do u think god would bring us a mate that we are not physically attracted to

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Leilaii425

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It could have something to do with being on a blind date in the first place. Usually when friends set you up, it's because they are worried about you.

i dont see why anyone would be worried about me. you on the other hand... its kinda ify...
 
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PapaIyash

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I have an issue i keep seeing people get togethor with people they dont find attractive just for religious sake then after their 2 gethor its rocky due to it. I know god doesnt look at physical things but he does use certain people with beauty to catch attention like with miss usa who was against same sex marriage.This one has me wondering also because u wont know if they really like u or just your beauty n e ways. Sometimes god brings us people to just learn things from and we let our flesh take over and end up hooking up with them when it was only a pit stop from the journey.
hi there, I'm a bit new here.
but here goes. anything is possible with god. but god is a god of love so if you ask for bread, why would he give you a snake??
 
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Leilaii425

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#44
well that's sweet of you to leave a slim doubt. For yourself, the fruit of self delusion.

awww i think your the first person ever to call me sweet! and i do enjoy fruit.. apples, oranges, strawberries, bananas, kiwi, boats, i really like long walks on the beach,
 

DinoDillinger

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#45
awww i think your the first person ever to call me sweet! and i do enjoy fruit.. apples, oranges, strawberries, bananas, kiwi, boats, i really like long walks on the beach,
well you know what they say, you are what you eat...

ZING!!
 
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Leilaii425

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#46
well you know what they say, you are what you eat...

ZING!!

ZING??? what is that? ohh your trying to spell BING... or DING. or maybe SING! dont worry we can work on your letters a little bit later
 
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iRocChrist

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#47
ZING??? what is that? ohh your trying to spell BING... or DING. or maybe SING! dont worry we can work on your letters a little bit later
lol! i just read the Carebears Flintstones dispute and i must sayyy MUPPET BABIES RULE!! lmbo! if you haven't watch muppet babies den you've missed out!!!!
 

eugenius

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Attractive to a specific person does not have to mean Miss America. (In my opinion they look very fake) The phrase beauty is in the eye of the beholder is true. The phrase one man's trash is another man's treasure is also true. (Not related to this, but similar logically)

God will bring someone YOU are physically attracted to, even though some others might not think so. If he didn't why would he program into us to care about looks even a little bit?

For me looks are last on the list. They matter to a certain small extent but personality is everything.
 
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Remmy

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yeah i agree with you eugenius,looks are not the most important thing but i do believe that physical attraction is important for a relationship.whether i become attracted to him at first sight or after years of knowing him personally,either way ..there must be some physical attraction for us to start dating.
i do believe that God will sent us that person just for us whom we are sttracted to
 
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songster

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#50
I believe that God is involved in the mate selection process, but we are the ones who decide that we are desirous of marriage. Compatibility is not a perfect science. Our definitions of attractiveness are not all the same and some set high standards based on what society deems attractive.

I believe that we can ask for what we want, and then God determines how both the man and the woman can be used in His kingdom for His glory. Outward/physical attractiveness, intellect, personality, and even financial stability are all initial qualities that some consider attractive at the outset, but these are not the building blocks which secure a lasting foundation for a relationship.

I don't believe in soul mates, (that there is only one person somewhere in the world for another person). I believe that God answers prayer, and that he gives us the desire of our hearts, provided there is mutual consent. But we must possess the character and the perseverence to withstand the tests and trials which strengthen the bond between a man and a woman, and reveal the deeper and more significant ties, such as trust, vulnerability and sacrifice.
 
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Remmy

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i get what you are saying songster and i agree with you..but im not saying that physical attraction is the MOST important thing to keep a reltionship togheter
that is not what im saying at all.im simply saying that it is important in a reltionship but not that is the MOST important factor.the most important thing is that he is child of God.we both need to love the Lord wholehearthedly and go in the same direction.
 
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Tegelik

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#52
I believe there are many factors which are important and there is no such thing as "the most important factor". Beliefs, attitudes, personality, physical attractiveness etc. One trait is as important as the other.
 
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lil-rush

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#53
I think God could most definitely send me a spouse I'm not physically attracted to. In fact, I'll be surprised if the man I marry is very good-looking. Based off of the people I have had serious crushes on in the past, I'm not really the type who is attracted to looks. Brains, yes. Looks, no. So basically, I'm probably going to end up marrying a less-than-attractive nerd. The thought doesn't really bother me. The thought of marrying someone who isn't smarter than me does bother me, though... oh my goodness. I just realized how much it would suck to marry someone less smart than me.
 
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Ancilla

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#54
I DEFINITLY don't think God would send us a mate that we're not physically attracted to. Joshua Harris addressed this issue in one of his books and called it "trying to be more holy than God." See, I don't think someone should ever, ever, ever marry someone they're not attracted to. Now, that being said, it's not necessary for one to marry someone who's considered good looking by others. See, one can be physically attracted to someone who's not a classically attractive person. That's because what's on the inside affects how we see people on the outside. You can start off by not thinking someone is good looking, but then after getting to know them you start to feel attracted to them. People who aren't attracted to each other in every way aren't really in love. If such people get married, they tend to get divorced a couple years later saying that were only really friends to begin with. That's not what God intended marriage to be.
 
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Ancilla

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I think God could most definitely send me a spouse I'm not physically attracted to. In fact, I'll be surprised if the man I marry is very good-looking. Based off of the people I have had serious crushes on in the past, I'm not really the type who is attracted to looks. Brains, yes. Looks, no. So basically, I'm probably going to end up marrying a less-than-attractive nerd. The thought doesn't really bother me. The thought of marrying someone who isn't smarter than me does bother me, though... oh my goodness. I just realized how much it would suck to marry someone less smart than me.
I'm the same way. My sister set me up with a guy and told me that she thought I'd find him cute. I'm like "who cares, do think I'd find him intelligent?" I'd like to find a guy with an IQ over 130 and a graduate degree. BUT, I have to be careful because those things can become as shallow and worldly as one's appearance.