I don't care if you look like the above 1940's version of Mrs. Smith. If you have the following traits you'll do well in the dating world:
1. Make your man a sandwich. (Just kidding) But, seriously, who wouldn't in a loving relationship? I made my ex breakfast in bed and had her mom take it down to her. A few chocolate chip pancakes wouldn't hurt. Any woman who does this would impress me.
2. When you're married, feel free to leave your bras hanging around in plain view. It doesn't hurt to remind your husband that you're a woman and sexy for heck's sake.
3. Be strong on the inside and soft on the out. I understand that some women don't want to scare their man away, so they end up being more open with their friends than with their significant other. But doing so will only make him suspicious and multiply problems. Be strong and confident, but kind and feminine.
4. Be humble, but don't let it detract from your personality.
5. Don't let single, attractive, charming men, who make playful advances at you, hug you in front of your man (or in any situation). Just think about how you would react if a girl were doing this to your man and he was completely okay with the advances and appeared to be taken by them. In such a situation react how you would want your man to react.
6. Wear your man's shirts. It's cute. If you're married, then going bra-less in his shirt is cute and sexy. Just sayin'.
7. Be ready for some fierce cuddling.
8. Let your man pamper you - even if you're a feminist and it's against your religion.
9. Problem solve through communication. But use discretion. Don't try to problem solve every little aspect of your relationship at once. Get the important points out of the way and after that try not to appear like a nag. A little is healthy; a lot is annoying.
10. Don't forget about your man during extended absences. Long distance relationships don't mean he's dead or that he's not thinking about you and still trying to be your boyfriend. Take the time to catch up with him on a semi-regular basis. Respond to letters, emails, etc. or even write some of your own.
11. Respect your man. Don't start comparing him to other men. Remember that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence till you find out it stays out late in bars, cheats and poops its pants from alcohol-induced incontinence.
12. Don't be critical of your guy. Chances are he's not very critical of you. We're easy to please.
13. If you think you look fat, then chances are your guy thinks you look fat. Don't ask him. If he's still with you it's because he doesn't define you by your weight but recognizes that you are a human being. Give him a break, and don't put him on the spot.
14. Don't feel pressured to laugh at his jokes. Sometimes he flaps his lips just to be playful. He won't be offended if you don't take an interest in everything he has to say or do. Feel free to act naturally or ignore him - just as long as it's not going out of your way to be rude.
15. Don't baby your guy when he's sad or mad. A man can't get confirmation that he's a man from a woman. The only thing that's needed is your silent presence.
16. Don't be so busy that you have very little time for him, and then start feeling like there's no depth to him. It could be that you haven't spent the time to get to know him. And some men it takes a long time to really understand.
17. Exercise. Stay fit. Take care of yourself. You're man knows that you're more than your weight, but spending time beautifying yourself does nothing to detract from a relationship but only adds to it.
18. Above all, love him. Remember that you're with him and not with another man for a reason. So don't treat other men with more kindness, playfulness, respect or love than you would your own. Otherwise you should just break up with him now.
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