Hello Everyone,
There was a little discussion about this a while ago in chat, but I thought I'd also pose the question here: for all you ladies who have been single for some time and are finding that the years are creeping by... how are you feeling about being single? Do you feel more or less discouraged as time goes by? Do you feel you have a closer or more distant relationship with God during this time by yourself?
Something that was brought up in chat is the socially-created feeling that you have to "compete" with younger women to attract a man's attention... Now, I know this isn't what God says of course, but unfortunately, we do live in a world where even the strongest of faith at least occasionally succumb to feelings like this.
Ladies, how do you keep your confidence up? I myself look in the mirror and think, "There is no way I can compete with a 22-year-old." But I try my best to stay as fit and as healthy as possible, not just for dating, but to honor God and be happy with myself.
I have heard some women my age or older say about women who are younger, "Well, they're just little girls... if a man is that desperate that he wants someone so young, that's his problem."
However, I don't think this is what God would want us to say. All of us are beautiful in God's sight and worthy of a positive word. When I see other women, no matter what age or stage in life, I try to always make my prayer be, "She's very pretty, God--please bless her, let her be happy with herself, and always keep her safe from harm."
I know some people will say I'm not that old... but if you let me tell you my story, you'll understand why I feel that way.
And for some of the ladies out there who are younger, I know you're going through some rough times, too. How can we help you to grow and be confident in yourselves as well, without "talking down" to you? (I personally hate it myself when people older than me try to talk down to me, or when some women who have children dismiss me because they think I know nothing about life just because I haven't had kids yet, so I want to try as hard as possible to never treat someone else that way.)
Guys, too... what are your thoughts?
I'd like to hear from anyone and everyone who is willing to share their experiences and opinions.
There was a little discussion about this a while ago in chat, but I thought I'd also pose the question here: for all you ladies who have been single for some time and are finding that the years are creeping by... how are you feeling about being single? Do you feel more or less discouraged as time goes by? Do you feel you have a closer or more distant relationship with God during this time by yourself?
Something that was brought up in chat is the socially-created feeling that you have to "compete" with younger women to attract a man's attention... Now, I know this isn't what God says of course, but unfortunately, we do live in a world where even the strongest of faith at least occasionally succumb to feelings like this.
Ladies, how do you keep your confidence up? I myself look in the mirror and think, "There is no way I can compete with a 22-year-old." But I try my best to stay as fit and as healthy as possible, not just for dating, but to honor God and be happy with myself.
I have heard some women my age or older say about women who are younger, "Well, they're just little girls... if a man is that desperate that he wants someone so young, that's his problem."
However, I don't think this is what God would want us to say. All of us are beautiful in God's sight and worthy of a positive word. When I see other women, no matter what age or stage in life, I try to always make my prayer be, "She's very pretty, God--please bless her, let her be happy with herself, and always keep her safe from harm."
I know some people will say I'm not that old... but if you let me tell you my story, you'll understand why I feel that way.
And for some of the ladies out there who are younger, I know you're going through some rough times, too. How can we help you to grow and be confident in yourselves as well, without "talking down" to you? (I personally hate it myself when people older than me try to talk down to me, or when some women who have children dismiss me because they think I know nothing about life just because I haven't had kids yet, so I want to try as hard as possible to never treat someone else that way.)
Guys, too... what are your thoughts?
I'd like to hear from anyone and everyone who is willing to share their experiences and opinions.