do u think god would bring us a mate that we are not physically attracted to

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prprincesa

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I have an issue i keep seeing people get togethor with people they dont find attractive just for religious sake then after their 2 gethor its rocky due to it. I know god doesnt look at physical things but he does use certain people with beauty to catch attention like with miss usa who was against same sex marriage.This one has me wondering also because u wont know if they really like u or just your beauty n e ways. Sometimes god brings us people to just learn things from and we let our flesh take over and end up hooking up with them when it was only a pit stop from the journey.
 
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ChristopherMichael

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From my experience, it's very hard to have a relationship with someone you're not physically attracted to. I pray that God would send me someone that I find attractive, so our relationship can be that much closer and stronger.

I did hear of a notable case where God brought a girl together with a guy that didn't find her attractive at all. That couple gave their testimony at our church, and the crowd kind of gasped when he said "Yeah, at first one of the big problems in our relationship was that I don't find her physically attractive." Not normally the thing you expect to hear from a happily married Christian couple, especially from the man when his wife's standing right there. But he went on to say how God had been leading him to her, and how their relationship has been amazing.

So yeah, I think as a general rule, physical attraction is a very important part of a relationship, and shouldn't be overlooked. As a caveat, however, God is God, and can work things any way he wishes, and you should be staying in prayer to find out what he wants you to do.

God bless you!
- Topher
 
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kiwi_OT

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The wonderful thing about God is that he created us with our own likes and dislikes and passions etc. He knows what characteristics we're into in the opposite sex because he planned it. The person God has in mind for us will be attractive to us both physicall, emotionally and spiritually and vice versa. God created marriage for us so we could be in intimate partnership with the other as well as for the enjoyment of sex as an act of love and procreation. If we're not attracted to our life partner in wanting something as basic and wonderful as sex then something has gone wrong on our part as humans not God.
 

J0Y

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In answer to the question of this forum - in short: YES!
It happened to one of my friends. She soooo wasnt interested in him but he was pretty relentless (good on him I say!!) and in the end the attraction grew because it was of God!!! She fell for his humour, his character, his love for the Lord - the whole package.....then, she could finally also say she was physically attracted to him too!! Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but more than that, when you get to know a person its amazing how someone you didnt think was good looking suddenly becomes attractive!

Incidentally, 4 children and 10 years later they are still blissfully in love!

God does amazing things in bringing people together!
 
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Hethr

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There's a difference in becoming physically attracted to someone based on other attractive things and time, or not being attracted to the person ever. I don't know how people can marry someone after still not being physically attracted to them. Unless it's mutual that they don't care about that.
 
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Brian64

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I dont think God will match us with people we are not physically attracted to. As far as our life here on earth is concerned, I think our bodies play a very important role for identity, identification, attraction, care, love, etc. When God brought Eve to Adam, it seems that Adam was physically attracted to her. When Rebecca was brought to Isaac by Eleazar, Isaac fell in love with her at the first sight. Jacob was in love with Rachel the moment he saw her. All these underline that physical attraction is very important. For me, friendship is more important than physical attraction. With our friends, we can have fun, laughter, enjoyment and entertainment. We can spend days and months with our friends without feeling bored. But I also think that friendship alone is not enough marriage. There must be an element of passion too. We must feel attracted for physical intimacy at the right time. For me 80% of friendship and 20% of passion is the ideal foundation for a strong marriage.
 
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I have an issue i keep seeing people get togethor with people they dont find attractive just for religious sake then after their 2 gethor its rocky due to it. I know god doesnt look at physical things but he does use certain people with beauty to catch attention like with miss usa who was against same sex marriage.This one has me wondering also because u wont know if they really like u or just your beauty n e ways. Sometimes god brings us people to just learn things from and we let our flesh take over and end up hooking up with them when it was only a pit stop from the journey.
I have met women in the past that I was not initially attracted to but after getting to spend some time with them and getting to know them I became attracted to them so yes, I do think God may send someone you may not physically be attracted to at first but they will grow on you and then you will be just as attracted as you would be physically, maybe even more so.
 

DinoDillinger

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Well if you require that going in what are you gonna have in 30 years when the birds fly south for the winter?

(I already know what your going to say)
 
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Twilight

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Some really good comments, guys. I especially liked what Kiwi_OT had to say. I really think that physical attraction is very important to a relationship. Maybe not the most important, but a key ingredient. I think of it this way: God isn't even content that we simply obey Him, do our Christian duty, believe what he says. He even wants passionate followers, head over heals in love with Him. And a husband/wife relationship is meant to be a picture of that spiritual relationship with Him. I think it cheapens what He really intended and totally does injustice to God to think He would expect us to be in a marriage where there is no physical attraction ever. At the same time, I know at least two couples where she was totally uninterested, but in the long-run, God gave her love and attraction for him. "No good thing will He withold from those who walk uprightly." (Sorry, unsure of reference) Love ya guys!

