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I'm going to ask kind of a different guy/girl question - it may vary from guy to guy, but I'm curious.
Do guys realize simply by looking at a woman that she respects herself? Like, in the way she presents herself. For example, when you walk into a room, she has good posture, but it's not forced, she's not ramrod straight. It's very natural. So it's basically how she carries herself, and not just modesty/immodesty. Not wanting to go into that issue. If so, do you see it right off the bat? Or would you not notice until approaching/talking to her, assuming that you do approach her and engage in conversation with her.
This question purely out of curiosity and I'm asking simply because I was watching a romance movie (last non-Christian romance movie I'll ever watch. Yuck. Ick. Blech!!) and a girl was complaining about how guys treated her once before and why she looked at them so cheaply. As I said. Last time I'll ever watch that kinda movie. As in...never ever ever. Ever. I mean, there were no graphic scenes. But I still wasn't a fan. It was kinda like, "Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy. But you're really hot. JUST KISS ME ALREADY!!"
Anyways, I wondered if it was because she didn't respect herself or she just represented herself in a way that attracted guys with those tendencies. Not saying she made the guy do it. It was purely up to the guy on whether he harassed her or not. No matter how someone dresses and carries themselves. But...if they don't carry themselves in a confident manner, is it going to attract the wrong type of guy, because they notice it, too?
Just to be clear - This is not about being a victim of harassment and who made who do what. Neither is it about modesty/immodesty. So please don't make it into that kind of thing. Thank you.
Do guys realize simply by looking at a woman that she respects herself? Like, in the way she presents herself. For example, when you walk into a room, she has good posture, but it's not forced, she's not ramrod straight. It's very natural. So it's basically how she carries herself, and not just modesty/immodesty. Not wanting to go into that issue. If so, do you see it right off the bat? Or would you not notice until approaching/talking to her, assuming that you do approach her and engage in conversation with her.
This question purely out of curiosity and I'm asking simply because I was watching a romance movie (last non-Christian romance movie I'll ever watch. Yuck. Ick. Blech!!) and a girl was complaining about how guys treated her once before and why she looked at them so cheaply. As I said. Last time I'll ever watch that kinda movie. As in...never ever ever. Ever. I mean, there were no graphic scenes. But I still wasn't a fan. It was kinda like, "Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy. But you're really hot. JUST KISS ME ALREADY!!"
Anyways, I wondered if it was because she didn't respect herself or she just represented herself in a way that attracted guys with those tendencies. Not saying she made the guy do it. It was purely up to the guy on whether he harassed her or not. No matter how someone dresses and carries themselves. But...if they don't carry themselves in a confident manner, is it going to attract the wrong type of guy, because they notice it, too?
Just to be clear - This is not about being a victim of harassment and who made who do what. Neither is it about modesty/immodesty. So please don't make it into that kind of thing. Thank you.
, but, I respect a girl who asks me questions back when I ask her questions. That gets my respect, and, she doesn't have to be in perfect posture, but, sure, the way we 'carry' ourselves matters And, it's good for the back, too The Christian guy is going to be asking God a lot of questions when he sees a girl he likes, I think, he should, anyway, and, wanting to know if she is someone that is carrying herself , more than anything else, in a Christian manner. That's a difficult one to fully assess and decipher, since what is 'carrying oneself in a Christian manner,' but, it's just doing things that speak of Jesus and what Jesus would do, milady .
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Starting right HERE on c.c., brother iToreHis, you bring a lot of fruit and you just have to think back but you are so easy to talk to and bleed your heart to people and are a chummy guy, I can just tell, there is 'fruit' in just being you, as God intended and the way we know we are being the 'you' that God wants us to be is by having faith in just going about life doing things that He has gifted us with, so, you're words on c.c. are well read and your honesty, I'm sure, garners a great respect from all on c.c. , of you life's doings and going-ons. And, just doing things with change is something admirrable too.
God bless you, brother
Interesting, monnycat, never thought about the scent staying around longer from the snow, but, makes sense, because she just goes ballistic with all the fresh critter tracks on freshly fallen snow
Good ole, Mont--a-a--a-a-na , and, I'm not making fun of it, not too much; . My mom's from Helena growing up and Grandma lived in Great Falls too quite some time
God bless you, brother
Interesting, monnycat, never thought about the scent staying around longer from the snow, but, makes sense, because she just goes ballistic with all the fresh critter tracks on freshly fallen snow
Good ole, Mont--a-a--a-a-na , and, I'm not making fun of it, not too much;
. My mom's from Helena growing up and Grandma lived in Great Falls too quite some time
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Interesting, monnycat, never thought about the scent staying around longer from the snow, but, makes sense, because she just goes ballistic with all the fresh critter tracks on freshly fallen snow
Good ole, Mont--a-a--a-a-na , and, I'm not making fun of it, not too much; . My mom's from Helena growing up and Grandma lived in Great Falls too quite some time
Good ole, Mont--a-a--a-a-na , and, I'm not making fun of it, not too much;
. My mom's from Helena growing up and Grandma lived in Great Falls too quite some time
Right now I'm having one of those times when I'm trying to figure out why it would be better to go on living. Tonight I found out that the one person I thought appreciated me was actually very unimpressed and disappointed in me even though I had really done my absolute best to make a good impression (I am talking about my boss at my new job). This really upsets me not only because I have/had a lot of admiration and was extremely grateful to this person for believing in me enough to hire me and for being such a great boss to me (until tonight when I found out what he really thinks of me ). I've put my all into each day at work and worked as though working for the Lord (who is my real boss). My life at home is just as bad. I don't know what to do. I guess I need prayer.
