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Well, I feel like being destined for failure isn't necessarily a bad thing.
I've only been in I'd say 2 relationships that I would have wanted to Succeed in the Long Term.
Its hard.... you know, when you get attached to someone but, I think its better to not be in a relationship than to endure a stupid one, simply because its better than being alone.
I'm single right now and have been for... a bit. BUT, when I'm in a relationship I tend to pour a lot of time energy and effort into getting to know if it has the capacity to work and to last. Which is why my relationships either last about 3 weeks or more than a year. Not a whole lot inbetween.
Also its kind of a CODEPENDANT thing to try and make a terrible relationship work. If you are having to jump through hoops and sing and dance, just for things to be OKAY, how are either of you ever going to be happy? Making someone else happy is impossible if their internal compass doesn't point naturally to being happy.
I've only been in I'd say 2 relationships that I would have wanted to Succeed in the Long Term.
Its hard.... you know, when you get attached to someone but, I think its better to not be in a relationship than to endure a stupid one, simply because its better than being alone.
I'm single right now and have been for... a bit. BUT, when I'm in a relationship I tend to pour a lot of time energy and effort into getting to know if it has the capacity to work and to last. Which is why my relationships either last about 3 weeks or more than a year. Not a whole lot inbetween.
Also its kind of a CODEPENDANT thing to try and make a terrible relationship work. If you are having to jump through hoops and sing and dance, just for things to be OKAY, how are either of you ever going to be happy? Making someone else happy is impossible if their internal compass doesn't point naturally to being happy.
I dont believe t #destined# to anything. Buildig SOMETHING takes time and effort. The more we like to build it hemore we work to kep it or nurture it. If some doesnt find what she*he likes or needs, she*he will to accomplish that emotional or physical goal she*he longs for. .
Im learning from experience and like reading from oters life. There is a book I like: The encyclopedia of the Christian marriage. It{s old,but still helping me.
Im learning from experience and like reading from oters life. There is a book I like: The encyclopedia of the Christian marriage. It{s old,but still helping me.
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If a relationship is "destined to fail", by definition wouldn't it be a wrong relationship for you in the first place?
If that is the case, seems like the must successful way to not fail in a relationship would be to prayerfully make the wisest choice you can with regard to any prospective relationship. Take your time and not enter into it lightly.
If that is the case, seems like the must successful way to not fail in a relationship would be to prayerfully make the wisest choice you can with regard to any prospective relationship. Take your time and not enter into it lightly.
C
From what i've seen many couples get together before they're ready, especially with marriage. Also, there are many couples who get together before one or both of them get saved. Those relationships mostly fail...
What I can't stand is seeing all these teenagers whine about being alone, when so they're so young and have the rest of their lives to find someone. They need to relax...
The major things are dealing with yourself and your relationship with God before ending up with someone. In my opinion that helps relationships have a better chance at actually succeeding.
What I can't stand is seeing all these teenagers whine about being alone, when so they're so young and have the rest of their lives to find someone. They need to relax...
The major things are dealing with yourself and your relationship with God before ending up with someone. In my opinion that helps relationships have a better chance at actually succeeding.
D
My opinion is that people generally only hook up because they enjoy the way being with a particular person makes them feel.....Love is not about always feeling happy with a person all the time.......When that unrealistic expectation is shattered......people tend to move on to the next person looking for something that doesn't exist. Usually the only couples that "get it" are older people (At least in their 30's).
I could give you a list of people who do this very thing.
And about codependency... to a point, all people are codependent. However, here's where it gets ugly. When you are dead set on denying yourself (to the point of being miserable) to "make" someone love you. It's more than just "oh, well, you want to have steak tonight, so that's what I'll fix." Most cases of codependency lie within the female psyche, however, there are men who are codependent as well.
Personally, I'm not codependent. But many of my friends are, and then they wonder why they're miserable in their relationships. This is one of the biggest reasons relationships fail. People don't know who they are and invent the personality of the person they're dating (or married to).
Some people just want to do their duty, have babies, work and complain about the whole experience. They are miserable people who want to be miserable with someone else too, while they both focus on Nurturing some project, like raising children, they never find joy or even seem to want to.
But they don't want to be alone, so they marry someone unplugged and hard working just like themselves, so they can both be miserable together.
But they don't want to be alone, so they marry someone unplugged and hard working just like themselves, so they can both be miserable together.
In regards to the OP, I'd have to agree with some other posters here that lack of communication, lies, lack of God at the center of the relationship, etc. are all true, but also because some view relationships/dating so flippantly.
"Hey, you think I'm cute and I think you're cute, you like whales and I like whales too!! Let's get together!!!" People start these relationships without truly knowing who it is they are getting into a relationship with.
"Hey, you think I'm cute and I think you're cute, you like whales and I like whales too!! Let's get together!!!" People start these relationships without truly knowing who it is they are getting into a relationship with.