Oh yeah, just thought of Song of Solomon! I think this is God's written revelation of what He intended for a marriage relationship. Nothing dry and passionless here!!
 
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Remmy

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physical attraction is definitly one of the ''must have'' on my list. i also beleive that God wants us to be attracted to our mate. i personally would not date someone im not attracted too.
 
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buckeyegirl700

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I would date someone even if I was not physically attracted to them. I want to stay single but if I were going to date someone I would want them to have all the qualities that I want in a guy. I would want God to be in charge of the details. God made us all special, unique, and different. I would hate to think I had met the guy God created just for me and I turned him down because he was not cute. I would also want a guy to be honest with me and tell me if he was not attracted to me.
 
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When you spend a few hundred hours with a person a certain chemical gets released in your brain and then you are attracted to them no matter what they look like, when they say "love is blind" it's true. That's why arranged marriages usually work.
 
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dovey

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Agree with Kiwi-ot and Twilight....why even bother with something that isnt amazing! You would be better off living as Paul and basking in God's Glory more often because you have more alone time when you are single, and less distractions. Jesus is just toooo Amazing to allow anything to steal that precious time with Him. Some of my most amazing moments of the day with God have been at night in prayer, I wouldnt trade those for the world. I have seen people love people that they were once highly attracted to and because of health problems became physically unatractive, but the Love was still there burning. I think that love is unexplainable, and when God makes it happens it really happens!! And I full expect if it is Gods will for me to marry, we will be perfectly matched. Like He had been planning it for a very long time. It would have to be that way, or I would rather it Just be Jesus!
 
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Leilaii425

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I find most people unattractive, so its not hard to believe that god would bring me someone im not attracted to.
 
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Twilight

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Wow, I love what you said, Dovey! Brought tears to my eyes. How true, why have a relationship if it's not the awesome, passionate love God intended it to be. I don't "need" to be married because I have a deep relationship with Jesus. I would like to be married because through loving Him, He's put the desire in me to be close to and lavish love on someone else. I think it's kinda like I'm spoiled because I've experienced the amazing, intimate love of God and couldn't, and have no reason to, settle for anything that is less than a picture or expression of that love and intimacy!!!
 
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iRocChrist

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Twilight I love your response. Just the other night i was like, why do i wanna get married so badly? do I not have everything i need right now, isn't GOD the only MAN i should be devoted too. In my eyes Im already married to the LORD!

on the note of attractiveness: I think GOD know the desires of your heart and HE knows already who HE will send for you, and HE know you will indeed be a match and vice versa...I wouldn't even try looking for attractiveness....or anything for that matter...I would ask GOD about the person..pass it through HIM and if he is the one..then he will be and you will be attracted..makes sense?

felt like i was rambling lol ;-)

 
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buckeyegirl700

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hey iRoChrist,

I love your response, I feel the same way that God already knows who we should be with. If I met someone I would definitly pray about it and ask God if he was right for me.
 
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iRocChrist

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Yes, bring everything before GOD and HE will reveal an answer to you! Im waiting on my GOD to reveal to me my purpose! Patience is hard, but it can be done! Thank you Buckeyegirl700
 

DinoDillinger

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I find it very interesting that men are usually considered the more visual beings as opposed to women, yet this post is filled mostly with christian women saying that physical attraction is required. Also a good point of note is that most are also single.

I have found in the past that alot of women I wasn't attracted to at first became much more so after getting to know them and alot that are attractive at first sight lose that beauty after you talk to them for a few minutes.
 
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Leilaii425

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I find it very interesting that men are usually considered the more visual beings as opposed to women, yet this post is filled mostly with christian women saying that physical attraction is required. Also a good point of note is that most are also single.

I have found in the past that alot of women I wasn't attracted to at first became much more so after getting to know them and alot that are attractive at first sight lose that beauty after you talk to them for a few minutes.

Dillinger it would be hard to be married to someone your not attracted to, so just because women may not be the visual ones here, i feel its necessary to be attracted to the one your going to date or be married to. I have talked to alot of guys who were very attractive but the more i got to know them the less attractive they became, and ive talked to some guys that were not attractive at all, but there personalities made them very very attractive. I find that the unattractive men are more with it and have much more personality than the attractive men do...