Hot Topic, random advice

[dovey]

Situation is over a decade long...and still undicided, so I thought I would put it to the vote.

Met a boy ten years ago, feel in love with boy 6 years ago, boy had surgery on ear and became addicted to haroin 9 years ago, hid it for most of time, and I got saved 3 years ago 6 months after he proposed, which went sour...Praise God! ...when we originally met we were both kids with big dreams and similar gifts, artist and musician. There was a very strong bond, but we were both going down bad paths and knew it, so the relationship was more of a freindship out of mutual respect for each others battles. I am extremely thankful that God pulled me out of the situation, and horrible hellish pit that He found me in. Jesus is my one true love, and reason for living! I have no need for a husband..and enjoy the time alone that I have with Jesus!...but this boy still weighs on my heart...mostly pitty, he is in such a bad place!! Question is...do I A) pray for God to completely sever that tie on my heart, B) keep praying and occasionally give a word of encouragment when I can (never give up on someone you love kind of thing), or C) ?

I have a call on my life, a great family, work to do, and Jesus!!! so I am great,...but tired of that burdon on my heart....always causes pain to think of him all alone, he has been off street drugs for about a year, but is not exactly any kind of a functioning human being...doctors have him drugged, demons have his mind, and he has been spending about 14 hours a day by himself.......I really did love him, and cant seem not to care? ...but could never marry him!

 

[dovey]

What would Jesus do? what would you do? Please Give Answer!!!!!!

 

[Matthew]

Having loved this man deeply you will always feel a connection to him and that is the way it is meant to be, if he is in a really bad place then the occasional word of encouragement will likely do no good, you know from your own experience that it often takes something significant to pull people out of the darkness, especially if they've been there a long time.

It's hard to be specific without knowing the details but I would say you need to decide if you are going to take a step away, pray for him and hope those involved in his struggle can help guide him out, or you need to commit to becoming a part of his struggle, as a friend, and do anything and everything you can to help him out.

If the Lord saves us so we can help save others then maybe this is something he want's you to do, maybe he know's that you can help him because you've been where he is and you know the way out, that is something only you can decide, but you have to commit to a position and be ready to stay the course. I've been involved with people struggling and like you I've struggled before, the first thing people need is to know people are there and are staying there, doctors always leave.

 

[Silex]

If you have an undying concern for him, then spend some time with God and ask Him to guide you in this. If you see that God is guiding you towards helping your friend, then go to him. Your friendship is what he might be in need of at this time of his life.

You may have doubts and fears about going to him, and so its best to take those things to God in prayer and let Him first work in you, and then you can be encouraged to do what God wants you to do in this situation.

 

[dovey]

Thanks you guys! it is so hard, I have lost all respect for him, and get tired of being hurt and having to forgive...constantly dissapointing, but I feel bad for him....just dont want to waist the rest of my life feeling bad for him

 

[dovey]

and i have a great heart...one that loves greatly and unconditionally....sometimes feels like its being waisted, he has had a decade to do something with himself.....but I cant leave him in a world filled with darkness, even if Iwant to. And I reallly want to! I have turned down so many good men over this...foolishly. Annoying part is, he has no ability to understand what this has cost me. and realize how loved he is.

 

[dovey]

After praying for a bit...God sacrificed so much more for me, and I dont always thank Him...I owe Him everything. And He will honor my sacrifice, only He knows how hard this has been. I will look to Him. and Praise Him for what He has done for me, what is giving up your youth and possibly marriage compared to that....plus He probably has something really good around the next corner...you never know and His Love IS all I really need!...this burden must be for a reason, or He would make it go away....Thank God for all He does for us!!!

 

[coachsteve]

if you have a call on your life, and it has been confirmed by someone of church, especially by a pastor of a strong Godly church, then God should always come first. you don't want to run or let things interfere with a calling of God on your life. not only that, that calling can run out. God wont wait forever. If God is calling you, then He needs to use you and soon. now if you were married this would be more complicated, but you're not. right now pray for your partner, and pray for yourself and ask God what can you do for Him today.

 

[dovey]

amazing advice Steve! will take it! and I have work to do!! thank you!

 

[katbutterfly]

I don't believe this is your burden to carry, it is Jesus'. I would give it all to Him and ask Him to help you when you feel burdened for this man. I do believe that if God leads you to pray for this man while you are in prayer, then do so.

 

[ClimbingUpward]

All of the above. Have the sole ties broken, your pastor of councilor within your church could help you with that. Pray for him. Try to help him come to God, where and if you can. Also, pray, asking God what He wants you to be doing in the situation.