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Sharp

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May 5, 2009
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Should a couple have common friends? Is it healthier for them to know a few of the same people and hang out with them together? Or is it perfectly fine to live in complete isolation from anyone but eachother, and maybe each person hangs out with their own friends separately.

I've always heard that its better for couples to have people that they are both friends with, and its possibly unhealthy if they don't, but maybe I've been fed lies. What do YOU think?
 
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Leilaii425

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Cardboard cut outs. Those are the only friends you need.
 
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dustyzafu

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#3
It usually naturally happens that couples start hanging out with other couples. If you have enough free time to go out with friends but aren't spending the better portion of it with your spouse, something is a little odd.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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*laughs at Leilaii* *agrees with her point... on some days...* :)

It's been a LLLOOOONNNGGG time since I've been part of a couple :), but personally, I think I'd like for us to have both our own friends and then friends we can socialize with as a couple. For instance, I have one friend from childhood (I've known her since I was 5--yes, eeeeeoooonnns ago, I was young, ha ha ha) and I've known my current best friend for going on seven years.

One of my personal prayers for my future spouse is that we will like each other's friends and families. I'm not saying it has to be complete harmony and utopian perfection... but just that there is at least general approval and respect... and hopefully a lot of love.
 
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nanabean

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Care to hear from an old married woman?? First off, it's very healthy to have friends outside of each other. There are times when all you need is each other, and there are times when you need others around you as well. There may be times in your life where you go weeks or even a month or so where all you need is each other (newness of relationship can do this, or a tragedy, or trial in your lives) but in general, I'd say each of us needs times with others as well. Sometimes (for a well rounded relationship and indeed life) this means together with another couple, (or several couples and/or friends) and sometimes this means time each with seperate friends. I have a few friends that are single, that I never want to lose touch with, and it is easier to make that a time when I just go out with them by myself, because sometimes I get the feeling that if Papabean is with me, they feel like a third wheel even though I would never want them to feel this way!!! (and neither does Papabean!!!) Also, I love to bowl (not good at it, just enjoy it!) so I am on a woman's bowling league on Tuesday nights...obviously Papabean doesn't join me for that!!

.........hmmmm thinking on this has been good...Looking at my post, I see I can't really say Papabean does alot with friends without me.....maybe I should ask him how he feels about this..?? He is my rock, I always say I thank God for him, and I thank him for my relationship with God, cuz he is the one who really helped me strenghten that connection with our Savior. I love him with everything I have, I'd best talk to him and make sure he has any time he needs to see his friends........
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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Cardboard cut outs. Those are the only friends you need.

*Starts handing cardboard cutouts of herself to her friends.*

Step in line folks... these are limited edition. ;)
 
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Goobywooby

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Cardboard cut outs. Those are the only friends you need.
I prefer my friends to be flexible, so thats why I have friends made out of elastic.
 
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Leilaii425

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I prefer my friends to be flexible, so thats why I have friends made out of elastic.

Elastic snaps... so they can only be but soooooo flexible
 
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ChristopherMichael

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Should a couple have common friends? Is it healthier for them to know a few of the same people and hang out with them together? Or is it perfectly fine to live in complete isolation from anyone but eachother, and maybe each person hangs out with their own friends separately.

I've always heard that its better for couples to have people that they are both friends with, and its possibly unhealthy if they don't, but maybe I've been fed lies. What do YOU think?
It depends on how much personal space each of them need. I think you should be able to be friends with ALL of your significant other's friends, even if you don't hang out with them all the time. If you don't get along with them for personality conflict reasons, you might not be that great of a match with your significant other.

- Topher