Would you date someone who is not a Christian?

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buckeyegirl700

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I know that this sounds like a stupid question, But I am curious to hear what people has to say about this topic. I have been single for a while and when I go to church I meet people who are married and have families, or they do not want to date girls who have kids and an ex. Since I have been saved I wanted to meet a guy who is a christian, and will except my past. I met an incredible guy who excepts my past but he is not a Christian. He said he believes in God but he does not go to church or read the Bible. I am curious to hear what others would do?
 
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grace

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This is an easy one......Nope! God provides for all needs in His perfect timeing as part of His perfect plan.
 
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Jezreel

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I love your smile and you have such a pretty sweet face and one day God will bring along a guy who is going to love you and be to you more than you could ever have imagined. Just be patient and be in the Lord and have fun seeking God and allow God to have the job of bringing him to you. Just as God is working on your right now, there is that man God has chosen for you that God is working on him too and when he brings you together, you will instantly recognize one another.
 
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Matthew

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buckeyegirl700 said:
Since I have been saved I wanted to meet a guy who is a christian, and will except my past. I met an incredible guy who excepts my past but he is not a Christian. He said he believes in God but he does not go to church or read the Bible. I am curious to hear what others would do?
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This is one of the issues I continue to struggle with, my faith is not strong anymore and has not been for some time but I still live a christian lifestyle and continue to be open to the possiblity that one day my faith might be restored fully.

I wll confess to not knowing what the bible says on this issue but we are all a work in progress at some point in our lives and it disturbs me to think that a christain woman might reject me just because at the time of our meeting I was struggling with some issues as we all do at some point, if these kinds of doubts arose within a marriage a couple woud work through them, so why not in the early stages of a relationship.

I don't believe everyone's intended mate will come to them a fully commited christian, I have always believed that we are brought together to help that happen, I find it hard to get by each day knowing that just because I am a little lost right now I might never be found by the right woman because she is, in terms of faith, waiting for the finished article, I don't believe there is any such thing.
 
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ariannaaa

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I agree with Grace =) don't be too eager, girl. there are Christian men out there who will also accept your past- its just all in God's timing, not ours.

In the bible God commands the Israelites not to marry people who are 'unequally yoked,' or not Christians. This isn't an arbitrary command, God knows whats best for us. In Isaiah he calls you precious in His sight, and He wants you to marry a man who will love you and spiritually lead you like His Word commands.

This guy may be a good guy overall, but he has no foundation for his morals. As soon as circumstances arise that may tempt Him to act in a dishonoring way- he won't have Christ as his anchor to pull him back the way a Christian man would.

While waiting for God to send you the right man, work on yourself! Ask God to mold you into a Proverbs 31 woman so that when you do meet your Godly-future-husband, he'll see Christ in you immediately.

You're beautiful and don't worry about someone not accepting your past. Any man would be lucky to have you!

Good luck :)
 
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ariannaaa

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Matthew said:
I wll confess to not knowing what the bible says on this issue but we are all a work in progress at some point in our lives and it disturbs me to think that a christain woman might reject me just because at the time of our meeting I was struggling with some issues as we all do at some point, if these kinds of doubts arose within a marriage a couple woud work through them, so why not in the early stages of a relationship.
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Hi Matthew :). I think that it would be reasonable to not begin a relationship while someone's faith was weak or one was doubting God in anyway. Not that a christian shouldn't talk to or get to know someone like that, but to commit onesself to a relationship with an individual in that position wouldn't be the best idea, in my opinion.

I Corinthians 7:34-35 says, "There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world- how she may please her husband. And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction."

I love that passage! I think God loves when we are single. It gives us the opportunity to serve Him and grow in Him without the distraction of having to serve a spouse! Not to make serving a spouse sound like a burden, but I think that if we cannot be content in serving the Lord without the distraction of a spouse.. then we are not going to grow in our walk with the Lord WITH the distraction of a spouse.

I hope this wasn't discouraging in anyway. I'll be praying that you grow in your faith. =)
 
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sweet_eyes

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nope, God tells us not to be unequally yoked. He also says s house divided can not stand.
 
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Leilaii425

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No, i would not date someone who wasnt a christian. However i would date someone who raised emus as pets.
 
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kiwi_OT

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I know exactly how you feel...
I ended a 3 year relationship a good while ago becasue I finally clicked how spiritually unhealthy it was making me ( he wasnt a christian obviously). I still think of the guy with respect but when I ended it I honestly thought to myself - what good christian man would want me now? Ive repented and feel forgiven for that past but Ive started to ask myself how Im going to do it properly this time.
I know the temptatation you are feeling, your lonely, and some men at your church are being a bit narrow minded. It sucks. But hang in there.. Dont date this guy. He sounds like a friend of mine and also of my brother who say their believers but only in name. You want a man to support and encourage you in your personal bible study and your involvement at church. How will he do this if hes not even seeking to further his own relationship with God? How can you believe in God yet dont read the bible? He must have invented his own version of God or something.. No offense
 
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bigfatsasquatch

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I fell in love with someone who was not a Christian. I can definitely say that I will NEVER get involved with a non Christian again. Love is the strongest power known to man so I tried until I couldn't try anymore to make it all work. It failed. I tried to walk towards God and she felt like an anchor.

You want a man that is committed to you AND God. Really God then you then himself. When the little quirks of that special someone become annoyances and intimacy is replaced by stress, disagreements and money issues... is the commmittment to each other going to be enough?? Especially when the Evil One throws temptation into the blender.

As ariannaaa said "He has no foundation for his morals" There are many "good" non Christian people out there but there are also a ton of non Christians that live in this American society of SELF. We hold ourselves to higher morals and values. WHY?? To please the author of life.

Matthew.... I love your honesty. I think that is all you need to worry about as far as a relationship with a woman is concerned. If you are not a Christian rockstar right now just be honest with it..... let the woman decide if she wants to be with you. I too went through a dark place in my spiritual walk.
 
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Hey beautiful!!!
My opinion, in short = NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! NEVER EVER!!!!!
Is it cos I think non-Christian guys are bad - NO, there are some guys out there who would make great partners BUT BUT BUT....as tempted as I am (Im 35 and still on the waiting list haha) I would never go out with someone who did not have Christ as their Lord and Saviour.

For 1) We would have different ideals, values and goals,
2) There would be the most significant part of my life he would not understand or I couldnt share with him,
3) Tension cracks would appear eventually, even if the guy says he 'believes' when you are 'committed'
4) I have seen too many of my friends settle for non-Christian men and their Christianity has either suffered greatly or gone out the window completely! Its just not worth the risk!
5) I have seen guys get mad because God is more important than they are....well DUH, thats cos he is!! A non-Christian guy will never get that.

Ahh but what if I could convert him you may think?!?! Not a valid scenario in my opinion. That only happens in the rarest of cases...more often your faith gets dragged down first.

The bible does speak clearly about being unequally yoked.

Believe me, I truly understand the loneliness and longing....but, the man God has for you IS WORTH THE WAIT! Keep praying for him!
God bless sista!
 
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Tegelik

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No. A christian girl would be much more attractive to me than other girls. ;) Besides, I only want to date a person I'm going to get married with.
 
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buckeyegirl700

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Thank you for your compliments Jezreel.
 
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buckeyegirl700

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No offense taken OT. I am going to continue to pray for him.
 
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