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Hello,
Basically, I need some advice on this subject, because I have no clue. I’m 25yrs old and everybody in my entourage is wondering why they have never seen me with a boyfriend.
I've been a christian for a long time but unfortunately things have not been perfect, especially during my early 20s. I really ought to thank God for his grace! No judgement here please, I just need some advices.
I've never been in a serious relationship and I don’t know what it’ll be like to be in one. What are the things you are supposed to do or say or what are the unspoken rules and policies that should be followed, I meanI have no clue at all! And what should I do when I’m being talked to by a guy? It gets even more complicated when I’m scared of being approached by someone I like.
Let’s just say that the first guy I met some years ago sexually abused me and I just tossed it in the back of my mind and carried on with life as if it wasn’t a big deal. I went out every single week to clubs, and actuallymet someone who was married. I was 20, he was 34 with a pregnant wife at home; butI didn’t know until he felt bad and told me about the situation when she gave birth. He told me right when I really started to like him. I thought I was gonna go crazy during that period. I started smoking and had some crazy thoughts running through my mind about what I could do to him and his brand new car!
But anyway, about four years have passed since those events and I’ve never dated again. As I got older and more stable mentally, I realized I couldn’tjust toss the abuse in the back of my mind as I started having flash backs. I do realize it could have some impact on my future relationship. I say “some” because I’m definitely opened to having a normal relationship with a regular guy, because I know they are plenty of just normal, nice guys out there. I don’t think I need to seek medical help. Like I said, I do recognize that not all men are bad.
So right now, I’m opened to meeting new people.The only thing is I get scared very bad and I just want to run off when I’mapproached by someone I think I might like lol. I’d basically ruin it before iteven gets started.
Going back to my question, how should I act when approachedby a guy and not give the wrong signals? And how do you guys behave and act when in a relationship? Don’t tell me to act naturally because I don’t know what that means! If you can, please be specific!
Thanks!
Basically, I need some advice on this subject, because I have no clue. I’m 25yrs old and everybody in my entourage is wondering why they have never seen me with a boyfriend.
I've been a christian for a long time but unfortunately things have not been perfect, especially during my early 20s. I really ought to thank God for his grace! No judgement here please, I just need some advices.
I've never been in a serious relationship and I don’t know what it’ll be like to be in one. What are the things you are supposed to do or say or what are the unspoken rules and policies that should be followed, I meanI have no clue at all! And what should I do when I’m being talked to by a guy? It gets even more complicated when I’m scared of being approached by someone I like.
Let’s just say that the first guy I met some years ago sexually abused me and I just tossed it in the back of my mind and carried on with life as if it wasn’t a big deal. I went out every single week to clubs, and actuallymet someone who was married. I was 20, he was 34 with a pregnant wife at home; butI didn’t know until he felt bad and told me about the situation when she gave birth. He told me right when I really started to like him. I thought I was gonna go crazy during that period. I started smoking and had some crazy thoughts running through my mind about what I could do to him and his brand new car!
But anyway, about four years have passed since those events and I’ve never dated again. As I got older and more stable mentally, I realized I couldn’tjust toss the abuse in the back of my mind as I started having flash backs. I do realize it could have some impact on my future relationship. I say “some” because I’m definitely opened to having a normal relationship with a regular guy, because I know they are plenty of just normal, nice guys out there. I don’t think I need to seek medical help. Like I said, I do recognize that not all men are bad.
So right now, I’m opened to meeting new people.The only thing is I get scared very bad and I just want to run off when I’mapproached by someone I think I might like lol. I’d basically ruin it before iteven gets started.
Going back to my question, how should I act when approachedby a guy and not give the wrong signals? And how do you guys behave and act when in a relationship? Don’t tell me to act naturally because I don’t know what that means! If you can, please be specific!