). I've put my all into each day at work and worked as though working for the Lord (who is my real boss). My life at home is just as bad. I don't know what to do. I guess I need prayer.
Psalm 17:1-9 (A psalm of David)
Hear me, Lord, my plea is just;
listen to my cry.
Hear my prayer—
it does not rise from deceitful lips.
[SUP]2 [/SUP]Let my vindication come from you;
may your eyes see what is right.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]Though you probe my heart,
though you examine me at night and test me,
you will find that I have planned no evil;
my mouth has not transgressed.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]Though people tried to bribe me,
I have kept myself from the ways of the violent
through what your lips have commanded.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]My steps have held to your paths;
my feet have not stumbled.
[SUP]6 [/SUP]I call on you, my God, for you will answer me;
turn your ear to me and hear my prayer.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]Show me the wonders of your great love,
you who save by your right hand
those who take refuge in you from their foes.
[SUP]8 [/SUP]Keep me as the apple of your eye;
hide me in the shadow of your wings
[SUP]9 [/SUP]from the wicked who are out to destroy me,
from my mortal enemies who surround me..
Hear me, Lord, my plea is just;
listen to my cry.
Hear my prayer—
it does not rise from deceitful lips.
[SUP]2 [/SUP]Let my vindication come from you;
may your eyes see what is right.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]Though you probe my heart,
though you examine me at night and test me,
you will find that I have planned no evil;
my mouth has not transgressed.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]Though people tried to bribe me,
I have kept myself from the ways of the violent
through what your lips have commanded.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]My steps have held to your paths;
my feet have not stumbled.
[SUP]6 [/SUP]I call on you, my God, for you will answer me;
turn your ear to me and hear my prayer.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]Show me the wonders of your great love,
you who save by your right hand
those who take refuge in you from their foes.
[SUP]8 [/SUP]Keep me as the apple of your eye;
hide me in the shadow of your wings
[SUP]9 [/SUP]from the wicked who are out to destroy me,
from my mortal enemies who surround me..
LittleC, not sure what's being said here, or, even asked. But, I don't really know if a guy can read a girl's self-esteem of herself readily when just meeting her, if that's what you mean by 'respect.' Things, to me, again, this is 'green' talking , but, I respect a girl who asks me questions back when I ask her questions. That gets my respect, and, she doesn't have to be in perfect posture, but, sure, the way we 'carry' ourselves matters And, it's good for the back, too
The Christian guy is going to be asking God a lot of questions when he sees a girl he likes, I think, he should, anyway, and, wanting to know if she is someone that is carrying herself , more than anything else, in a Christian manner. That's a difficult one to fully assess and decipher, since what is 'carrying oneself in a Christian manner,' but, it's just doing things that speak of Jesus and what Jesus would do, milady .
, but, I respect a girl who asks me questions back when I ask her questions. That gets my respect, and, she doesn't have to be in perfect posture, but, sure, the way we 'carry' ourselves matters And, it's good for the back, too The Christian guy is going to be asking God a lot of questions when he sees a girl he likes, I think, he should, anyway, and, wanting to know if she is someone that is carrying herself , more than anything else, in a Christian manner. That's a difficult one to fully assess and decipher, since what is 'carrying oneself in a Christian manner,' but, it's just doing things that speak of Jesus and what Jesus would do, milady .
If you want...you can just ignore the question and the thread. I should have just kept the whole thing to myself. It was all over the place. Probably not a whole lot of people understood it.
Ugh...the supplements I'm taking are supposed to help this. Maybe they aren't working.
Whatever it is. Just forget it.
(I'm not upset with anyone but myself.)
Ugh...the supplements I'm taking are supposed to help this. Maybe they aren't working.
Whatever it is. Just forget it.
(I'm not upset with anyone but myself.)
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My hairdresser doesn't understand my Swedish that well (to be honest, my Swedish isn't that good), so for the first time since I was 16 I am now without sideburns. I feel naked, empty.. what meaning does this life have left for me?!
Awww. If it's any comfort, I can't speak swedish either, even though they're "neighbours".
God never leaves nor forsakes us, even if or when if it ever appears that way. No weapons formed against God's can ever prosper, ever and you are God's, because you do believe God, and finally no one can snatch you out of his hand ever. All evil can ever do, is try to cause doubt, and by doubt the original fall came. So keep trusting Sister no matter what, you are in the Hand of Father through the Son by Faith you are saved and children too!!!!!!!!!!!!! keep listening as you are led
Ohhh, you don't be worry about IloveyouGod, TRUST me!! As you said, be wise as serpants and kind as doves, I apply this to its fullest.
Thanks homwardbound.
As you said, be wise as serpants and kind as doves, I apply this to its fullest. Thanks homwardbound.
John 8:32 and ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
John 8:36 If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.
Sometimes the reality of what he went through for us needs to be heartfelt, wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I say who can go to that extreme? Christ did for you, me and all the world, waiting patiently for us to come to beleive God the Father through him and grow up unto God the Father in all things. Anyone who loves me that much, how can I refuse to believe?
1 John 4:19 We love him, because he first loved us.
1 John 4:19 We love him, because he first loved us.