The right person for everyone... (interesting topic)

[iraasuup]

Here's something I just thought I'd throw out here to see what kind of response I'd get...
I've noticed a plethora of threads/posts about 'finding the right one' which got me to thinking.....
Do you really think there is ONE right person for everyone? Let me clarify my question before you all jump down my throat...


Okay, so in an ideal world .. we meet our Mr/Mrs Right, get married, and live happily ever after...but let's face it this ISN'T an ideal world!! Sometimes relationships and sadly even marriages don't work. People can give all sorts of advice on how to make it work.. but at the end of the day it still doesn't. I understand that alot of times we have to go through pain and trials in our life in order to make us grow (perhaps a broken relationship?) Lot's of relationships don't work (for whatever reason)..even though the people may have genuninely been in love. So, I guess my question is this.....

Do you think, like it's possible to have loved someone (or possibly even been in a relationship/ marriage) but the reason that it (the relationship) didn't work was because they weren't the right person for you in the end? ( or possibly God had another plan.. and you just weren't listening..who knows?) Does that even make sense..
Like sometimes I wonder about the ONE right person for everyone.. I really do...
Having said that however.. I am in no way encouraging divorce or bigamy for that matter haha! I just wonder you know.. ?

What are your thoughts???

 

[Christianrkchk89]

So! I don't agree with the "there is only ONE right person for everyone." I know of people who were happily married, the spouse ended up passing away from some quick moving disease, and the widow/widower end up finding another spouse and end up happily married again!!

Another random thought...not sure about this one. I know God could definitely pair us up one for one. But He did give us some choice in whether or not we follow Him. So what if one person does and one doesn't? One leads a life astray and one is a Bible Believing Jesus Freak? Do they just not get married? Sad...

 

[iraasuup]

Ohhh.. very interesting point you make..

 

[4given30]

We are all so different- annoying habits and things that only we do that not every1 can put up with-god is the ultimate partner who not only puts up with our junk but encourages us to be more.(rant)
I believe there are many people who when we meet them it can seem that they are the one, but have we spent enough time with them to really know if they are the one-the one to share the rest of our life with, to have kids with, serve god with and all the rest that comes with marriage?? we tend to get all in the flesh and mushi in the first 5 minutes saying wow oh my goodness they are the one when really its just parts our ourselves getting on well with aspects of their charecter and personality.
I rekon God has a plan even wen it comes to marriage-that he has prepared a partner(one) for those who are to be married-some1 who wont just seem fascinating for 60 minutes but will stay around for 60 years-now that can only be a god thing.
FoR Some of us-we have to wait a little longer for whater reason i will trust my abba father that he has ONE and only one for me.
pEACE out

 

[iraasuup]

Hmm, I guess what I'm really wanting to know is.. like if a marriage doesn't work because (well for whatever reason - aside from being widowed of course) do you think that it can mean that there is someone else out there who really IS right? I mean.. if the first relationship doesn't work.. it doesn't necassarily mean the people weren't in love.. but you know stuff happens.. and it doesn't work. So then what? Are they both destined to remain single forever because their first attempt failed? I mean it doesn't make sense to me?

 

[4given30]

The only response i could come up with is my human response and when it comes to relationships especially ones where christians are involved ithink it will never make sense to us.
So in saying that-Anything is possible when it comes to the god of the universe-the same hands that flung the stars in the sky are the same hands that give and take away and sometimes we aint supposd to know all the answers

 

[Anntea]

I dont know what to say, god give us chance to pick our mate...
and he guide us, if we listen to him its good but if not sometime can b disaster..
the right one i think we will find when we make commitment to that relationship
i heard many cases , about bad husband or bad wife.... one of them, have to be survive and forgive the bad one, well..... they can happy after all when they accept the other one.... LOVE is important here, without love cant forgive , cant change ourself to make our couple happy...
its just my opinion

 

[Christianrkchk89]

I don't necessarily agree that if a marriage doesn't work out it's because there was someone else God had in mind either? But there are So0o0o0o many circumstances! Sometimes it's just that they didn't try to make it work. They got married found out more indepth about eachother's silly habits and broke it off! Sometimes the person panics and is afraid that they made the wrong choice and ditches the marriage...i guess it all depends? I still don't think there is a "one" haha.

 

[Baptistrw]

Some people are called to be single, most will marry. But there isn't a someone for everyone.

 

[Kenoragirl]

I think most people get married, just out of loneliness. Marriage is quite often for selfish reasons, and not for the purpose of doing God's will. I think if more people focused on God's will for their life, individually, less would make the mistake of marrying the wrong one. Yes, I think God has a special someone for everyone. But too often we forfeit meeting that special one by stepping out of God's will. Now, marriage isn't for everyone. Its a choice, just like love is a choice. You have the choice to be single or to be married. Anyways... that is my opinion on the matter. Take it or leave it =D

 

[Baptistrw]

I agree with you on that one Kenora. Some want to be married just to be married.

 

[hersecretrefuge]

Hey! Just wanted to respond to you.

I do not believe marriage is for everyone. Some people are called to live a life of celibacy. I wish I knew why Jesus makes certain people to live that kind of lifestyle but others he forms into a relationship of HIS TIMING, HIS CHOICE, AND HIS PERFECT PLAN. As single ladies and gentlemen we need to trust in the authority and leadership of Jesus for his direction in this area of our life! So many of us out of lonliness or whatever other things jump into relationships the God never intended for us to go through. And through those relationships and things, it really brings bondage and hardens the heart and the enemy gets a footstool through it all.

But Jesus's leadership is loyal, faithful, and true and even in the hardest moment...even when we dont understand it...Jesus is so good! His ways our higher then ours.


When divorce happens in a marriage, that breaks the heart of God. Divorce is never from Jesus! What happens is when the partners are brought together as one, the enemy comes in like a flood and tries to cause disunity and just everything that he knows will ruin the relationship. And each marriage will be attacked differently. But the good news is that we need to be praying over marriages in our regions and our country and be pleading the blood of Jesus over them and the power of Jesus's blood can break down any strongholds of the enemy in Jesus name! But yes as believers we need to stand in the gap for the "meant to be's" and the "marriages" of this country and pray and fast!

Anyway, God Bless! <3

 

[Kenoragirl]

Oh and btw.... i don't agree with divorce. I don't think that is God's plan at all. Now, don't get me wrong, bad things happen to innocent people, but if your marriage didn't "pan out" like you had hoped, I don't think you should jump into another marriage with all that baggage and bitterness. Besides, I don't think its fair to the other person. Take it from where you are and serve God from that point in your life. Maybe you weren't meant to be married. I'm not targeting anyone, that's just what I think.

 

[Baptistrw]

Amen. What God had joined together, let no man put asunder. No matter the problems, it can be worked out.

 

[iraasuup]

Hmmm, wow thanks guys.. you make very interesting points! It's just something that got me to thinking latley. I'm not divorced.. or getting divorced, (but I am married) but it's just something I've been wondering about. I mean sometimes married couples face problems.. deeper than anyone can ever understand.. and it just got me thinking about those issues, and why relationships don't work out and such.

 

[kapy]

hey there, i was snooping in your profile and you seem to me one of the few people i really want to know.
please reply soon.
bless you

 

[Baptistrw]

Who are you talking to Kapy?

 

[Kenoragirl]

He was talking to me Everyone wants to be my friend

 

[Baptistrw]

LOL.. nice one

 

[Kenoragirl]

Its true... *sigh* can't help it lol