Questioning Motives

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Josh281981

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When I was 20 I was married to a girl I had known my entire life mainly because all my friends where doing the same. The reason we were geting married so young as I talked to them later, was so we/they could have sex. I know the way this world works and how much sex is relished and just another way to "express yourself." I will tell you this when I started dating my now ex-wife we didnt have sex but we did everything else. Before we engaged in those acts we had a plan God give us and it seemed the whole thing got turned around once we took our eye off Him. It resulted in three years of confusion, constant fighting, and ultimately divorce. I truly believe that God would have honored our union, and we would still be married today if in the early stages we would have kept our eye on His plan.
I see on this chat forum alot of despiration to find a "soulmate." My question is are you all acting out of a holy conviction or basic need to just have sex, think about that dont just fire off an answer. I am fully aware our belief system does not allow premarital sex and in my eyes for a very good reason.


Fight the urge and put all you have into the gifts God has instilled in each of us, do this and as you go on that adventure alone you will find a partner who will be more perfect for you anyone you have ever met. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!!!
 
mercyswolf

mercyswolf

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Long and short like yourself I was married for three years and some change effective this coming friday. I too ended up getting married for the wrong reasons and now I believe am going to end up getting divorced for similar. But there again in the end it all comes back to knowing God and having that personal relationship with Him. My now ex wife and I weren't following Christ when we got married and our motives were pure of heart but with the wrong motives. I eventually found Christ in our marriage but from the way I view things it came too late. I tried every avenue to save my marriage but my wife's heart wasn't in it to win it like mine was. I can relate to the motives theory for sure. But I won't question anyone's motives here as their intentions are their own and God knows their heart.
 
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