligence. Nor do I think some guys carry themselves on just humor either. We don't think of scientists as being the object of women's affections. And a guy who is "funny" but dumb is popular in high school, and maybe in a college frat, but not really after that. But a guy who is charming AND funny? That can definitely be a big plus. But for the most part, yeah, I think it's a combination of all these things and the equation stands true for the most part.
I look around my church and see guys who are reasonably attractive, as well as interesting to talk to, stay single. But then once they graduate and get a big-boy job, bam, snatched up. It's that last factor that put them over the edge. But the ones who are already really good looking and charming don't have to wait. I see it working with the girls too; the hot ones always have a boyfriend. There are also decent-looking ones who are super fun and interesting; they take a little longer, but soon enough they are surrounded by potential suitors. It does sort of break down at some point though...as I do know a couple girls who are just awful looking and are both engaged.
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I'm sorry to break the rules, but I don't rate people. Rating someone is objectification. I'm not trying to be noble. I am simply being honest. I'm sorry that some girls do rate this way, but I don't and I know plenty who also don't. Is good looks a plus? Certainly. Would I like a guy who makes money? Yes, but generosity and a giving heart is oh so much more important. Hi cares about a guy who's funny, good-looking, and wealthy, but so self-absorbed that he hoards his money or uses it gain stature like flashing it at the hot chicks. I wish there was a puking emoticon. I'd insert it here.
If I were adapt this looks would be self-care...does he take care of himself? This does always translate into classic good looks. A guy who cares to take care of himself is much hotter than a ken doll. As I said before, what he does with the money he has is much more important than how much he has. Intelligence is a plus, but is define differently by people. Everyone has a talent. I would like a guy Jo can embrace ad pursue whatever talent God has given Him. This doesn't mean that he graduated with honors, conquered the SATS, or can roll off a ton if trivia. Humor is important, an there is no substitute.
im not saying that these traits are meaningless. The heart behind them is what matters though. I may be attracted enough to talk to a good looking guy, but if he's a selfish jerk I don't care how much money he spends in corvettes repairs and hair plugs. His money, looks, humor, an intelligence are meaningless. I also talk to the less attractive and find them more attractive when I see their heart.
If I were adapt this looks would be self-care...does he take care of himself? This does always translate into classic good looks. A guy who cares to take care of himself is much hotter than a ken doll. As I said before, what he does with the money he has is much more important than how much he has. Intelligence is a plus, but is define differently by people. Everyone has a talent. I would like a guy Jo can embrace ad pursue whatever talent God has given Him. This doesn't mean that he graduated with honors, conquered the SATS, or can roll off a ton if trivia. Humor is important, an there is no substitute.
im not saying that these traits are meaningless. The heart behind them is what matters though. I may be attracted enough to talk to a good looking guy, but if he's a selfish jerk I don't care how much money he spends in corvettes repairs and hair plugs. His money, looks, humor, an intelligence are meaningless. I also talk to the less attractive and find them more attractive when I see their heart.
This is a very dangerous topic. I'm willing to bet a shiny nickel that the graphic which was originally posted was designed by a man who was looking to a) be funny and b) explain how people get together. There are some women who insist that men have money in order for them to be attractive, just like there are some men who insist that a woman look like a model to be worthy of their attention. This is what it comes down to. There are averages (which is what the graphic represents) of what each gender looks for in a mate. How do we get an average? We take all the data, add it up, and find the middle ground. That's all this is, the average.
Now, as for the female side of how I evaluate a mate, this graphic sorely misrepresents me. And it seems to sorely misrepresent my fellow females. However, it seems that it represents the males relatively well. Either way, the graphic is a gab at how men evaluate women. We are continually reminded as women that we are graded on our looks, and in order to ever be "worthy" of attention we have to look like we've stepped out of a magazine. Graphics like these are reminders for girls like me that we'll never really be good enough.
Now, as for the female side of how I evaluate a mate, this graphic sorely misrepresents me. And it seems to sorely misrepresent my fellow females. However, it seems that it represents the males relatively well. Either way, the graphic is a gab at how men evaluate women. We are continually reminded as women that we are graded on our looks, and in order to ever be "worthy" of attention we have to look like we've stepped out of a magazine. Graphics like these are reminders for girls like me that we'll never really be good enough.
I don't have a problem with making an equation, so long as the numbers are subjective and not Objective.
For me... Beatrice Might be an 8 (4 + 5) but for LightningClap Beatrice might be a 7 (6 + 2).
However I do have a problem with the lack of complexity. If we were to make an equation it would have to include such variables as Mental stability and Openness and Health and communication skills and Musical Talent and Work Ethic and a plethora of innumerable variables.
I would say at minimum a measure of at least 30 different Variables plugged into an algorithm. Each value intrisic to the hierarchy by virtue of weighted subjective measure.
I think this pretty much what E-Harmony does.
If I can plug myself into an equation and then plug my values into a different equation, we have a rough working model for compatibility. (Theoretically)
tl;dr I like the idea of an equation (not this one) but, I don't like the idea of using any equation to solve anything.
For me... Beatrice Might be an 8 (4 + 5) but for LightningClap Beatrice might be a 7 (6 + 2).
However I do have a problem with the lack of complexity. If we were to make an equation it would have to include such variables as Mental stability and Openness and Health and communication skills and Musical Talent and Work Ethic and a plethora of innumerable variables.
I would say at minimum a measure of at least 30 different Variables plugged into an algorithm. Each value intrisic to the hierarchy by virtue of weighted subjective measure.
I think this pretty much what E-Harmony does.
If I can plug myself into an equation and then plug my values into a different equation, we have a rough working model for compatibility. (Theoretically)
tl;dr I like the idea of an equation (not this one) but, I don't like the idea of using any equation to solve anything.