All us guys say we want a proverbs 31 woman...all the girls say they want their King David (John, Paul,Peter), yet the strange thing is if you wait until you find 'this biblical standard person you will wait along time...and then it won't matter because we will all be glorified then.
Anyhow what I am saying these are scriptural ideals that we should all try and attain to.
My point is that if your brother or sister is in Christ they are that proverbs 31 woman and that King David/Paul type guy. We are all on a journey a work in progress... and infact that Christian woman who puts Christ first is more than the idea of the proverb and the guy is King david/Paul/John or whoever..
We al have flaws and we all succumb to our sinful nature yet, now and again (maybe even over a period of time.. But the ist of what I am sayng is you can easily tell.. If the person puts Christ first, imitates him...
When we say we want someone like the proverbs woman what we are really saying s that we want perfection..we want someone who won't say something that will hurt. disagree with and the list goes on... that's what we are really saying. Yet in reality..we are all sinful by nature human beings.
stop fantasizing, Look for a partner who is Christ saturated.. Girls look for a guy who will pray for you, read the bible with you, ears the fruit of the Spirit, is willing to study you for your benefit, - Guys look for a lady who is Christ saturated, who will pray with you, who will read the bible with you, who will study you for your benefit...now to both are you willing to be a servant to the other, forsaking your self for their good? if your answer is no then your not in my opinion ready. (by the way I don't mean doing this to perfection..but atleast you should be trying.)
We can pay lip service to forsaking yourself for the other....but in practice do we do it... do we do it at work..do we do it at home, do we do it at church?? if not then you most certainly won't for your future partner... you need to change... God can bring that change about.
I often hear and especially from married couples.. 'I like my independence'. Now I know its nice to get a break from each other now and again. but that is not independence - you need to be co-dependant. Please think about this carefully..are you sure you do not mean 'oh well, I like security of being married but I also like being single minded also (or along those lines)', that is not healthy and is a modern secular mindset.
If you have an over realized view of what your future spouse will be like, then how will you handle life's problems when they come rolling in..and believe me..they will? (Yes, I know people like to dream of a future partner...but I'm referring to their character as a Christian).
I have had a few years to mull over this and basically that's my conclusion.
Anyhow what is your thoughts?
Anyhow what I am saying these are scriptural ideals that we should all try and attain to.
My point is that if your brother or sister is in Christ they are that proverbs 31 woman and that King David/Paul type guy. We are all on a journey a work in progress... and infact that Christian woman who puts Christ first is more than the idea of the proverb and the guy is King david/Paul/John or whoever..
We al have flaws and we all succumb to our sinful nature yet, now and again (maybe even over a period of time.. But the ist of what I am sayng is you can easily tell.. If the person puts Christ first, imitates him...
When we say we want someone like the proverbs woman what we are really saying s that we want perfection..we want someone who won't say something that will hurt. disagree with and the list goes on... that's what we are really saying. Yet in reality..we are all sinful by nature human beings.
stop fantasizing, Look for a partner who is Christ saturated.. Girls look for a guy who will pray for you, read the bible with you, ears the fruit of the Spirit, is willing to study you for your benefit, - Guys look for a lady who is Christ saturated, who will pray with you, who will read the bible with you, who will study you for your benefit...now to both are you willing to be a servant to the other, forsaking your self for their good? if your answer is no then your not in my opinion ready. (by the way I don't mean doing this to perfection..but atleast you should be trying.)
We can pay lip service to forsaking yourself for the other....but in practice do we do it... do we do it at work..do we do it at home, do we do it at church?? if not then you most certainly won't for your future partner... you need to change... God can bring that change about.
I often hear and especially from married couples.. 'I like my independence'. Now I know its nice to get a break from each other now and again. but that is not independence - you need to be co-dependant. Please think about this carefully..are you sure you do not mean 'oh well, I like security of being married but I also like being single minded also (or along those lines)', that is not healthy and is a modern secular mindset.
If you have an over realized view of what your future spouse will be like, then how will you handle life's problems when they come rolling in..and believe me..they will? (Yes, I know people like to dream of a future partner...but I'm referring to their character as a Christian).
I have had a few years to mull over this and basically that's my conclusion.
Anyhow what is your thoughts?
